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For many parents, it is very important to make rules for their children at the right time, but in family education, if there are elderly people in the family to take care of their children, then many of the principles of parents will be challenged.
For example, parents advocate that children eat independently, but the elderly always insist on feeding out of concern, parents hope that children can look less at mobile phones, but the elderly always secretly break the principle because of connivance... As a result, the parenting path of parents will become very difficult.
Not long ago, a bao mother in Hefei, Anhui Province, encountered such a situation.
The 3-year-old boy argues to sleep with his grandmother, his mother uncovers the "little secret", and the comment area is noisy
On a social platform, a mother shared a family routine, and the son's performance in the video attracted the attention of many netizens.
Bao Ma's son is 3 years old this year, usually sleep with his parents, but one night suddenly resolutely want to sleep with his grandmother, in order to achieve the goal, the boy also used a big trick: crying!
Although she felt strange, Bao Mom did not stop her son in the end, promising him that he could sleep with Grandma at night.
However, the child still can't fight the old mother after all, after washing and going to bed, Bao Mom came to a surprise inspection, she opened the quilt of the grandchildren, and sure enough, she found her son's "little secret"!
It turns out that the reason why the child wants to sleep with grandma is because grandma promised that she could secretly play with her mobile phone in the bed!
After being discovered by his mother, the boy smiled embarrassedly, but his small hand always held the mobile phone tightly and did not want to be taken away by his mother.
Although it is a very daily scene, the behavior of the elderly conniving with children still pokes at many parents, and the comment area is constantly talking about it.
Some netizens bluntly said that the temper of this mother is too good, if you see the old man conniving with the child like this, you will definitely lose your temper on the spot.
Netizens also suggested that Bao Mom make house rules at home, after all, a tube child, a habitual child, the child's education will not be ideal.
"Children must stop the mobile phone in time, otherwise it will be difficult to get it back from the mobile phone now in the future."
"The old man with the baby is really like this, there is no principle to make people very angry, my children are all brought by myself after the age of 3."
"Many elderly people do not know the so-called love of children, in fact, it is really harming children, parents must stop it when they see it, and they cannot continue to get used to it."
Afterwards, Bao Mom also responded to this.
She said that the mother-in-law is also kind enough to help her share the burden of the child, but after all, it is the older generation, young people can not use our thoughts to influence them, the mother-in-law has always been very good to herself, and she will also convey everyone's suggestions to the mother-in-law.
On the road to parenting, when encountering the elderly who are over-spoiled, how should parents cope?
As we all know, due to blood ties, many elderly people have over-pampered their grandchildren.
The so-called excessive pampering is not to indulge the child in situ, and even to confront the principles formulated by the child's parents. So when we encounter such an old man, how should we deal with it?
First, children's attitude towards their parents needs to be gentle and firm. When it is found that parents spoil their children without principle, children should not escalate parenting contradictions to family conflicts, and should maintain due respect for parents.
If a family war breaks out because of different parenting opinions, then a discordant family atmosphere is of no benefit to the child and other family members.
Second, in addition to being gentle, we should also act very firmly. Can't change the order, let alone break their own principles, young people should use a firm attitude to tell the elderly the importance of parents to abide by the principles in the process of parenting.
Finally, if family members have different opinions about educating their children, the whole family can communicate to develop some guidelines that everyone agrees on, and organize these guidelines into text and paste them on the wall as a reminder.
When we list some principled things in black and white, the elderly will pay more attention to them.
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