Every child is born with a piece of jade, and different parents have cultivated different life trajectories for children
In the new era, only growing parents can navigate the parent-child relationship, each child is born a piece of jade, after the parenting of different parents, but also achieved their different life trajectories.
A 10-year study of 103 school-age children from 95 families by Professor Baumlingd of the University of California found that the quality of children's development is influenced by their parenting style.
Professor Baumlind proposes two dimensions from many parenting behaviors. The first dimension is "requirements"; the second dimension is "reactivity".
"Requirements" means that parents should set corresponding standards for their children and insist that their children meet these standards, that is, whether parents are "strict" with their children.
"Reactive" refers to the degree to which parents accept and love their children, and whether parents are sensitive to their children's needs, that is, whether parents are able to accept and love their children unconditionally.
Based on these two dimensions, Professor Baumlind divides the parenting style of all parents into four categories: neglect, authoritarian, doting, and authoritative. These four types of parents will raise four different types of children. But only authoritative parents are qualified and excellent.
Authoritative parents maintain the greatest tolerance for their children's personality traits, for example, children are energetic, lively, like to participate in many activities, and play for a long time without getting tired.
At this time, parents will not force their children to say: You go to do something quiet, practice calligraphy, play Go or something. Rather, it is to respect the child's interests and ideas, which is to tolerate the child's personality.
Authoritative parents will be strict on their children's social morality, for example, the child's basic courtesy and conduct, school should be punctual and not late, polite to people, borrow things to repay, etc. If these virtuous behaviors of the child are not achieved, the parents will restrict and punish the child in a gentle and insistent atmosphere.
Authoritative parents treat their children with a strict and rational attitude, democratic and patient. Children raised by this type of education have a strong sense of security, they know that their parents love themselves, and they are more independent at school age.
Psychologists have found that the parenting style of authoritarian parents is much more effective than that of doting parents. So far, the concept of "authoritative parents" proposed by Baumlinde has been recognized by the educational and psychological circles in various countries. There is a lot of research to support this view, arguing that "authority" is indeed one of the best forms of parenting we can refer to.
