Nowadays, two-child families abound, but the parents of second-child families basically belong to the post-80.90 generation, which is exactly this generation. It is the only child, and these only children have slowly entered the middle age. And his parents can also be regarded as the year of flower armor.
According to the current standard of living, even in the year of the flower armor, the life should not be bad. There is a relative in my family who is such a family combination, and the two husbands and wives used to work at the unit, and in order to respond to the call of the state, they only had one good child, and there was only one son under their knees. Now the son is also married and has a grandson.
Although the grandson lives with himself, he often comes to the house, and the grandson will let the grandfather buy toys every time, but once the relatives teased the grandson and said that they wanted to buy toys to find grandpa. Who knows that the grandson came to say, Dad said that in the future, your money will be mine, and I can use it as much as I want.
This sentence can be said to make the old man a little cold, and his own son actually made himself so sad that he could not hide it, but it is true that the two sons only have one son. According to the habits of Chinese, the money in the future is indeed his, and it is difficult to resolve.
Some people say that the 80s and 90s are the saddest generation now, and there are four elderly people with one or two children under them, how much financial pressure is this. In fact, it is only a part of the people. Some middle-aged people not only have no economic pressure, but can be said to be at the level of affluence. In the past, many elderly people retired from the unit, or worked hard for a lifetime in the workplace, and social security payments were enough for 15 years. In this way, if the four elderly people have pensions or pensions, they basically do not have to worry about money with their children.
After 80.90, he has also worked hard in the workplace for many years and has a certain economic foundation. If you are at work, there are old people on both sides of the family with children. This is also the capital that many families dare to have a second child now. Rich in the economy, there are old people to help with the baby, they can go to work with peace of mind.
Although this has no impact on the only child, it affects the lives of the elderly. The old people now are also different from the old people in the past. They have cultural knowledge at a young age and are more quick to accept new things. Life hobbies are also more extensive, and now there are many communities that have set up special elderly communities to give these elderly people a lot of residual heat and do what they like.
These elderly people are also in good economic conditions, and they have been busy with work and family life when they were young. There is no time to travel, and now while I am still healthy and the economic conditions permit, I can travel everywhere and broaden my horizons.
The arrival of grandchildren or grandchildren, the biggest change for the elderly is not freedom, and all previous life activities have been cancelled. Instead, it becomes cooking for the son or daughter's family and helping to bring the grandchildren or grandchildren. Not only are there no wages, but sometimes they have to help their small families. Such a life is unbearable for the elderly, but there is no way to choose, and he is a child, and he can't bear to look at the pressure of the child.
In fact, some only children are very filial to their parents, but there are also special examples. Perhaps from a young age, he has enjoyed the exclusive favor of his only child, is the little bully in the family, and feels that his parents are his own. This kind of thinking will also unconsciously affect the next generation. Such behavior naturally makes the old man sad.
For parents, only children should be more filial, taken care of by their parents when they are young, and naturally give back to their parents when they grow up. Parents are old, naturally have their own lives, can not reduce their burden, push the child to the parents. Let the parents should enjoy the old age, but become their own nanny.
If you have a second child, you also have to think about the problem of bringing a baby, and your parents can help, but you can't completely throw the child to your parents.
Then go to work on their own, so that the parents' bodies are also unbearable. If you can, go get a babysitter, and parents only have time to see their children. This is the best of both worlds, the child has someone to take care of, and the parents can raise them for a long time.
Of course, they must also have the right values, and the things of their parents are the result of their struggles when they are young. Even if it is an only child, there is no right to usurpation, and now there are not many couples abroad who donate their property without leaving it to their children. What you struggle for is what you deserve, you should not only think about getting something for nothing, let alone bring this kind of thinking to your children. In this way, the child will not try his best to become excellent, but just want to grow up and get the property, and live a mediocre life.
Of course, if the elderly really have very unfilial children, they must also think about whether their behavior of raising children at that time was too spoiled. In this way, the child will have the idea of thinking about unearned gains today, before everything was done for the child, the heart and lungs were pulled out, and the parents should help the child bear everything. Parents are the best teachers for children, and it is also because of their own behavior that children establish an incorrect outlook on life and values.