Text: Flowers bloom in half summer
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My name is Xiaofang, and I have been under the siege of marriage for more than 10 years. The bits and pieces of my married life make me miserable. If it weren't for having two children, I would have left this boring place long ago. If fate could give me the chance to re-choose, I'd rather I never met him.
At that time, I was introduced to my current husband Dagang. At that time, he was handsome and very talkative. The first time we met, I was deeply attracted.
He has a lot of good ideas for the future, a lot of plans for entrepreneurship. I heard him talk about this, and I was secretly happy in my heart. At that time, I naively thought that I had met my own Prince Charming, and I was still a very pursuing and energetic potential stock. I secretly rejoiced in myself.
My husband was also very satisfied with me, and we exchanged small handkerchiefs as proof that the two sides had a marriage contract.
Three months later, the man came to urge marriage, I was also 25 years old at the time, and my mother said: "It doesn't matter if the family is poor, as long as you feel that his people can, you can entrust it for life, and girls will marry sooner or later."
In this way, we got married in a hurry without knowing each other, just by eye.
Entering marriage, I saw the truth of life. At first, the wind and snow moon were also consumed in the chai rice oil and salt every day.
A year after our marriage, we welcomed our son Feifei. In order to accompany us at home, my husband decided to start a business at home. He said that if a man does not make a career, he is working in vain. Going out to work is a waste of life! Looking at my husband's arrogance, I was full of joy, as if a better tomorrow was beckoning to me.
My husband rented a façade on the street, opened a playroom, and my children and I moved in. At first, business was ok. Income can take care of a family's living expenses.
In her spare time, my husband also sat in front of the game console to play games. Over time, he always felt back pain. I advised him not to sit and play games all the time, but to get up and do more activities. At that time, we didn't take this matter to heart, just like that, day after day, time rushed, and three years passed in the blink of an eye...
During this period, our little cotton jacket was also born, a son and a daughter, and life seemed to be complete. Later, with the popularity of computers and mobile phones, the game hall business gradually faded, and it was closed.
After returning home, my husband's waist pain became more and more serious, and he usually couldn't straighten up. We realized the seriousness of the problem and rushed to the city hospital for examination.
In addition to worrying, I waited for an unacceptable result! My husband actually suffered from forced spondylitis and had missed the best time for treatment. Medication can only relieve the pain, but the posture can never return to normal.
After the illness, her husband was mentally hit hard. I was constantly comforting him, and I was comforting myself. However, the increasingly serious illness has gradually weakened her husband's mental and physical strength.
As the two children grew older, the cost of living increased. Coupled with the fact that the husband usually needs money to take medicine, the family economy is very tight. Although the mother-in-law also has help occasionally, for a family without income, it is tantamount to a drop in the bucket and cannot fundamentally solve the problem.
I decided to change this situation, and after both children were sent to kindergarten, I discussed with my husband that he would go to school to pick up the children and take care of the children's life at home, and I would go out to work to earn money. In the face of this dilemma of the family, the husband has no way. The days were still going to go on, and he had to agree.
After being introduced by a friend, I came to Zhengzhou Foxconn to work. During this period, every month's salary was paid and sent home. Tell your husband to take good care of the children and take good medicine.
This kind of trust of mine gave my husband the money left in his hand, and he thought of starting a business again.
He saw a message from the Internet, saying that a printing company in Guangdong had closed down and the new printing press was sold at a very low price, so he contacted the manufacturer, purchased a machine, and contacted the engraving to prepare to make the coin.
The machine was transported, and under the commissioning and installation of the master, it was running. But after two days of experimentation, we found a drawback, the machine production capacity is too low, that is, twenty-four hours non-stop, a day can not produce much. The price of the coin is relatively low, and it is difficult to make a profit without quantity. Even if the production capacity goes up, the sales channel is a problem. All these problems have not been taken into account before.
The ideal is very full, the reality is very bone. This time the entrepreneurship, just started and failed. The machine was shelved in a clearing in front of the house, covered with a rain cloth, and became a pile of scrap iron. Looking at the accumulation of years of part-time work, in exchange for such a pile of waste, I am really congested...
