I love you, I love you more and more, and when I think that what I love is you, and you love me, I am so happy that I don't know what to do.
Being able to unreservedly express love and need to your partner is actually a scarce ability.
I have seen too many couples, obviously like each other, but in words always like to say the opposite, sigh, ridicule partners, no matter how happy things, will be turned into unpleasant memories by his attitude.
They all tacitly agree that getting married means loving you, and there is no need to prove it with words and actions, if they don't love you, why marry you? Why do you want me to prove it?
Saying a word of love is like dying.
This phenomenon may stem from these 3 reasons:
1. Can't fully trust your partner.
The premise of expressing love is trust. If you are full of people, and you are ridiculed and rejected after confessing to him, you will experience a loss of self-worth, which will make you particularly sad, rather than encountering this risk, it is better to be tough and tell your partner that I never care about you.
After all, when we say "love" to a person, it means that from this moment on, he has the ability to hurt us, and his casual words, a blow, will hurt more than strangers.
2. Fear of being pinched.
Once you say love to your partner, it seems that you have to be her, what if she takes this and makes a blessing to herself? Many people are afraid to express their needs because they are afraid of being pinched and controlled by their partners.
As a result, the two people are guessing at each other in this awkward mode of communication and talking harshly to each other.
It's just that when you say the opposite and attack the other person, whether it is sincere or not, from the other person's point of view, you can only see that you are attacking him.
3. Past experiences limit the expression of love.
In addition to the distrust in love, the reasons that limit our expression of love may also come from past experience. Women are better at emotional language, but men are always prone to avoid this, and this difference in thinking will also cause men to rarely express their need for their wives.
So in a relationship, it always seems like the woman is chasing and the man is exhausted. But in fact, men also need to be loved, but also want to rely on their lovers, but they are hindered by the level of reality and rarely say it.
To change this situation, in fact, it is really simple, you do not have to force him to say that he loves you, but through communication and guidance, build trust in the relationship, let him know that you are someone you can rely on, he will cherish you more, because only you understand his vulnerability and needs.