Many couples and couples have been together for a long time, and the desire to share will decline or shift, and the two people who once said nothing will also become speechless.
Every day he comes home, he tells you how tired he is today and doesn't have the energy to listen to you share things about his daily life, but you will find that every time a friend asks him to go out, he has a flying eyebrow and dances, and he can't see the tiredness at all.
Usually a casual sentence, I don't know how to provoke him, he will lose his temper, give you a look, or no matter what you say, he is a very perfunctory reply, as if he did not take your words to heart at all.
In fact, the reduction in the desire to share indicates that there is a problem with communication.
For man is learned.
At the beginning, the communication pattern between two people is not well established, such as when he has a low response to your words, you lose your temper with him, and when he does not understand what you mean, you blame him for not taking you to heart at all. Over time, he will associate the negative feelings of the quarrel with the communication with you.
He will feel that talking to you is a kind of pressure, think that you will definitely turn over the old accounts and raise small things to the height of feelings, afraid that you will lose your temper when you disagree, how to coax is useless, and you are directly tired before you speak.
Or, he will feel that the point of your anger is too fine, he can't understand, but he doesn't want to argue with you, so many times even if he doesn't like it, he will endure not to say it, until he is finally disappointed in the relationship, and he will decide to leave.
This is why, many people will always feel that a relationship is good at the beginning, but in the later stage, there is no desire to share, and the feeling of love is getting less and less.
But there's also a benefit to learning, and that's —
If you can slowly adjust the mode of getting along, cover the previous quarrel with pleasant memories, let him feel that talking to you is a particularly happy and relaxed thing, guide and actively respond to his sharing, then he will want to take the initiative to chat with you when there is nothing, he will have a strong desire to share with you, your emotional connection will become close, and the relationship between the two people will not be deadlocked.