Anyway, the days had to go on, and I continued to go out to work and earn money. After this time, I left an eye on my heart. I only send him home expenses every month, and I save the rest myself. I think he doesn't have money in his hands, so he won't blindly start a business.
After half a year, one day my husband called and said: "My friend recommended a hospital to him, saying that there is a good treatment for his disease, that is, the price is very expensive, he asked me if I can cure it?" ”
I'm happy to hear the news. Say to your husband, "As long as you can cure the disease, you can spend as much as you want!" "Then I sent my savings to my husband.
Who knows, this is actually a lie carefully woven by my husband!
With the money, he went to buy a large washing machine for wedding dresses and a sling dryer.
Began to take a single business of washing wedding dresses, due to lack of experience, the pearls embellished on the wedding dress were washed and broken, and finally lost money to others. Later, I took over the business of the hotel several times, washing the quilt sheets, but because I did not have a car, in addition to the rental car delivery, looking for someone to iron and tidy up, water and electricity and other expenses, there was no profit at all. This venture ended in failure.
The washing machine, placed in a corner of the yard, was another pile of rotten iron. Seeing this, I feel like I'm living like a joke, I'm working hard to go out and make money, just to add this pile of waste to my family?
My husband and I got into a big fight over this, he said, "I'm not for this family yet, I want to reduce your pressure, is that wrong?" Entrepreneurship has a smooth sailing! "Hearing him say this, I really can't breathe."
The year before, he went to the food fair in Luohe. At the venue, I took a fancy to a puffed food machine. It was to make children's snacks, come back to me to discuss, I do not agree. "There's a market for food, I can deliver it to supermarkets in town," he said. This one doesn't require physical strength. You can also set up your own stalls. This taste is really delicious, and there will definitely be business. ”
With the lessons of the past, I was cautious in the face of my husband's thoughts, so no matter what he said, I was not moved. Later, when he saw that he would not move me, he stopped mentioning it.
Who knows, within a few days, the food machine was delivered to my house. My husband actually carried me behind my back and secretly borrowed money from relatives and friends, and the pension money that my mother-in-law had saved for many years was also taken by him softly and hard.
The husband is full of energy, as soon as the machine arrives, he will quickly debug and produce. People who have tasted it say that the taste is good. After two days of production, he contacted the supermarket to deliver the goods. But after a day of running, the ending was very humiliating, and no supermarket was willing to accept this kind of three-no-no product. Especially in the food category, it is impossible to buy goods from small workshops.
The road was blocked, and my husband went to set up a stall and run retail. Wind food and sleep, but also can not sell much. Within a few days, the physical strength could not support it, and the flag was stopped.
In the face of this failure, he never "got discouraged". He said: "The heavens will send down a great task to the Scythians, and they will first suffer their hearts, strain their bones, and starve their bodies." Hearing him say something like that, I really wanted to slap him! You can start a business, but don't harm my hard-earned money!
In the face of my husband's repeated tosses, I was really physically and mentally exhausted. Addicted to "entrepreneurship", he has gradually become very indifferent to the people around him and the things around him, and he is even more indifferent to his children, and he is completely immersed in the entrepreneurial dream he has woven.
When I went out to work, the child didn't cook after school. The child was hungry and anxious, so he had to go to his grandmother. When he is hungry, he will make instant noodles to eat, and when he is tired of eating, he will go to his mother-in-law to rub rice.
In the face of her husband's increasing indifference, the mother-in-law is really bored to the extreme. She once told outsiders: "If it weren't for these two children, I really wouldn't want to watch Xiaofang suffer here!" I had already persuaded them to divorce! Da Gang tossed and turned blindly day by day, and he had to defeat this family! ”
For the father, the son is full of complaints. Once the exam is not good, the husband will criticize and accuse: "The next time you are out of the top five of the class, you will not go to school!" Waste of money". Usually, when you don't ask your child and accuse, you show a lofty parental posture. Such a father makes the child feel disgusted from the heart.
My son once said to me: "Mom, my father is not dead, I really want to change my father."
In the face of such a life, I am really tired, what should I do?