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Every child born is actually an angel.
Their arrival not only added beauty to the world, but also brought joy and hope to parents.
But in this world, some people will also distinguish between high and low and noble children.
That patriarchal mindset is like the plague, always inadvertently reviving.
The heroine in the next case, after her daughter suffered all kinds of discrimination from her in-laws, finally broke out and fought back completely.
Zhou Yi has been married to Li E's family for three years, but this belly has not moved.
Even his own mother said: "Zhou Yi, you have nothing to go to the hospital with Li E to check your body, and if you don't have children, others should gossip." ”
This remark from her mother will always make Zhou Yi feel a little uncomfortable.
She didn't want to get pregnant with the baby sooner, and this physical examination had already been done, and the results showed that both of them were fine.
Besides, Li E is from the countryside, and the three sisters in the family are just a boy, and he has been a baby since he was a child.
Now that she has not been pregnant, her mother-in-law has long since lost her good looks.
When she got married for a year, she returned to her mother-in-law's house in the countryside, and she was counted in the light and in the dark.
The mother-in-law said one moment that the daughter-in-law in the village had given birth to two sons, and the next moment she said how difficult it was for her to give birth to Li E.
After being slapped several times, the next year she did not have the courage to return to her in-laws' house on an empty stomach.
Later, the mother-in-law did not know where to get the home remedies for giving birth to the child, and sent them in a car, so that Zhou Yi could drink on time.
Seeing what her mother-in-law said, Zhou Yi tried to drink it.
But as soon as I entered my mouth, I wanted to spit it out, and the smell was strange and unpleasant.
But the mother-in-law shouted for her to hold back, and said that she could not give birth to a big fat boy without drinking.
Zhou Yi had no way to toss it, and privately found a senior old Chinese medicine doctor to adjust the body.
This time, I don't know if it was a coincidence or luck, she was really pregnant.
After becoming pregnant, she was excited and told her mother and husband at the first time.
After the mother-in-law who was far away from home learned that her daughter-in-law was pregnant, she excitedly patted her thigh and said, "I will say well, that is the folk remedies I got, boys or girls." ”
Li E laughed when he heard it, and said that the hospital does not tell men and women now.
The old lady listened with some disappointment and hung up the phone.
When her daughter-in-law was about to go to the pot, she took a lot of agricultural and sideline products to her son's daughter-in-law's house.
As soon as he entered the door, he observed his daughter-in-law's belly, and when he looked left and right, he was sure that it was a boy, which made Zhou Yi constantly snicker.
She couldn't laugh until her daughter was born.
From the moment she opened her eyes after giving birth, her mother-in-law's face was black.
Even if the daughter is very cute and healthy, she still can't get the love of her mother-in-law.
Because she gave birth to a, her mother-in-law did not take care of her confinement, which caused her to have back pain all the time.
Even if the mother-in-law values sons over daughters, she slowly found that her husband Li E also began not to see her daughter.
Sometimes the daughter was crying and out of breath, and he wouldn't even go into the room to take a look, let alone take care of the baby.
The emotions of the mother-in-law and husband gradually affected the infant in the swaddling, and the young age even looked at people's faces.
If Zhou Yi is not at home, the little one will be obedient. When Zhou Yi returned from work, she laughed and cried again.
After giving birth to the baby, the mother-in-law lives at home. Saying that it is to take care of the baby is actually to urge her to have a second child.
But after Zhou Yi returned to the workplace, the pressure was getting bigger and bigger, and there was no time to think about having a child.
But the mother-in-law gave Zhou Yi a nagging when she had nothing to do, and said that no matter how good her daughter was, she would marry someone and could not be trusted.
Zhou Yi originally thought that her mother-in-law was just a knife mouth tofu heart, and who wanted to treat her only granddaughter was really cruel.
Several times Zhou Yi personally heard her daughter say that her grandmother was staring at her and did not show her cartoons.
Seeing that Zhou Yi was slow to give birth to a second child, she even beat her daughter's small palm in front of her, which scared her daughter into crying.
But she was busy working to earn money, and she couldn't offend her mother-in-law for these small things.
Slowly, the daughter grew up, but her personality was not as lively and active as that of her peers.
The kindergarten teacher said that she liked to be alone, did not like to play games, and spoke quietly.
Once, when I came home from work, I heard my mother-in-law say to my daughter: "When you are hungry, go drink water, is it time to eat?"
