For parents, no matter what time they are, they will put their children first. Parents always pay attention to every stage of their children's growth, and they are always afraid of what problems their children have.
The neighbor's child is two years old this year and is a very lively boy.
He was very naughty, and after learning to walk, he always ran around, and he could always appear on the street.
He is also a small pistachio, and the fairy tales he speaks can always make adults laugh.
But not long ago, the neighbor was very troubled, she complained to us, the child recently went out always have to hug, cry without hugging, do not know what is going on.
In the past, when children went to a strange place, they all liked to walk around and look around, but now they always want to nest in their mother's arms, which is very confusing.
At first, the neighbor thought that the child was just lazy, and he got angry with the child. Later, when the neighbor saw the child hiding from a "grandfather", he knew that the child was afraid.
In fact, parents sometimes have preconceived not the child's real thoughts, but just the parents' own speculations.
There are several reasons why babies have to walk and hug
First, the phased response. In the process of children's slow growth, at each stage, children will have different psychological performances.
At the beginning of the child's walking, it is very exciting, but in the later stages, there is a period of time when they do not want to walk, which is a normal reaction of the stage.
Second, the manifestation of insecurity. When children are insecure, they will especially rely on their own people, mainly parents.
Through the embrace of their parents, they can feel the concern for themselves, and their psychological security will be satisfied.
Third, there is fear. When children are young, they are mostly very timid, when they see a "strange person" on the road, when they hear someone tell someone else about a scary thing, when a snake suddenly appears on the road, the child will have a fear psychology.
Children are afraid and will naturally seek shelter, and the parents around them are their emotional support.
Fourth, the clothes are uncomfortable to wear. After learning to walk, children like to run on the ground. But if the child is not running comfortably, it is natural to want to let the parents hold it.
Children are uncomfortable in the process of walking, basically it is related to the child's clothing, such as: pants are too hard, walking will grind legs; shoes do not fit, walking foot pain and so on.
Fifth, the body is easily tired. The child is young, the body itself is very tired, especially when playing outside, the child runs around, jumps around, moves this, plays with that, and soon the physical strength is exhausted.
At this time, the child will subconsciously ask the parents for a hug. This is also understandable, after all, adults do not want to move after a day of work, let alone such a young child.
What should parents do when a child asks for a hug?
First, do not directly refuse your child's request. Many parents will feel angry when their children ask for hugs, and in their view, this is a manifestation of their children's laziness and should be rejected directly.
In fact, there are many reasons why children want to hug, and parents cannot blindly draw conclusions, otherwise they may hurt their children's hearts.
Parents should first understand why the child should be hugged and give the child a certain amount of comfort, rather than directly rejecting.
Second, communicate with your child. After the child can walk, the weight has also increased to a certain extent, they are no longer just born of the small, there is no weight, then the parents holding the child will feel very tired, it is difficult to persist for a long time.
Children are very considerate of parents, if parents communicate with children, tell children that they are tired, children will still be very obedient.
After the child learns to walk, he still wants to let him hug, nothing more than the above reasons, bao parents should pay attention.
When the child asks for a hug, parents should pay attention to the child's emotions, give the child comfort, do not directly refuse the child's request, and can guide the child by means of communication.