He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
Some time ago I took my cat to the pet hospital and heard a story.
A shoveler has a dog at home.
He was particularly busy on weekdays, often working overtime until late to come home; then, when he returned home, he could only take his dog out for ten minutes and take a simple walk.
Over time, the dog becomes more and more anxious.
One day, he came home from work and found the dog "lame", inexplicably.
He quickly took the dog to the pet hospital, and various examinations found no problems.
The pet doctor finally concluded that your dog was pretending to be lame.
Why do dogs behave this way?
In fact, the most essential reason is: the lack of companionship and love, hoping that in this way, in exchange for the attention of the shoveler.
In feelings, people will only be worse in order to get the attention, love and companionship of their partners.
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A boy left me a message.
The boy said: I really can't stand my girlfriend, she always hangs "break up" on her lips, making me almost nervous breakdown.
In love for more than 1 year, the girlfriend has said no less than dozens of times "Let's break up".
Each time, he made a gesture of "I was wrong, I admit it" posture.
He understands that his girlfriend is in a state of anger, but every time he uses this method to force him to compromise, it makes him feel "very uncomfortable".
Then the boy said, "If there is another time, I will definitely not get it back, I will divide it, and I can't stand her doing this." ”
In fact, the biggest difference between boys and girls is the difference in thinking.
If a guy feels uncomfortable in a relationship or is dissatisfied with his girlfriend, he tends to behave in two ways:
Either silence or direct expression.
And how do girls express their dissatisfaction?
Either don't talk, or deal with it coldly, or mention the breakup, or make a noise to attract the attention of the boys.
It is the nature of men to constantly look for solutions to problems;
In the personality of women, they naturally love to share and like to talk.
In the relationship, the boy is more straightforward, and when the boy mentions the breakup, it means that it cannot be saved.
Girls are more introverted, hesitant, and tortuous; what girls say, there is room for maneuver.
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Why do women like to talk about "breaking up"?
In fact, there are two main factors.
First: the tentative behavior of girls
Girls naturally like to be tempted.
Before deciding on a relationship, they like to test the boy's thoughts about themselves and whether they like themselves.
After falling in love, they like to test the "loyalty" of boys.
After the contradiction, I like to test whether the boy is reliable or not.
In short, some girls are always living in their own world and are reluctant to come out.
The most common behavior is to put the breakup on the lips and bring up every time a contradiction arises.
This kind of behavior itself is a temptation to take the initiative into your own hands.
Tempt what?
Test the boy's tolerance and feelings for her.
"If you love me, you will keep me."
"If you are sincere with me, you will definitely take the initiative to bow your head and admit your mistakes."
The girl is determined and firmly believes that the boy loves her, so she will unscrupulously mention the breakup again and again.
In other words, girls like to mention breakups because they do the wrong thing and weaken their mistakes by diverting their attention.
Second: Lack of love in the heart, hope to get attention
Such a girl, cute and pathetic.
What makes them cute is:
Just like a child, who wants to be constantly watched by his parents, and wants the attention of adults to be on himself; only in this way can he feel that he is a loved one.
The same is true of the girl's mentality in love.
Constantly mentioning breakups, like to hang this sentence on the lips, is to exchange the attention of the boyfriend.
"I mentioned breaking up, you will definitely keep me, this time you will have more time to accompany me, care about me." 」
It's a girl's right: petite, petty, childish.
However, what the girls overlook is:
Parents' patience with their children is limited, and if the child is unscrupulous, parents will also be angry.
And the boyfriend's love for girls is also limited.
No one will always tolerate you, let alone you trample and hurt your feelings so brazenly.
At any time, don't try to threaten your partner.
You can tempt once, twice, but beyond a certain level, it will only cause disgust to your partner.
There are many things that can be done in life, not only love and love.
Do you love me today, tomorrow you don't love me, and the day after tomorrow you have to consider whether you love me or not.
Annoying or not?
You just need to give the other person confidence, give yourself confidence, and then maintain the relationship with your heart.
As for success or failure, to what extent will the relationship develop, wouldn't it be better to go with the flow?
Deliberately adding a few mistakes to your partner is not a wise move.
If you want to get the other person's attention and companionship, you can use it in another way, rather than repeatedly breaking up temptations.
Today's Topic:
What would you do if your partner mentioned breaking up?
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