The frightened daughter ran straight back to the room, while her husband was watching TV in the living room, as if he hadn't heard.
Zhou Yi's heart hurt very much at that moment, and coupled with the teacher's reaction, she felt for the first time that the problem was somewhat serious.
Just when she was ready to talk seriously with her in-laws about this issue, the unit arranged for her to go to a foreign country to talk about a project.
Because it was her future, she simply packed up and hurried off.
She did not know that this time, her daughter was left to her mother-in-law.
Sure enough, she walked on the front foot, and the mother-in-law called her relatives in the back foot and beckoned them to come to the house to play.
The in-laws came not young and old, before and after plus seven or eight people, and the noise at home did not look like a look.
The mother-in-law said to the old family while bumping the melon seeds: My daughter-in-law really can't say, you look at the birth of a, you won't be born, is this to make our old Li family the queen!
The relatives in the hometown all stammered and did not speak, indicating that they agreed with the old lady's statement.
It wasn't until late at night that everyone was sleepy and ready to go to bed.
But the room was not enough, and the mother-in-law actually let her granddaughter go to the living room sofa to sleep, and vacated the room for the old family to live.
Seeing that her son Li E had no opinion, the old lady carried her granddaughter to the sofa and went to sleep.
But they did not expect that Zhou Yi had finished her work at this time and was on her way back.
She pushed open the door in the early hours of the morning and did not expect to see her daughter sleeping in the living room.
Half of her body was hanging in the air, and her small face was slightly red.
I walked around the house and found that it was full of in-laws.
After knowing that her daughter had been driven into the living room, she went crazy at home.
Not only did he let the in-laws get out overnight, but he also filed for divorce with her husband the next day.
She took her daughter back to her mother's house, but her mother advised her not to do so, and it would not be good for her to get divorced.
Only to see Zhou Yi hugging her daughter and saying: "Mom, I came home from a business trip in the early morning, and when I saw my daughter sleeping on the sofa, I made up my mind to drive my in-laws away. ”
The mother didn't say much when she saw the situation, and took her granddaughter out to play.
And her husband Li E and her mother-in-law were also like headless flies at this time, sitting at home with sad faces...
The mother-in-law in the case eventually broke up her son's home because of her preference for sons and daughters.
This not only gives a warning to all patriarchal families, but also makes us understand the following two truths.
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One: In a patriarchal family, the mother is the daughter's dependence.
In patriarchal families, all women are unfortunate.
The deep-rooted nature of the family in which this concept exists is unshakable.
Just as the mother-in-law in the case treats the daughter-in-law as a tool for giving birth to a child, the treatment of the granddaughter is naturally unpleasant.
And the little girl who is not valued, the only hope and dependence is her mother.
Because grandma and father may not care about her feelings, but her biological mother will still be heartbroken.
So every woman is a hero and superman of her own child.
If you and your daughter are in a patriarchal family, remember to support and protect each other.
In fact, she was pregnant in October and gave birth. For all mothers, children are their own lifeblood.
Don't care about the wishes of your in-laws, and you shouldn't care too much about the gender of your children.
Because the status of the family may be determined by others, but happiness and dignity are in their own hands.
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Two: Girls who grow up in a patriarchal family environment often need a lifetime to heal psychological shadows.
The family atmosphere of patriarchal families is not very healthy.
Whether male or female, once they have extreme thinking, it is always difficult to educate a good child.
If it is a boy, coddling and pampering may be inevitable.
If it is a girl, then growing up in such a family will definitely be more sad and less happy.
Just like the little girl in the case, she is always reprimanded and disliked by her grandmother, and her father is increasingly dissatisfied with her under the influence.
Even if you go to school, you still can't get rid of your inferiority and isolation.
Such an impact may even affect her life.
We always say that a child who lacks love spends his life seeking love and approval.
And the harm caused by the preference for sons and daughters will also allow girls to spend their lives to heal psychological wounds.
The sinister nature of the human heart should not be endured by an innocent child, let alone affect her life.
Know that if you choose to bring your child into this world, you must dare to be responsible for him.
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The child is a projection of a family and a shadow of the parents.
And parents are the whole of a child's childhood, the salvation of adulthood.
Therefore, the fate of parents and children is extremely rare.
Don't let this beauty become each other's unbearable and nightmare.
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