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The epidemic situation is menacing, and many places are unpredictable.
Every time the epidemic causes widespread control, many people have to stay at home for a long time, which will always bring a wave of divorce peaks from the Civil Affairs Bureau.
Like the local ZF, intimacy is also untestable, since the outbreak of the epidemic in early 2020, the introduction of the cooling off period has not successfully curbed the divorce "impulse" of urban couples, and the divorce rate in many places has not decreased but has risen.
Not to mention more, less knotted. The Ministry of Civil Affairs announced it last month
"Civil Affairs Statistics for the 4th Quarter of 2021"
Shown, last year only
7.636 million
Couples registered their marriages, a new low since 1986.
Image source: Network
Carefully observing the people around us, it is not difficult for us to find that in the 80-90 generations of marriage, they often do not marry because of "not bad money", and they have a good life; but when they want to divorce, they are often inseparable from various money disputes.
Behind these phenomena, they are closely related to the structure of household income.
So the question is, in the end in the intimate relationship, what is the difference between the income of men and women, and life can be the happiest?
Today to give you a detailed disk.
Big S and Wang Xiaofei's divorce news has been broadcast to the fifth season.
Netizens commented on the relationship between the two, most of which believed that cultural differences led to a not-so-good ending, but in fact, this was not the case, and many people ignored the problem of unequal "ability" between the two people.
Female celebrities and rich second generations seem to be quite a matching intimate relationship, but it is often rare to have a good ending. When Big S and Wang Xiaofei got married, food, clothing, housing and transportation seemed to be in the same class, but there was an important point that was easily overlooked:
Big S's life is his own teenager debut step by step, Wang Xiaofei's life is struggle, the two people's ability is completely incompatible.
Source: Perfect Relationship
After all, if you want to consider the income problem when it comes to falling in love, you must first figure out how the "income" of TA comes from.
I have a colleague, born in 95, the work ability is average, but the person is very beautiful, called herself "haenyeo", who has emotional problems in the office to consult her, live dashing and frank, the year before suddenly fell in love. The object of love is met in the gym, is with her a trainer trainee, the coastal area of the rich second generation.
At that time, we all felt that her love was unreliable, and it was estimated that it was another three or two days, after all, the two people's economic situation was very different, and they lived for a long time.
"It's easy not to talk together"
。
As a result, this year they are going to get married, and the friends around them have reacted, and they are actually quite suitable.
Where does it fit? It is
"Equal Ability"
。
Source: "The First Half of My Life"
It seems that the boy's economic conditions are much better than the girl's, but no point of this money is earned by himself, except for eating, drinking and having fun, he is almost not good at anything, which is completely matched with the ability of our female colleagues.
So how to say, to see the income to see the essence, that is, to track the source.
The property held by a person is not entirely representative of his "income" and level of ability.
As long as two people's "ability" is not bad, and they appreciate each other, even if they are slightly off with reincarnation or other luck, there is a high probability that they can live well.
Of course, this combination of folk beauty and rich second generation, gender is difficult to reverse.
At present, it is still difficult to see the combination of folk handsome men and the second generation of female rich people, and it is not known whether there are too few handsome men in the folk, or the reason why the second generation of female rich people generally has stronger working ability.
Once the concept of "income" is finalized, the next step is the question of how the gap is measured.
Observing the most "huge disparity" in income between the two families around me, but the relatively good feelings, they are the same kind of combination, that is, the hottest at the moment
"Hand in hand inside and outside the system"
。
One of my relatives, a female lawyer, does civil and commercial affairs, earns about two or three million a year, has been married to her graduate classmates for many years, and her husband's income may be less than one-fifth of her income, but life has been quite good.
So what is his husband doing? Judge of a court in Beijing.
In fact, the judge's husband didn't help her much in her business, but a lot in life.
Source: The Form of the Family
As we all know, although the income in the system is not particularly high, but the hidden welfare is readily available, whether it is the elderly to see a doctor, the children go to school, rely on the husband to contribute, the wife to pay.
The judge unit also tried to divide his room several times, but due to the request to extend the service period, the two of them discussed it and still refused, feeling that there was no need to lose more choices for a welfare house.
In the couple's example, the husband's "low income" relative to his wife is not due to unequal ability, but to a different working environment.
At present, in the cities with high housing prices in the north, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, this hand-in-hand combination, high and low, has become a hot combination.
