Once upon a time, childbearing has no longer become a natural act of both husband and wife in order to continue love and marriage, but more to bear the expectations of both families, under some pressure, the child has become the report card handed over by the couple to the marriage of both parties, but there is a hidden crisis in such a result.
The birth of a child is more of a reflection of the relationship between a husband and wife, a loving and sweet marriage family can raise and nurture a physically and mentally healthy child, and a marriage with congenital deficiencies, the birth of the child may be a surprise, it may also be an accident, and it may even bring some kind of disaster to both families, and the marriage is also dragged down.
Chen Hui (pseudonym) and Wu Lin (pseudonym) have been married for more than 2 years, but his wife Wu Lin returned to her mother's house after sitting for 28 days and filed a divorce lawsuit on the grounds of discord with her in-laws, which surprised the man's family, and her husband Chen Hui thought that it was full of cats.
Chen Hui said that he and his wife Wu Lin were introduced to each other, after marriage Wu Lin did not speak much, and there was almost no communication with her in-laws, and what made Chen Hui most angry was that After marriage, Wu Lin was very resistant to living as a couple with him, married for more than 2 years but had not given birth to a son and a half daughter, her parents were urging her to hold her grandson, and Chen Hui was embarrassed to confide in her parents.
After intense ideological consideration, Chen Hui proposed to his wife to carry out the so-called "artificial insemination" operation at home, according to Chen Hui, he claimed that this proposal was agreed by his wife at the time, and only 2 months later, Wu Lin became pregnant with the child as desired, but this good news made Chen Hui feel very worried.
Chen Hui said that because they have not had a substantial married life, he has doubts about the child's origins, and it is precisely because of this concern that he said that the child proposed a blood group test after the birth of the child in the hospital, and the proposal was strongly opposed by his wife.
Therefore, after being discharged from the hospital, Wu Lin suddenly returned to her mother's house and filed for divorce after sitting in her in-laws' house for 28 days, and also took away the dowry and some gold jewelry and other items from the original marriage, for his wife's move, Chen Hui was also helpless, he hoped that he could negotiate a divorce, and give the child a paternity test before the divorce.
This request was once again opposed by the woman, and Wu Lin directly sued for divorce, demanding that Chen Hui pay the child's maintenance to adulthood in one lump sum, with a total amount of up to hundreds of thousands of yuan, and at the same time demanding that Chen Hui not visit the child in the future.
In order to dispel the man's doubts, the woman entrusted a private institution to conduct a paternity test, the results showed that the child was the husband and wife's biological flesh and blood, for the identification results, Chen Hui expressed his doubts to the reporter, because this is the institution entrusted by the woman, not the institution that the two people agreed to find.
Chen Hui frankly said that he consulted the relevant medical information and found that the success rate of artificial insemination was only one-third, and it had extremely strict requirements and prerequisites, the success rate of self-at-home was almost negligible, and his wife was so easy to conceive and give birth, he really did not want to believe that this was luck.
Not only that, Chen Hui contacted the forensic appraiser who signed the appraisal results of the appraisal institution many times afterwards, and the appraisal agency either refused to disclose the appraiser's information or said that the institution did not exist in this person, even if he called again in front of the reporter, the agency still said that there was no forensic appraiser That Chen Hui was looking for.
In view of this, Chen Hui's family asked to redo the paternity test and renegotiate the child's visitation issue according to the results of the appraisal, for the man's appeal, Wu Lin's father told reporters on the phone that the man's family is simply unreasonable, the paternity test is unwilling to believe, and they have no reason to persuade.
For why his daughter Wu Lin wanted to divorce, Wu's father said that it was the man's mother who accused her daughter of misconduct, which made her daughter and he feel very angry, for this accusation, Chen Hui's mother denied it, she said that she had almost no direct conflict with her daughter-in-law, the only time was during the confinement of her daughter-in-law.
Mother Chen said that at that time, the daughter-in-law Wu Lin's milk was serious, and the sister-in-law suggested that she could not rub it, and Mother Chen believed that she was a medical worker and had more professional knowledge than the sister-in-law, she criticized the sister-in-law's nonsense, and suggested that the daughter-in-law must rub it herself to avoid the occurrence of milk and mastitis.
It is under this background premise that Wu Lin's mother had a big fight with Chen Hui's mother at that time, in addition to this conflict, the two families did not have any conflict, at this time Wu Lin's father accused his son-in-law Chen Hui of having physical problems on the phone, unable to have sex with his daughter, the responsibility lies with the man, as for the demand to deprive the man of the right to visit the child, it is even more nonsense, Wu Father frankly admitted that this is obviously against the law, they can not do this, just a momentary angry words.
The mediator suggested that the woman re-do a paternity test in order to prove her innocence, but Father Wu categorically rejected the mediator's suggestion, he believed that there was no need to do the paternity test again, and re-doing it would only tarnish the innocence of the daughter, and the last paternity test was conducted under the supervision of the court, which was very authoritative, and it was impossible for him to falsify.
The man's request to be redone again was untenable, and strongly denounced the man for framing the daughter's reputation, and the two sides were unhappy on this issue, and finally Chen Hui's mother said that she could only wait for the woman to return home before making consultations.
Chen Hui and his wife Wu Lin have a heart knot because of the paternity test, and thus triggered the confrontation between the two families, and finally there is no clear result, the man believes that his marriage may be betrayed, while the woman believes that the man is unreasonable, behind the mutual intransigence is not only the child's life problem, but the couple's trust between the two sides.
From the expression of husband Chen Hui, it can be found that the wife does not have any benign interaction with her husband and in-laws after marriage, and it can be seen from this that the couple does not seem to have established a solid emotional foundation, and the maintenance of marriage is only dependent on the inertia of concepts, which is obviously a form of marriage in a sub-healthy state.
If there is no communication and exchange in marriage, then the problems of both parties will be hidden in the heart, there is no opportunity to be exposed, and there is no possibility of being solved, interaction is an indispensable premise for the existence of a benign marriage, as both men and women should pay attention to it and bravely take the first step.
Because of the loosening of the emotional foundation of both husband and wife, having children seems to be only to meet the wishes of the elderly on both sides in the eyes of the two, and the wife Wu Lin's resistance to the conjugal life is even more incredible, marriage certainly needs feelings, but if there is no combination of water and milk, such a marriage believes that there will be dissatisfaction and doubts in the hearts of anyone.
What can surprise people is that in order to meet the wishes of her parents to hold their grandchildren, husband Chen Hui actually took the so-called "artificial insemination" method at home privately, which not only violated medical common sense, it is easy to have personal hidden dangers, but also made this marriage become a real thing, since the husband and wife are no longer in love, then even if they give birth to children, what can they do?
We often think that the child is the crystallization of love, is the bond that maintains the feelings of both sides, but this is not without premise, the child is only born in a loving family environment, his growth can be guaranteed, he will not carry the burden of history, and parents will have more intersection because of the birth of small lives.
However, when the procreation of offspring has become a task, when the husband and wife regard having children as a cold thing, then there is already a hidden crisis, the husband's questioning, the wife's rebuttal, around the birth of the child, the two sides have erupted in the situation of divorce, the marriage is inherently insufficient, and the day after tomorrow's premature death is also reasonable.
I hope that the parties can properly resolve their marriage disputes at the same time, we should also take a good look at ourselves and each other before stepping into the marriage hall, marriage should be a natural thing, against their own will or just wishful thinking, in addition to completing the task when there will be a moment of ease, the final will only bring a lifetime of disaster.
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