There's an answer: eat a meal.
Love words can be disguised, responsibilities can be observed, and housework can be completed, but the attitude that naturally flows in his life is very difficult to disguise.
There are many couples, obviously there is no problem, usually the things that should be said will be discussed together, when taking children can also be clearly divided, the love of several years, more than ten years is particularly stable, trust to even if the exchange of mobile phones, there will be no feeling at all.
But when eating together, they will be absent-minded, have no communication, play with their mobile phones, wash dishes when they eat, and watch TV when they should watch TV. Both people are used to this state of life and don't even feel that it's problematic.
But in fact, feelings that are too "stable" are just one of the most dangerous factors in feelings.
Because two people have taken each other as air.
The people around them are no longer important, and they are too lazy to distract themselves from listening to him share today's events; when they are relatively speechless, they rarely take the initiative to communicate, and many times when the words come to their mouths, they feel that there is no need to say them, because there will be no response.
It is not the kind of air stranger who ignores each other and is strange to each other, but too accustomed, too familiar, too secure, so that even if he is, it seems that he is not there, he can rest assured that he will not trim the edges, dirty, and spit at the dinner table, and he will not be embarrassed.
After this state has been in this state for a long time, it is difficult for you to have passion for each other, he is all the same in his absence, and you may feel that the life of this air partner is more free, but this state means that you no longer value each other.
Intimate relationships must be made of passion, intimacy, commitment.
Without one element, such a relationship is no longer intimate.
Love without passion is affection, love without commitment, but infatuation, seemingly stable and safe, but in fact it is falling apart inside.
A meal is a small daily thing, but it can reflect the truest and most unabashed hearts of two people.
Even more terrifying than divorce is the masquerade couple. Obviously the closest people, but more distant than strangers, obviously sleeping in a bed but do not know what the other party is thinking, it seems to be separated by a wall between each other.
When you find that the relationship is slowly fading, learn to distinguish whether you have entered the pseudo-intimate relationship, and why there is a pseudo-intimate relationship (whether you do not understand the needs of yourself and your partner, or there are emotional barriers, love inability in the relationship, or the influence of the original family), break the masquerade couple, and move towards a real intimate relationship, so that love can become more long-lasting and real.