Before, I realized that I was not a person who was alone, and after dozing off my children into elementary school, my heart became more and more impetuous. I watched other children learn knowledge in advance, while my son was still at a very basic level. I saw that the other children's calligraphy in the third grade had already won the prize, while my son's fifth grade writing was like flying on the grass. Watching other children learn here and there, all kinds of specialties. And my son, in addition to playing, is playing with an innocent look.
Some parents asked me why I didn't sign up for a drama class for my child? Several times I wanted to tell them that the price of the drama class was too high. Some parents ask me why I don't let my children learn to draw and improve their artistic appreciation. I especially want to answer that art is not something that is cultivated and it is a gift. But what good cattle do I have, not to mention children of the same age, my son is not even as good as a child younger than him in every way. So, I was anxious.
When my child was in fourth grade, I was more anxious than ever. Although I did my best to show a casual look, I actually felt Alexander in my heart. Even doubting yourself, you should blame yourself, and you should not naively raise your child from an early age.
The more you think like this, the more autonomous you become. Yesterday I saw Lingling's mother. He took his daughter to various study classes. The little girl herself is very beautiful, and she has learned piano, signed up for dance classes, learned child models, and has eloquence classes, acting classes, and English learning classes.
Lingling's mother is a pure housewife, and the family relies on her husband to make money alone. Nevertheless, they regard educating their children as their main goal in life. On the contrary, a mother like me, compared with others, is simply irresponsible to her children. So I also enrolled my child in a sports class. Entering here, the psychological pressure is even greater. The children here have learned more than Lingling.
Talking to these mothers, people raise children from the beginning of childhood, until the beginning of elementary school and junior high school did not give up. The more I listened to them, the more I felt that the free-range concept was simply misleading people. Seriously, I thought that the "double reduction" policy had rescued a large number of children under great pressure, but in fact it was the wishful thinking of a group of people represented by me personally.
These remarks were posted in the blog in the morning, and here are some of the comments of netizens:
@Piglet ready
Blind anxiety, anxious children are geniuses? If your child is tested out to be a genius abroad, parents will take their child to the hospital and ask the doctor how the child can return to normal. Because in their understanding, as long as the child is a genius, the child's brain development or psychological development must be more or less defective in other aspects. So don't force your child to become a genius.
@Qiqilu
Chinese parents want their children to get ahead, which is a misunderstanding. Because in the past few decades, scientists have made research statistics on outstanding people in various fields and found that they can excel not because their IQ is higher than that of ordinary people, but because they have a tenacious and indomitable spirit.
Seeing the above netizens' messages, I suddenly felt that my willpower was not firm, and perhaps there was nothing wrong with raising children, the focus was on how to cultivate children with good physical and mental qualities.
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