The logic behind this is that the difference in income between partners due to different "tracks" does not cause problems for feelings.
You earn millions a year in Beijing, and your spouse can be promoted to a deputy office at the age of 35, which can be called the dragon and phoenix among people, but the choice is different, and it is natural to be together for a hundred years.
In the same way, you earn 300,000 yuan a year in second-tier cities, and your spouse can be admitted to the civil servants in the main urban area from nine to five, that is also the "best" among the same age, the elderly on both sides have to laugh and blossom, who earns more here, who has a stable job, it does not matter, as long as you are of equal ability and have similar interests.
Existence is reasonable, universal existence is the truth, to paraphrase the logic of the chief designer of reform and opening up, this kind of hand-in-hand family, that is, black cats and white cats grasp with both hands, it is difficult to think badly.
Source: "Not Married"
In China, men earn more than women, which is a universal truth.
This is true in the workplace, but also in the family, because women and men of equal ability are really not easy to earn as much money. Even in 2020, the "2021 China Workplace Gender Pay Difference Report" released by BOSS Direct Employment still shows that the average wage of women in China's urban employment group
6847 yuan
, lower than males
31.8%
。
Families where men earn much more than women, are they all like those written in the TV series?
"Fragmented"
this?
Not necessarily.
Source: "The Man Who Can't Get Married"
There was a male leader in my unit who married his eight-year-old wife, but the two had colleagues in the same profession.
After marriage, although the wife changed the unit in order to avoid suspicion, she can still play a certain auxiliary role in the husband's work.
As a junior in the same industry, the leader's wife also admires him very much, which makes his value at home not only a tool to make money, but a professional role model.
In the process of getting along with husband and wife, no one needs to "act", and the other party can fill the emotional value.
Source: Naoki Hanzawa
Overall, families with higher male and lower incomes, this category is often OK -
Men are older than women, but women have some knowledge of men's jobs.
In short, the husband earns the money that is within the wife's cognitive range.
The wife has not yet earned, but she is not old enough, unlucky, and the family burden is too heavy, not incomprehensible.
Therefore, it is not difficult to understand why many rich generations who open factories like to choose female accountants in the factory when they get married. Such "strong men and weak women" are indeed more stable than full-time housewives who know nothing about their husbands' work.
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In the past, some folk survey data said that between husbands and wives, the husband's income is 1.5 times that of the wife, and the happiest life.
Whether such a conclusion is valid today, the divorce office of the Marriage Registry has not published the results of the investigation.
But from the above examples, it can at least be seen that in terms of income, whether it is "high male high and female low" or "high female low male", or more commonly, evenly matched, as long as both sides have enough "dialogue ability", they can live well.
So in turn, let's see,
"A Bad Family"
What are the portraits?
The most common, I am afraid, is the cheating high-income husband vs the full-time housewife who complains, and the low-income couple who complains to each other.
At the end of the day, the groups with the highest divorce rates are still concentrated in those whose income disparities are so large that they cannot understand each other and end up with nothing to say; or the partners of poor couples whose incomes are not ideal, and the poor couples are Pepsi.
Source: Woman on the Ramp
This is also inevitable, after all, Mr. Lu Xun said in 1923 in "What Happens After Nala Left":
"Dreams are good; otherwise, money matters. Human beings have a big disadvantage, that is, they are often hungry. In order to remedy this shortcoming, to prepare for the non-puppetry, economic rights are of the utmost importance in the present society.
First, there should be an equal distribution of men and women at home; second, equal power should be gained in society. ”
In other words, in any intimate relationship, money is important, although it is not necessarily "the more the merrier", but the more the merrier.
So, in the end, in today's economic environment, I still recommend that you try your best to make money, so as to improve your ability to talk to people, but also to make you more comfortable in the intimate relationship with your partner.
Source: "The Man Who Can't Get Married"
What's more, you and I both know that the current income is high and low, and sometimes it is the change between the first line. As long as you can still see each other, you may as well hug each other together to resist various pressures.
Even if it is only when sealing and controlling, grabbing multiple helpers is also good.
*All content of "Blanket Pan Money" is a personal opinion, only for the purpose of exchanging personal ideas and sharing knowledge, and does not constitute any investment advice or reference. The market is risky, investment needs to be cautious, please combine the personal financial situation, independent decision-making.
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