Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
An original emotion number that deserves your attention
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The Indian writer Rabindranath Tagore wrote in Family and the World: "When God created us men, he was only a teacher, and in his bag there were only theoretical textbooks and lecture notes; While creating women, he became an artist, carrying paintbrushes and palettes in his leather bag. ”
Men and women are two different thinking creatures, men are more rational, and women are more emotional.
Mr. Zeng Shiqiang once said: "Only women have love, and men have no love." ”
The definition of love is a feeling that comes from the heart, has nothing to do, and can even be reckless, which requires an impulse to detach from reason.
The vast majority of people who can really do this in real life are women, and men usually weigh the pros and cons when it comes to feelings.
It's hard for a woman to be with a man she doesn't love unless she has other plans, and a man is willing to be with a woman who doesn't love at all.
For women, falling in love is about getting married; for men, falling in love and getting married are two different things.
The most unfortunate thing for a woman is to waste time with a man who doesn't love himself, and in order to avoid such a thing, everyone should learn some ways to identify.
Want to judge whether a man loves you, don't listen to what he says, but look at what he does, and the man who doesn't love you is very good at "hiding".
Relationships are hidden
I once received a private message from a fan who told me that she had been with her boyfriend for three full years, and less than a month after the breakup, the news came that her boyfriend was engaged.
She couldn't take it, and at one point thought she had been deceived.
And in fact, this is also true, after all, three years of relationship has not been exchanged for his publicity.
No mutual friends, no relatives, and no presence in each other's circle of friends.
They talked about love together for three years, and even had two years of living together.
In the end she learned that men had never thought of marrying her.
Who is suitable for love and who is suitable for marriage, men are very clear from the beginning.
For girls who can only fall in love, they will be careful to hide it from adding more trouble to themselves, and when they find someone suitable for marriage, they will find a perfect reason to break up.
This situation is very common in real life, and many women have never noticed it.
A man has been with you for many years, but he still refuses to disclose it, in the final analysis, it is because he does not love you, and if he loves you, he is eager to announce to the world that you belong to him.
Such a simple and easy to understand truth, many women do not understand that for a woman, the most terrible thing is not to be deceived by men, but to be deceived by themselves.
Identity hiding
Lu Ziqiao in "Love Apartment" is a love master, his IQ and emotional intelligence are very high, although he has nothing, he can always walk in the flowers as he wishes.
His famous quote is: "Save your life with a trumpet." ”
Friends know that his name is Lu Ziqiao, but the girls who have interacted with him only know that his name is Lu Xiaobu.
From the beginning he hid his identity well. He also did so in order not to leave himself in trouble in the future.
A man who just wants to fall in love with you will be prepared from the beginning, and his job, education, family background and even name may be fake.
The person you know about him is not really him, but an image of him that he has made up from the beginning.
Although this situation sounds bizarre, it is quite common in real life.
I once heard a girl complain about being cheated on by an older leftover man, she was 24 years old, and the man claimed to be 27 years old, but finally found out that he was 34 years old.
When he knew the truth, the girl had been in love with him for two years, and he just wanted to use his feelings to restrain the girl, but in the end the girl chose to break up.
Sensible women know that if a man loves you, he will not lie to you, and if he cheats on you, it will only prove that he has ulterior motives, and no matter how crazy he says, he cannot hide the darkness inside him.
Money is hidden
There is such a plot in "Little Min's House":
The aunt finally divorced Ma Baonan, but when she came home from work, she found that Ma Baonan was taking her mother to look for something in the house.
My aunt saw him take out hundreds of yuan bills from several places, and it turned out that these were all the private money he had saved before.
They were originally a legal couple, people who wanted to work together for a lifetime, but men saved money behind their wives' backs, which in the final analysis was just distrust of his wife.
For the relationship between men and women, money can be together, because money is extremely important to everyone, but those who have selfish intentions for money are two hearts for love.
Especially married couples, everyone should be honest with each other, if the husband always hides money, it can only prove that he does not regard his wife as his own.
epilogue:
Men and women are different after all, but everyone has a common attitude towards love.
Both men and women often show special bravery and selflessness in the face of their loved ones.
Once they are hiding, it only proves that they have a ghost in their hearts.
Women can be bold enough to love, but choose a man who is honest with each other.
As for those men who like to hide, it is better for everyone to choose to stay away.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
May your life be full of surprises, and may your happiness come as scheduled.