Mrs. Cui is 91 years old this year, and she has always coughed and had a fever for a while, so she told her 61-year-old son, Mr. Yu. Mr. Yu took his mother to a nearby clinic to get some medicine to treat a cold, but after Mrs. Cui took the medicine, she did not see well.
Mr. Yu took his mother to the big hospital for treatment, and after the doctor asked about the condition, he suggested that Mrs. Cui be tested for blood to see if she was suffering from AIDS or syphilis. Fortunately, the doctor said this, and if someone else had said it, Mr. Yu would have definitely turned his face to him. Mr. Yu said to the doctor: "It has been more than 20 years since my father died, my mother is 91 years old, she usually lives alone, how can she get such a disease?" ”
Although Mr. Yu was unwilling, he finally gave his mother a blood test, and as soon as the test report came out, Mr. Yu was surprised: his mother really suffered from AIDS!
It turned out that Mrs. Cui had lived alone for a long time and was very lonely, so she took in some homeless people, one could find a companion, and the other could also charge some of their fees to increase their income. Of the few homeless people she took in as 60 years old, two or three had asked to have sex with her. That's how she got aids.
The 91-year-old woman infected with AIDS has aroused people's attention, of course, it has also caused people to discuss, some people say that this old woman is disrespectful to the old. In fact, this reflects a social prejudice, the sex and love of the elderly is a legitimate need, this need has been ignored and suppressed for a long time, and the result of neglect and repression is to cause mental pain to the elderly living alone, and also produce negative problems such as AIDS.
There is a blind date corner for the elderly in Beijing's Changpuhe Park, and many elderly people living alone go there to find their other half. The existence of this blind date angle has its own rationality, of course, this is not to say that the blind date angle is a pure land, at least its existence shows that the sex and love of the elderly have been recognized by society to a certain extent.
So what is the story of changpu river in Beijing?
1. Mr. Hu's love story
Chen Xiaonan's variety show "Talking to Strangers" once made a special program to report on the blind date of the elderly in Beijing's Changpuhe Park, and interviewed a retired worker surnamed Hu.
This Mr. Hu is 62 years old and his lover has been dead for many years. When Mr. Hu's lover was alive, he was weak and sick, suffering from heart disease, high blood pressure and diabetes, although the husband and wife had a good relationship, but because his wife had been bedridden for many years, there was no sex life between the two, and the couple slept in separate rooms for a long time. His wife could not live a conjugal life, but Mr. Hu's health was very good, and his physical needs were not met for a long time.
Because the husband and wife have a good relationship, plus Mr. Hu is a principled person, he has not abandoned his wife for many years, and he has always been loyal to his wife.
During his wife's hospitalization, Mr. Hu almost grew up in the hospital, and he did not come home for a long time, and he did not even know where he lived. Mr. Hu's care for his wife can be said to be meticulous, at the time of his wife's death, his wife can no longer speak, he knows that his lover is not coming much, so he said to his wife: "You go first, I will go to you later." If someone bullies you over there, tell me, and I'll give you a blow job! ”
The wife was finally killed by the disease and left Mr. Hu to live alone.
Mr. Hu does have a daughter, but the daughter has her own family and life, and Mr. Hu's widower life has always been lonely. When the reporter went to Mr. Hu for an interview, he photographed Mr. Hu's room, only to see that the room was full of clothes and debris, and the home without women was a mess. Mr. Hu often lay on the couch with the TV on, you said he was watching TV, people closed their eyes, you said you didn't watch it, the TV was on, and sometimes it was on all night, and the next day the TV was still acting.
Mr. Hu has to go out every day and go to the Temple of Heaven Park. When he went to the park, he always had to find a crooked neck pine tree, because when his wife was alive, he always went there to exercise, and when he exercised, he always hung the cloth bag he carried with him on the branches. He naturally looked for this pine tree because he missed his wife, and in the face of the reporter's camera, Mr. Hu could not help but shed tears.
One day, Mr. Hu heard about Changpuhe Park and knew that it was a blind date corner for the elderly, and he suddenly became interested in that blind date corner, and every day in addition to riding his bicycle to the Temple of Heaven Park to remember his deceased wife, he went to the blind date corner to try his luck.
In the Calamus River, his luck was really good, he met several middle-aged and elderly women, and he made friends with these women. Mr. Hu confessed that he longed for sincere feelings, and he even confessed that he longed for a married life.
