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In feelings, too many people think that as long as they have real feelings for each other, distance is not a problem, and age is not a problem.
As a result, there are many girls who do not like boys of the same age when choosing a mate, thinking that the other party is not mature enough to consider the problem, communication is difficult, and it is not as comfortable and more secure to be with older men.
These older men are often more than a dozen years older than them, they have rich life experience, they also have a deep perspective on the problem, and they have more guidance for young people to work and live confusedly. Although he is still single for various reasons, such a man has become a favorite of young girls, girls do not mind age, believe that feelings can cross all obstacles.
Older men also like young and beautiful girls, and when they are young, they are poor, and no beautiful girl wants to accompany them. Now, he has rich savings, and in order to make up for the regrets left by his youth, he is also willing to choose a young girl as his wife.
The two people came together, and in the face of the doubts of the people around them, they showed their love to prove their true love to others, thinking that old men and young wives can grow old together.
Whether the age difference is large or small, couples want to work together for a lifetime, this is a beautiful vision, and there is nothing wrong with it.
However, don't care how much love the old husband and young wife say, the two do not have these two things, at most, "take what they need".
After their needs are met, it is the moment when the two people are moving towards breaking up.
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Yuan Bin is 46 years old this year, had a short marriage, or was introduced to marry in a hurry when he was young, and after two years, his wife disliked him and only lived an ordinary life, and he found a rich little boss, and the two left.
This marriage had a great impact on Yuan Bin, who vowed to make himself rich and find someone he liked.
Since then, he has devoted himself to his work, and then he has started his own business more and more, although some people have mentioned marriage in the middle, but they have been rejected by him, he feels that the time is not ripe, and he has delayed it again and again, to the current age.
Today, he lives the way he had hoped he would have been, living in a villa, driving a luxury car, and having a career of his own.
Someone introduced him to a single woman of similar age, but he refused. He knew that to work hard to become like this, he wanted to find a young girl he liked and make up for the regret that he didn't have a beautiful girl when he was young.
Lin Jing, 26 years old this year, is an employee of an advertising company, met Yuan Bin at an event, and did not expect the two people to chat more speculatively. Later, Yuan Bin privately made an appointment with Lin Jing several times, she was happy to go to the appointment, originally she did not like men who were much older than herself, but being with Yuan Bin made her feel more secure, and she was often attracted by his knowledge, stability, and insights, in short, in a word, Lin Jing's liking was adoration, but she felt that this was also a kind of true love.
And Yuan Bin likes Lin Jing's youth, beauty, and good figure, and Lin Jing is cheerful, generous, lively, especially like to laugh, so that Yuan Bin feels that he is with her, and feels that he is not getting older, but getting younger and younger.
In this way, although the two people are 20 years apart, they still enter the marriage hall.
When they first got married, almost all people saw was love, but the longer the time passed, the problems between the two people began to occur frequently.
(1) Two people cannot accept the unbearable and trust brought about by each other's age
Before, Lin Jing only saw Yuan Bin's maturity, stability and care, but she did not think of Yuan Bin's hard work for so many years, her physical condition was not very good, such as high blood pressure and heart disease, and even needed to go to the hospital regularly for review, but also to take medication regularly, these, in fact, Yuan Bin hoped that Lin Jing could take good care of herself, but Lin Jing was very disgusted with this, she felt like a nanny, this is not the love of hope.
After Lin Jing got married, she still couldn't change the habit of going out and playing in the middle of the night, especially when she came back in the middle of the night full of alcohol, which made Yuan Bin very disliked.
Yuan Bin is so old, he has never had children, and he is especially eager to have his own children, but at this moment, Lin Jing's often playful hope makes her body deteriorate, and she has not been able to conceive a child. She didn't have any worries because she hadn't actually wanted children all along.
(2) Two people cannot accept the gap caused by each other's age, and there is no communication
Before getting married, the two people felt that there was no problem in communicating with each other, but after marriage, they found that the interests of each other's attention were not the same at all, Lin Jing liked fashion and entertainment, while Yuan Bin liked things like finance and health, and the two people almost played each other at home, and did not communicate with each other at all.
Under such circumstances, Lin Jing felt that she was still young, did not want to continue to delay, hoped to divorce Yuan Bin, and hoped to share half of her property.
Yuan Bin agreed to divorce, but did not agree to divide the property. Lin Jing filed a complaint against Yuan Bin in court.
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In fact, there is no trust and communication in the family of old husbands and young wives, and both people end up just "taking what they need": I like your property, I like your beauty. The cost of a short-lived marriage for two people is so great that it is not worth the loss.
Therefore, when we choose the other half, we should not rush to prove how much we like each other first, but first ask ourselves whether the various unbearable caused by such a large age difference are completely acceptable to us.
The reason why I say this is because the initial contact with you will only see each other's advantages, shining points, but marriage is to live a good ordinary life together every day, fading the aura is to eat and drink Lasa sleep, oil and salt sauce vinegar tea, if you have not done this, just hope to live a lifetime with each other's advantages, persuade you to dispel the idea of marriage as soon as possible.
These are the most basic things in normal marriage, if there is no trust and communication at the lowest level, the old husband and wife two people say that they love more, it is a moment, and the love of two people can never be a lifetime.
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