The essence of marriage is value matching, and when getting married, people are more willing to use "door to door" to describe a marriage with a matching value.
However, in the materialistic society, many people's values have been impacted, and marriage has become a "clear price" transaction.
Usually, when talking about marriage, the man will give the woman a certain amount of dowry as a sincere payment for marriage, which is used as a contract between the two families.
The amount of the bride price is generally discussed on the situation of the two families, mainly depending on the heart, but also as a good wish for the newcomer.
Online watched a newcomer's wedding, this is a big day, the woman because of the bride price conflict, said that she was humiliated on the wedding day, the wedding became meaningless.
Many netizens left a message under the video, who insulted who is not necessarily it, what is going on?
1, the mother-in-law's bed is covered with white cloth, and the marriage of not giving in to each other is meaningless
In the video, the woman accused her mother-in-law of humiliating her on the big wedding day, and her husband also helped her mother-in-law to say that she was originally such a thing, netizens would criticize the mother-in-law.
However, after understanding the ins and outs of the matter, netizens believe that the man's family's behavior is not blamed on others, and if they want to blame, they blame the bride's family for selling their daughters.
The couple is not young, the two are blind dates, the early progress is quite smooth, but when it comes to talking about marriage, the woman's family lion opened her mouth, saying that it wants a dowry of 300,000, less than one point, so that the man's family is very embarrassed.
The man's family is very fond of this girl, including adding a name to the house, the woman's requirements are tried to meet, in order to get married smoothly, the man borrowed relatives and friends, and made up 300,000 dowries to send over.
The bride price was in place, and the family was naturally good at talking and agreed to the marriage, but the mother-in-law was uncomfortable, and she felt that the woman was too snobbish.
Originally, she thought that the girl would bring the bride price when she got married, so that the money would be given to the small family, and she would not say anything, but after understanding, the woman's parents left the bride price, and the dowry only gave a few items.
The mother-in-law was angry, and after she sent away her relatives and friends, she came to the bride's wedding room, and in front of the groom, she spread a white cloth on the bed, and the bride's face was green, and she asked the mother-in-law what she meant.
The mother-in-law replied very calmly: "We gave the greatest sincerity, marrying back a high-priced daughter-in-law, we must know whether it is worth it." ”
The bride is very embarrassed, busy with the eyes to suggest that the groom to help break the siege, the groom is not careful, indicating that the mother can have any bad thoughts, but also for the good of our feelings, and then in ancient times, it was done, there is no problem.
As soon as these words came out, the bride felt insulted, and the groom's family clearly regarded themselves as a tradable item, or a commodity that needed to be inspected.
The groom objected, saying that the bride was too strong, everything should be based on her, before marriage said that he wanted to go to the marriage examination, but also met with the opposition of the bride, many requirements before marriage were met, a request of his mother, what can not be satisfied? If there is really no problem, in the future, everyone's heart will be clean, isn't it also a good thing?
Netizens shouted and saw that there was no one to support her, and she could only eat Huang Lian dumbly, and she could not say anything bitter.
2, the bride price, in the end who suffers more losses
The bride price was originally used as a marriage contract between the man and the woman's family, and with the development of the times, it has continued to rise so that the original meaning has completely changed.
Originally, it was only as a sincere gold for the marriage agreement, and the two families could discuss the good intentions in place, and most parents would bring the dowry together with the dowry to let the daughter take the daughter to the small family as a dowry.
And the wind of comparison in various places is getting stronger and stronger, the woman's family does not consider the actual situation of the man, opens her mouth to ask for a sky-high bride price, and even in order to achieve the goal, there are many mother-in-law and mother-in-law who say "one less point and do not marry", and even take the daughter's bride price to supplement the marriage cost of the mother's son.
Bride price, should the woman's parents give it to their daughter?
As a parent, we should stand in the perspective of the daughter for the long-term consideration of the daughter, the woman wants a huge dowry, if the in-laws' dowry money is borrowed, then after marriage will definitely have to pay off the debt.
Repaying the debt inevitably requires the hard work of the two smaller families, and in the end it is the daughter who is married out who suffers.
If the bride price is given to the daughter who marries out and is brought to the small family, even if the debt is repaid, there is still hope for a new life, in case the daughter is not brought to the small family, then the newly married small family will fall into a debt dispute, and what about happiness?
In life, there are many cases of contradictions between the two families because of the bride price, the mother-in-law complains that the in-laws do not treat their daughters kindly, and the in-laws complain that the mother-in-law has swallowed the dowry privately, leaving huge debts everywhere.
The daughter who marries out is sandwiched in the middle, inside and outside is not a person, and over time it will also affect the feelings of the husband and wife, and the relationship between the two families will be more difficult to reconcile in the future, and it will only be more difficult to get along.
Therefore, for the happiness of the daughter, just the verbal good wishes are far from enough, when talking about marriage, we should seek truth from facts, the bride price is done according to the actual situation, and blindly inflating will only make your daughter pay.
3, mutual understanding, marriage can be long-lasting
Xiao Xia's marriage has made a good demonstration.
Xiaoxia and her boyfriend met at work, the two were quite interested in the same age, and soon the two developed to talk about marriage, and Xiaoxia, who went to her boyfriend's house for the first time, found that the boyfriend's family conditions were not good.
But the mother-in-law still prepared a meeting gift for Xiaoxia that she liked very much, and Xiaoxia when she returned home consulted with her mother in advance to remind her mother that the conditions of her boyfriend's home were general, hoping not to embarrass him.
When the boyfriend came to the door to propose to the family, the mother also looked at the boyfriend's sincerity to Xiaoxia in the eyes, and took the initiative to say that the bride price was casual and the heart could be.
In the future, it will be a family, and if there are any difficulties after marriage, you can also come back to discuss, don't feel embarrassed.
The mother's words made the boyfriend very moved, determined to be good to Xiaoxia, and the mother-in-law also understood that Xiaoxia was not a person who coveted wealth, and did her best to take care of her confinement and help her with the child.
Xiaoxia later did not want to work, planned to open a clothing store, after consulting with her husband, her husband also supported her idea, took out her savings to start a business for her, and her mother-in-law also helped her publicize anytime and anywhere, and took good care of her children.
With the support of her family, Xiaoxia's clothing store was soon built, and the family's life was improved, and her mother-in-law knew Xiaoxia's dedication to the family and cared for her daughter-in-law.
Xiaoxia is also very grateful to her mother-in-law, never abandoning her for not doing housework, but also doing her best to help her with her children, the two understand each other, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious.
Just as the so-called home and everything is happy, a harmonious family is inseparable from the mutual understanding of the family, helping each other, and the family development will get better and better.
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