Mr. Hu said that he had lived with his wife for many years and had never experienced such crazy sex, mainly because his wife was weak and sick, and there was no need for women at all, but it did not mean that he had no needs. His needs were suppressed for a long time, but he was released in old age.
When Chen Xiaonan asked him what was the most romantic thing he did during his relationship, he replied that it was in the movie theater
However, Mr. Hu's daughter initially opposed Mr. Hu's behavior, and although she rarely took care of her father, she was very disgusted with her father's frequent change of girlfriend, so she objected to Mr. Hu.
Of course, his daughter's opposition did not stop Mr. Hu from making friends, he actually made a 48-year-old very beautiful Hubei lady, still a movie actor! Two people quickly fall in love, to what extent? Two people kissed openly on the street, causing everyone on the bus to look at their "scenery". There are endless words between two people, and they talk until midnight, of course, not online chat, but face-to-face chat.
This lady is also very considerate to Mr. Hu, Mr. Hu's waist hurts, she rubbed his waist with white wine, and rubbed Mr. Hu's heart quickly.
Mr. Hu experienced true love for the first time in his life, and his way of expressing his feelings was not hidden, he said to the lady: "I love you, I love you too much." Such a hot expression of feelings is easy to make two people crazy, so the two people love each other madly.
The two are so good, then it is necessary to go straight to the subject. Mr. Hu called his daughter, but the daughter opposed the father's marriage, and the daughter's reason was that the woman was so beautiful, young, and a movie actor, why did he marry you?
In any case, the daughter is not willing, and this marriage will not be able to be married!
Later, Mr. Hu met a 42-year-old middle-aged woman with good looks. The woman, a native of Gansu, came to Beijing to work, and she lived alone after divorcing her ex-husband.
Mr. Hu often takes his girlfriend to the hospital on a bicycle to do moxibustion. When his girlfriend was doing moxibustion, he accompanied the waiter around, very considerate, and did not know that he thought it was a father and daughter.
The two have been dating for a while, and it is time to talk about marriage, and the girlfriend insists on registering marriage, and she wants fame. But Mr. Hu did not agree to register. Two people quarreled over this. Mr. Hu was even more unhappy, saying that he could not marry someone who quarreled as soon as they met.
Facing the camera, Mr. Hu said bluntly: "I want to give this hot heart to the person I like." Chen Xiaonan said: "I hope you can also harvest a hot heart." ”
2. Manager Li's love experience
In the blind date corner, a manager Li walked into the reporter's camera, he wore a flower shirt, white pants, black leather shoes, dressed like an overseas Chinese, very fashionable. He is also a single old man, who has been divorced twice, and his daughter has been sentenced to his ex-wife, so he is now very lonely. Because of this, he became a regular visitor to the blind date corner, he did not look very old, and he was in good health.
It was a medical experience that made him feel the need to find a partner.
One day he suddenly felt unwell, the pain was unbearable, he hurried to the hospital for treatment, but the people in the hospital lined up a long line, he initially planned to line up, but the pain made him really unable to last, he went directly to the doctor to see a doctor, the doctor gave him an injection, his condition was alleviated. This medical treatment made him realize that he needed someone around him, someone who could reach out to him in a critical moment, and this person was, to put it bluntly, a partner.
Manager Li plans to try his luck in the blind date corner, he has gone to the blind date corner again and again, and he has also met many women, of course, there are also people who make him move. He took a fancy to a lady, and after the exchange, he asked the lady very directly: "How' it is, do I have a play?" But the lady asked him, "Do you have a heart?" Manager Li replied, "Yes and no." ”
But the lady said: "I am from Harbin, I am not worthy of you Beijingers, what you want is good conditions." Manager Li wanted to continue talking, but the lady had already walked away. Manager Li obviously wanted to deal with this lady and told her that he only had her WeChat, but this lady did everything she could to push back, and it seemed that she did not look up to Manager Li. Looking at the back of the lady walking away, Manager Li said to his friends next to him: "There is no drama." ”
The Manager Lee hit several of them, but they were all rejected. According to him, many men in Beijing are very picky, and they generally like to find Beijing locals instead of looking for foreigners, because foreigners have a lot of baggage and a lot of burdens. But this is not the case with Manager Li, whose standards are not limited to Beijing locals. But even so, he never found his other half.
