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Watching "Xiao Min's Family", at first I didn't understand why Xiao Min saw Jin Bo and reacted so calmly? It has been divorced for 14 years, when the scumbag ex-husband came looking for something with a big bag, it should be a big question, but Xiao Min did not, she only looked at it with a little "disgust", and then led Jin Bo aside and asked: How did you come?
It was as if she had expected Jin Bo to come sooner or later, but she didn't expect him to come so quickly.
Jin Bo for Xiao Min, that is, the father of his son Junjun, has been divorced for 14 years, she does not want to have any contact with him, if it is not a son, Xiao Min can throw his face at Jin Bo, but because of the consideration of his son, Xiao Min does not want to hurt him, she still saves enough face for Jin Bo.
Jin Bo is really not a fuel-saving lamp, Xiao Min just went to buy a bottle of water, just left for a few minutes, Jin Bo clashed with the security guards who could become educated. Junjun's sensible child, such a rogue father, is really hard enough.
Jin Bo made such a fuss, so that Li Ping saw Liu Xiaomin's joke enough.
How about Liu Xiaomin's beautiful looks? What about a sensible son, but do you think she has a good life with me Li Ping? And her scumbag ex-husband, how can not compare to my ex-husband Chen Zhuo. Women's jealousy and vanity are small psychological at some point, Li Ping is jealous of Liu Xiaomin, and then she has been compared with Liu Xiaomin behind her back, otherwise she would not have satirized Liu Xiaomin everywhere.
Since seeing Jin Bo, Liu Xiaomin has become even more gloomy, and she has been silent along the way. On the way back, watching her son Junjun sensibly wipe his father's wounds, she was even more bitter. Of course, Liu Xiaomin wants to have nothing to do with the scumbag's ex-husband, but the custody of her son is in her ex-husband, and she can't get rid of her ex-husband anyway, unless she doesn't want her son anymore.
Liu Xiaomin was ashamed of her son, she did not love Jin Bo, but she loved her son, and when her son was 6 years old, she divorced and came to Beijing alone. When her son was 20 years old, her mother was like a stranger, very awkward, not at all natural.
The storm of that year was also something that she and her son could not mention.
The 6-year-old son witnessed his mother being surrounded by everyone, and the storm was a nightmare for Xiao Min, how many years later, he would still have nightmares, or he would sweat with fear. Junjun has a misunderstanding of Xiaomin, the two of them say that they are mother and son, but this relationship is separated by more than one river.
Xiao Min also regretted: "If you can go back to the past, you must fight for the custody of your children." "But Xiao Jie is also right, at that time, you couldn't even take care of yourself, so why did you have to work with your children?" It's so hard for a divorced woman to want custody of her children, but the question is what job would allow her to work with her children at the same time? Xiao Min is also very difficult, the relationship with her son is as it is now, she is also helpless, very weak.
Because of this, considering his son's feelings, Liu Xiaomin did not embarrass Jin Bo.
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"Xiao Min Family": Suddenly understood Liu Xiaomin's soft heart for her ex-husband, everything is just because of her son.
Xiao Min's mother was not angry when she saw Jin Bo, she still protected Xiao Min, watched Xiao Min stay in Jin Bo to eat, and then helped Jin Bo arrange a place to live, she also hated iron and steel, and felt that her daughter was a soft character. Where is Xiao Min helping Jin Bo? Everything was just because of her son, and she didn't want to have a more and more strange relationship with him.
How much does Xiao Min hate her ex-husband Jimbo? It was evident from the fact that she did not want to talk to him that she was ignoring Jimbo's presence, and that after sending him away, she took a wipe and wiped the table again and again.
That marriage was a pain she couldn't mention, and Jin Bo ruined the first half of her life, and if it wasn't for Jin Bo, she wouldn't have fallen into the vortex of the past. An affair? But how ridiculous? She and Teacher Su also exchanged a few letters, how is it an extramarital affair. Although she has no feelings for Jin Bo, she will not do anything about cheating.
Liu Xiaomin has a complaint about her mother, the two of them do not mention that the marriage of that year is fine, as soon as they mention the past, the two people will quarrel.
"You pity him, you pity him, you go and take care of him?"
"That's your ex-husband."
Xiao Min blamed her mother for matching her with Jin Bo, and even more blamed her mother for stopping her from divorcing her, in order not to let her divorce, her mother even hid the marriage certificate and household registration book. Perhaps the mother's original intentions were good, but her behavior seriously hurt XiaoMin.
What about Jin Bo's family? Thirty years of Hedong and thirty years of Hexi, you yourself can't support the wall with mud, and no matter how good your family is, you are in vain. Jin Bo is the son of the "director of the golden factory", but he has been spoiled since he was a child, he is a second-in-a-half, and no matter how big the family business is, he can't withstand his defeat. After the death of the two sons of the director of the Golden Factory, Jin Bo was even more rogue.
The failure of Liu Xiaomin's marriage has also reminded some mothers: Don't let your daughter find any family with a good family, the key is to see who is married? No matter what the family situation is, people can't do it, or they can't stand the family business. Throw your daughter only to the family situation, force her daughter to get married, and in the end she will complain that you ruined her.
Women still have to be cautious when facing marriage, if it is really a rogue man, you are bitter and can't say it.
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Liu Xiaomin very much wants to get rid of the scumbag's ex-husband, but he can't get rid of it, because he is his son's father after all. The son is related to such a muddy father, and he will not be at peace for the rest of his life, unless the scumbag can change from evil to righteousness, but it is too difficult.
Speaking of this, I am reminded of a sentence said by the host Li Ai: "I think the most important decision for a woman may not be what job to find, not where to live, nor what kind of man to marry." I think the most important thing is to find a kind of dad for your children. ”
In her opinion, "the job can be changed, the place can be changed, and even the husband can be changed, but this man, if he is the father of the child, whether you love or hate it in the future, this is something that cannot be changed, he will definitely be the father of your child." ”
I personally think this sentence is quite right, women should have the consciousness of not having children, you have to find a responsible good father for your children, otherwise you will really be very hard. If you are a very bad father in yourself, then we can't change this fact anyway, it is important to help your children find a good father, so you will not work too hard.
It was because Liu Xiaomin had found a rogue husband, which led to the source of his marriage tragedy, which led to his son living in a bad original family from childhood, which led to his subsequent life having to be entangled with such a bad father.
If Jin Bo hurts his son, it is okay to say, but as long as Jin Bo drinks, he will be confused, if it were not for the fact that he owed money to others outside, Junjun would not have failed to enter Tsinghua University. Poor Junjun has such good academic performance, he is about to take the college entrance examination, and he has to play games outside to secretly earn money to help him pay off his debts.
The source of all the tragedies is because of Jin Bo.
After this, Liu Xiaomin's life is not peaceful, Jin Bo still has to stir up for a while, people, in many cases, really afraid of taking the wrong road, once they meet a scumbag, it is really a ruin to ruin their lives, but also to destroy their children's lives. Treat marriage with caution, and help your children choose a good father, which is much more important than finding a good husband. Don't demand how good the conditions are, but at least be right.
Although Liu Xiaomin cares about her son and does not want to fall out with Jin Bo, she is still too soft-hearted.
Women, be cruel, you are not fierce, people when you take soft persimmons to pinch.
If it weren't for the children, how many women would want to have no contact with their ex-husbands after divorce, but because of the children, that sense of proportion is too easy to be pinched, and it is difficult to break clean with the ex-husband, which is too difficult.
Today's topic: After the divorce, do you still have contact with your ex-husband? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.