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An old man has a troublesome matter, what is the trouble, is the son called over, said that the new house has been renovated, but also ventilated for half a year, parents can follow to move in.
Supposedly this is a good thing. After all, many young people are now reluctant to live with the elderly, especially young people who have just married. First of all, they want to have their own two-person world, and second, they don't want to be upset about their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting along so early.
Therefore, under normal circumstances, even if the parents buy a marriage house with the money they make up, they usually only live by the younger two.
The old people praised her son for his filial piety. It is not common for young men who are married this year and still think about their parents, and the old couple can also follow their sons into the city to enjoy the blessings, how good!
But she didn't want to. It was because she knew the twists and turns.
Because many elderly people are now facing such a situation: sons and daughters-in-law invite their parents to live at home, saying that they are accompanying the elderly, and the whole family enjoys the joy of the family. In fact, for many parents, they are just being "nibbled", the key is that their children are not grateful.
"Companion pension" annoys parents: children who do not know how to be grateful make themselves tired
Why was this old man upset? It was because she knew that her son had called her to live in her new home, but it was actually because her daughter-in-law was about to give birth. Combined with the experience of the elderly around her, she knows that as the grandmother of her future children, she will start to watch the baby - the assembly line life with the baby.
What upset her was that from her son's previous performance, he did not feel much for his mother, he and his daughter-in-law had not been together, she did not know what kind of person she was, and she did not know whether her life with a baby in the next few years would go smoothly or not.
In fact, many elderly people around are like this. If your son or daughter has a baby, ask your parents to come and help bring it. Parents take care of the hard work of their children and feel that it is also appropriate to help with the baby. But the problem is that many children take their parents' efforts for granted.
Many parents are not only busy taking care of their babies' three meals a day, school transportation, but also taking care of housework, and there is no free time throughout the day. In this way, because of living habits, eating hobbies or children's education, children have no less friction with their parents, and sometimes even directly yell at their parents. This makes many parents who have worked hard very hard, very unbearable.
To give a very simple example, a colleague once indignantly told me how bad her father-in-law's habits were, she always liked to burp and fart after eating, and her voice was very loud and not exquisite at all. She had quarreled with him several times over this, and he couldn't control it? I was confused when I listened: This matter, the old man may not be able to control it at all.
I understand the old man's annoyance at the beginning of the article. She was afraid that she would not fall well if she had paid for it.
Nowadays, the aging situation is aggravated, and we advocate "home care", and parents try to live with their children as much as possible. But for some families, for a decade after their retirement, parents are their children's right-hand men, helping to take care of the family and take care of their children.
But when your parents are older and trembling at the age of seventy or eighty, they may actively or passively leave the city and return to their hometown for various subjective or objective reasons.
These reasons include: children have to sleep in separate rooms when they are older, there are not enough rooms at home, and it is inconvenient to transfer medical insurance across districts to seek medical treatment in the city. But can you say that this does not contain some meaning of "people go to tea and cool"?
The old man at the beginning of the article is actually my aunt. When she told my mother about her troubles, my mother said bluntly, "When you are fifty or sixty years old, when you are rich and powerful, your son said that he wanted to be filial to you. If your son can still take the initiative to invite you to his side after twenty years, it is really filial piety! ”
I think so.
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