Later, he fell in love with a local lady in Beijing, who looked particularly beautiful, with lines and temperament, and Manager Li fell in love at first sight. If you see it, you must chase, Manager Li plucked up enough courage to confess to this lady: "Your beauty is your fault, who made you so beautiful?" Is it up to me? He borrowed a line from the movie "Yesenia", and this line really worked, the lady was moved, and the two people began to get along.
It was really a good time, Manager Li invited the lady to dinner, a meal is half a day, of course, they are not eating, but talking. In half a day, a corner of the hotel was contracted by them, attracting countless envious and hateful eyes. Manager Li really fell in love this time, and he was glad that he had finally found the woman he liked.
But the development of the relationship between the two soon proved that Manager Li was too optimistic. One day, it was a rainy day, the lady's expression was serious, and she wanted to stop talking, and Manager Li had a premonition that it was not good. Finally the lady spoke, and she told Manager Li that the two of them were not suitable. Manager Li knew that his conditions did not meet the standards of a lady. He knew it was irretrievable, the tears were flowing down, and he didn't want the lady to see his tears, so he turned and ran into the rain.
Rain and tears flowed down Manager Li's cheeks, and he had never been so bitter in his two divorces.
After many failures, Manager Li was not discouraged. Before retiring, he had been working diligently, never late and early, and now he had to come to the blind date every day, and he never arrived late and left early. Although he had experienced repeated failures, he still had hope for the newspaper here, and although this hope made him feel a little faint, there was a glimmer of light, better than in the dark.
3. The phase of all beings in the blind date corner
Changpu River Park has become a "brand", many elderly people who want to get off the list go there, and many of them go every day like Manager Li, just like going to work, so many people are familiar with each other, and even know each other very well. When an old Li or Old Zhang did not come one day, everyone would ask each other: "Why didn't Old Li come today?" ”
"Gone." A partner who understands says.
"Why is it gone?" Everyone sighed, which was a tribute to him.
For this blind date corner, the elderly also have their own views, and a lady said: "The people who come here are not here to go on a blind date, but to stir up trouble." ”
An old man said, "It's easy to come here and find a liar, but it's hard to find someone." ”
"There are a lot of male scammers here."
"Tell me that there are more female cheaters than male cheaters."
But a big aunt said: "There is nothing to deceive at such an old age, and I came to find a satisfactory one." ”
However, it is generally believed that it is very difficult to find your favorite partner here, ten thousand times more difficult than that of young people. But despite this, the old people still come here to try their luck.
There is a Mr. Li, 75 years old, with 8 suites in Beijing, who is still in good health and wants to find a companion. But the ladies met were all drawing his money. One of them almost cheated him out of 500,000.
There was also a white-haired old man who reported meeting several ladies, some of whom had talked for a while and asked for his pay card; others asked for her name to be written on the title deed. The old man said that this request broke through his own bottom line, and he refused, of course, not only rejecting her unreasonable request.
Young people looking for a partner, in addition to asking each other's family and economic conditions, sometimes they also have to ask each other about their interests, hobbies, ideals and so on. The elderly are much more direct in finding a partner, which can be said to be a one-sided approach: what is your situation? Divorced or widowed? Do you have income? Is there a retirement? Is there health insurance? Do you have children? Is your family a son or a daughter? How is your body?
Why ask a boy or a girl, because if there is a son, it is more troublesome, to help watch the child, buy a house or something; and the daughter is more simple, so it is easier to find a daughter than a son.
As for why you ask whether you are healthy, one of the considerations is that aspect of health.
If a lady with a raw face comes to the park one day, a group of old men will soon be gathered around, and this one asks, "Do you see me?" The man asked, "Do you see me playing?" ”
Today's young people talk about objects that are rarely interfered with by their parents, but the elderly are often interfered with by their children when they find objects, which is also an important reason why it is difficult for the elderly to find objects. Many elderly people have found a suitable object, they have begun to talk about marriage, and when they discuss with their children, their children say "no", and this matter will be ruined.
Changpu River Blind Date Corner can also be said to be a small society, from which you can see the desires and emotional needs of the elderly, and you can also see a variety of human nature.
Here, you can see the truest side of the elderly, especially their desire for sex and love. But their normal needs are ignored and unjustifiably suppressed in the society in which we live. The story in the blind date corner reminds young people that they should know more about their parents, understand and understand them more, and if they can support them a little more, it is better.