Everyone wants people they like, but they also like themselves, but reality is often less satisfactory.
It is said that "women chase men in the veil", but a woman who is too active will be said to be "chased", too flattering to men, but not to be cherished by men.
In "Heart Residence", Ge Yue is a woman (wife) that Gu Xin does not love, he only married her for the sake of power to hold the thigh of the old man, hugged for more than a year without hope, seeing the fall of the old man, he no longer hides his patience and reveals his original face. Leave the pregnant wife alone, find the ex-girlfriend to reunite, and after being disliked by the ex-girlfriend, she has an improper relationship with Gu Xixi.
When she first got married, Ge Yue's mother persuaded her to find a man who was right at the door to marry, but she just liked Gu Xin to "rush up" and get married. Less than a year after marriage, gu xin was betrayed, and Gu Xin was really ruthless to her.
When you meet someone you like, no one wants to miss it, but "rushing to catch up is not a deal", too active is easy to gain more than you lose.
Women who want to be with someone they like have to look at each other's relationships from a man's perspective and then decide how they give. Usually speaking, why men are so ruthless to women who are rushing on, the reason is realistic.
First of all, men like a sense of conquest rather than being conquered.
Primitive society men are mainly responsible for hunting to support their families, and they are born with a desire to conquer their prey and like to enjoy the fun of chasing, which is the nature of men.
In the relationship, men will be as excited as seeing their prey when they see the woman they like, and carefully prepare for "catching", enjoy the process of pursuing the person they like, and if they hold the beauty, it will make him feel very accomplished.
In the eyes of men, it should be his duty to pursue the person he likes, but if he is taken first by a woman, he will feel frustrated and hurt his self-esteem.
In "Heart Residence", Gu Qingyu's crushing conquest of his first love (Shi Yuan), although Shi Yuan was "flattered" and moved that she had always liked him, but after marrying her, out of the self-esteem of men, he has been "awkward" in marriage, trying to prove that he is a man who can take care of his wife, rather than a man who is taken care of by his wife, so the contradictions continue, and finally the divorce ends.
In his bones, the man feels that he should dominate in his feelings, and if he wants to control the relationship between them, he cannot tolerate women challenging his authority.
If the woman rushes to do what he thinks should be what he should do, he will not be grateful, but will "take revenge", feel that you are too strong, let him become a "weak person", he can not accept that he is conquered by women, and the relationship will only deteriorate.
Second, men and women have different definitions of the "rush" thing.
Women feel that they are "rushing" to be good to men, which is a manifestation of love and a kind of "kindness", after all, if they are on each other's terms, men cannot marry such a good woman.
Ge Yue's condition, if she didn't catch up, Gu Xin wouldn't be able to marry her. After her father's downfall, she became a good wife who understood her husband, but Gu Xin did not appreciate it, except that he did not love her, and his definition of marrying Ge Yue was not as his wife thought.
Many women mistakenly think that they are "catching up" well, and men will cherish themselves forever.
In fact, a man doesn't think so, he just thinks he can get you because of his own ability and charm, otherwise you wouldn't look at him.
Moreover, the relationship between two people is dynamic, not eternal, and will be mixed with too many variables.
Ge Yue herself is not outstanding, Gu Xin looks at her because of her father, which is a kind of shock to him, once the shock is gone, he will have no scruples, originally he is a ruthless man, this is just to show his original face.
Women "rush" to be good to men, the "value" at this time is the highest, but with the growth of men, he will change from the original "weak" to "strong", women in his heart "no value", it can also be said that his desire is greater, with more capital, is destined to make women feel his completely different changes.
Finally, men hate being treated as "creditors" by women.
A woman rushing to be good to a man, he may steal joy, but if he does not love, he will not love, no matter how good the woman is to him, he will not appreciate it, he will only covet what he wants.
However, a woman's goodness is not without a price, men will rationally judge the price they have to pay, and there is a limit to their own payment. If he believes in his heart that women are not worthy, no matter how women rush to be good to him, he is not willing to pay a little more, does not want to be treated as a "creditor" by women, and reminds him of his unbearable past all day.
After Ge Yue married Gu Xin, because of her parents, he suffered a lot of grievances, which is also the price he had to pay for his greed for power.
When the old man fell, he did not get the benefits, he did not want to meet the needs of his wife, in his opinion, he did not get what he wanted, there was no obligation to continue to disguise, it seemed that he was very ruthless, in fact, he was originally a ruthless person.
If women always ask men to pay for themselves, they are bound to be disappointed.
Women used to catch up with him for a little good, he was not appreciative, and he hated to be asked for it all the time.
If a man does not love this woman, if there is a "chip" that can deter him, he will disguise himself as the person the woman wants for the sake of profit, and once this chip is lost, he will think that he is going to turn over and become the master, and what he has suffered in you in the past will be doubled back.
Women love a man again and don't want to rush up and be nice to him.
In the relationship, the woman can take the initiative, but if there is a hundred steps between each other, you take ninety-nine steps to him, and the last step must let him come to you.
This is no love and no love, but a woman's final bottom line, you have to let the man see that you are not a person with no bottom line at all, he will value you.
You know, the man who loves you, he is reluctant to let you take the initiative all the time; the man who does not love you, you are useless to take the initiative;
So, don't sleep too late and love someone not too full!
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