The writer Bondarev once said: The root of all human suffering stems from the lack of a sense of boundary.
Because of the lack of a sense of boundaries, he obviously only refused unreasonable and excessive requests, but he was considered to be careful, thus offending his in-laws.
Writer Bi Shumin also said: Rejection is a right, you are so good at talking, who can understand you?
In fact, it is precisely because you are too good at talking, so your refusal is just an excuse to make a request in the eyes of others.
01, the mother-in-law does not wait for the confinement of the child does not bring children, the daughter-in-law full-time
The mother-in-law of other people's families does not know how rare grandchildren are. But when it was Xiaowen's turn, her mother-in-law would only blindly avoid, refusing to serve the confinement or take the child.
When Xiaowen gave birth to her daughter, she saw her mother-in-law's disgusted and displeased gaze, and her heart giggled a little, and she had a bad sense of language. Sure enough, when she returned home from the hospital, her mother-in-law only took care of her for three days, and she excused that her sister-in-law was about to give birth, and there was no one around, so she had to go back to guard.
And when the sister-in-law gave birth to a son, the mother-in-law with a sad face was happy to blossom, and everyone praised herself for having a grandchild. Compared with the granddaughter who was born half a month earlier than the little nephew, he did not care and ignored it.
After the mother's parents finished serving the confinement, they returned to their own home. Before the maternity leave was almost over, Xiaowen asked her mother-in-law to help with the child, but the mother-in-law was unwilling, saying that she was not available, and she had to take care of the eldest grandson, who gave birth to the daughter who took care of.
Xiaowen was so angry that tears swirled in her eyes, and in desperation, she had to quit her promising job and go home full-time with her children. Whenever others see Xiaowen taking children at home at a young age and wasting time, they can't help but feel sorry for her.
But only Xiaowen herself understood, in this way, her mother-in-law had never been kind to herself, and she had no obligation to give her a pension in the future. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not owe each other.
02, the mother-in-law let the full-time eldest daughter-in-law take care of the nephew by the way, the eldest daughter-in-law: 3000 a month
When the daughter was 2 years old, the mother-in-law suddenly felt unwell, and the sister-in-law was busy at work and was unwilling to take leave to deduct money. Therefore, the mother-in-law thought of a clever trick and threw her nephew, who was also 2 years old, to Xiaowen's care.
The mother-in-law also said pitifully that she would first recuperate for a while, and when her body was well recuperated, she would immediately pick up the child. Xiaowen, who was soft and kind-hearted, had to agree. As a result, until the mother-in-law was all well ill, she never came to pick up the child.
The sister-in-law only occasionally came to see the child, teased her, and then said some polite words of thanks to Xiaowen, and then left. After taking care of it for a month, Xiaowen couldn't bear it anymore.
She called her mother-in-law and sister-in-law to the house and told them: I am not unable to help you with the child, but the 3,000 nanny fees a month, if you want to give money every month, if you are not willing, you will take the child away immediately.
The face of the sister-in-law suddenly became very ugly. But before she could speak, her mother-in-law jumped out and said: What money is not money, they are all family, they don't need to see each other so much, they have to pay their wages to help, so they can't say it, and others will also look at the jokes of their brothers.
These words of the mother-in-law, Xiao wen is not afraid. After all, every time the mother-in-law prevaricated her like this, if she hadn't been cruel, or she would have been able to get out of it a long time ago, instead of dragging it out, the family was a mess.
03, the full-time eldest daughter-in-law does not take care of the nephew, offending the whole mother-in-law's family
Xiaowen suddenly became tough, and her mother-in-law was also a little angry, but she did not dare to face the bar, she could only save the country with a curve and intercede with her eldest son. In front of the eldest son, the mother-in-law tearfully accused Xiaowen of being ruthless, saying that she was not unwilling to take the child, but that she was not in good health, and she was afraid of giving the child a sick breath.
The sister-in-law didn't say anything, just silence, as if the child wasn't her own. Seeing that her sister-in-law was indifferent and only watched herself and her mother-in-law tear their faces there, Xiaowen did not say a word, directly put away her nephew's things, and then let her mother-in-law take away her nephew.
Xiao Wen's action of chasing people made everyone stunned. No one expected that Xiaowen would do what she said, saying that she would drive people away, without giving others time to consider. At this moment, the whole mother-in-law's family thinks that Xiaowen is too desperate and impersonal. Xiaowen also completely offended the whole mother-in-law's family.
Xiao wen didn't like to listen to these excuses, some people were so inching forward, they knew that they were kind enough to help for a while, and as a result, now the little nephew became their own task and burden.
As for her husband, if she is still blindly foolish and filial piety, Xiaowen does not mind divorcing her daughter to change her surname and let her husband live with his brother and family.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Xiaowen to no longer take care of her little nephew?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!