In some second-child families, daughters are often more sensible than sons, and they will be more filial to their parents, but some elderly people always squander their daughters' filial piety at will, and then form the phenomenon of "nibbling on women".
In families with both sons and daughters, the phenomenon of "nibbling on women" is gradually spreading
Ms. Liu is the eldest sister in the family, there is a younger brother below, 3 years younger than herself, now Ms. Liu and her brother have been married, have their own family, life is relatively good, but when they mention their own affairs, Ms. Liu will not show her eyebrows.
Last year, Ms. Liu's mother was hospitalized due to illness, and lived in the hospital for two or three months, during which Ms. Liu came to take care of it, and if she encountered a situation where she could not open her body, she would also ask a nurse to take care of her temporarily, while her brother almost never came, and occasionally came, which also said that the work was hurried to leave.
Ms. Liu feels that the same is the child, the brother's approach is too much, even if busy, make a phone call every day to ask about the situation, take advantage of the holidays to come and chat with the elderly, the result is that the money is not out, the strength is not out, which makes Ms. Liu very unbalanced.
In the process of taking care of her mother, Ms. Liu once asked her mother: "Why didn't your brother come, you were not disappointed at all, and you never asked your brother to take care of or visit?" The mother told her: "It is enough to take care of these things in front of you, the daughter is more sensible and caring than the son, and the son will add to the chaos when he comes." ”
Hearing these words, Ms. Liu's heart was very unhappy, and at that moment, Ms. Liu felt that what she did was justified in the eyes of her mother, and her brother's filial piety, her mother did not care at all, and even would understand.
In fact, situations like Ms. Liu are very common in life, and the older generation always feels that having a man in the family is considered complete.
Most likely, in the case of the first child being a daughter, the second child chases a son, plus some elderly people prefer sons to daughters, and there are differences in the treatment of children, which further promotes the emergence of "nibbling women".
What factors affect the emergence of "nibbling women"?
1, the daughter is more intimate
This is determined by physical advantages, women generally mature psychologically earlier than men, which is why daughters gradually grow up to be more sensible and careful than sons.
Therefore, parents are more inclined to let their daughters help themselves, and after a long time, they are accustomed to being helped and honored by their daughters, and some parents who do not know themselves will even make more requests to their daughters to meet their needs on this basis.
2. Parents' preference for their sons
In some patriarchal families, the situation of "nibbling on women" will be relatively obvious, parents have a preference for their sons, and naturally do not want to cause trouble for their sons in life.
Therefore, as long as there is a problem in the family, parents will look for their daughters at the first time, and if the son needs help in some things, such parents will even ask their daughters for help without restriction.
3. The impact of the social environment
In contemporary times, women are becoming increasingly independent, not only pursuing careers, but also holding financial power in the family. Men work hard, have no time to filial piety in front of their parents, and the money is all controlled by their wives.
Therefore, it is unlikely that you want to honor your parents through the material aspect. In contrast, these women who are in charge of the family economy may not have time for busy careers, but they can completely fulfill filial piety through material aspects, so it is easier for parents to nibble on their daughters in comparison.
4, the daughter is willing to be chewed in order to win attention
Some elderly people are influenced by traditional concepts and feel that their daughters are other families when they marry people, and how to live in the future depends on their daughters themselves, and there is no need for the mother's family to continue to pay attention.
In order to win the attention of their parents, some daughters will do their best to honor their parents, and they are eager for their parents to pay attention to her and recognize her, but in fact, this does not make the parents feel pleased, and eventually forms a situation where the daughter is willing to be chewed and the parents become more intense.
There is a responsibility on the shoulders of children, and it is very important to do their duty well, even if the result is not satisfactory, as long as it is worthy of their own hearts.
What do you think about "nibbling women"?