There are two sentences that greatly indicate how easy it is for girls to find a boyfriend.
First, men chase women across mountains, and women chase men through veils; second, men never reject a woman who has a crush on him, even if he already has a woman.
In fact, it is very real, she can't never meet a boy who makes her heart move.
So girls are single, single for a long time, from a certain point of view, there are very few reasons, after all, as long as it is a girl with good conditions, it is difficult to be rejected by boys, especially if she has a good external image.
Don't want to talk, this is always the reason, because people always have emotional needs, don't want to talk about the root cause, and haven't met the person who likes it very much. When love really happens, it can't be stopped, and people are always prone to lose their minds and fight for it.
If you can't meet someone you like very much, there is also a possibility behind it,
It is that she always makes love too idealistic, artistic, and believes too much in fairy tales.
Then in real life, always looking at the intersection between men and women with a condescending attitude, it is not in line with her fairy tale fantasies, and it is not excluded that idol dramas are watched too much.
In this way, they have extremely harsh assumptions about the premise of love, or have a very fairy tale imagination, and the result can only be fruitless.
Of course, too introverted is also one of the objective reasons, like a boy, not brave and not active do not express, but the more you like, the more you have to pull away the distance between each other, in the end can only lead to mistakes, but in the end they always comfort themselves, no fate.
An aunt next to me was annoyed and said: "My daughter in 92 can't even talk about her boyfriend." "For the sake of my daughter's lifelong events, I am very worried, often insomnia, and I have lost interest in everything." As for the reasons behind it, there are three possibilities that cannot be escaped.
1, high is not low.
I have always been unable to recognize myself, and I always feel that with my own conditions, I should find a lot of good ones, in fact, my own conditions are not so superior. When you meet a handsome person, you will pick the conditions, when you encounter good conditions, you will pick the family, and when you meet a good family, you will pick the academic qualifications.
Picking and picking, I dragged my age, and this age is older, and my position in the blind date marriage market is more embarrassing.
Either the people you meet are so good that you don't deserve it, or the people you meet are so bad that you can't see it.
Older also means fewer choices, after all, in the circle of their lives, most people are already married. Finding a favorite from 100 people and finding the right one from 10 people, it is clear that the former is relatively much easier and more likely to succeed.
If it's in small cities, where young people generally marry earlier, there may be only one or two in everyone's circle who are still single by the age of 30.
However, I have picked up to 30 years old, and I will be very unwilling to find someone to marry and give up my pursuit. So the older you get, the more awkward the various situations and positions become.
2, their own conditions are too superior.
The more superior the conditions, the more you want to find a better one, and you are certainly not willing to find a person whose conditions are worse than your own in all aspects. But in her life circle, her own conditions have been counted as superior, if you do not step out of the current circle of life, it is difficult to meet the right person, even if you can meet, you basically have belonging.
There is also a major reason, such as a very beautiful woman, who tends to "scare away" the suitors around her.
She is too good, she is too dazzling, so that the strange opposite sex can only respect her, no one dares to get close, close will be inferior, and there is no certainty that they can control such a woman.
Therefore, over time, it will lead to no friends of the opposite sex around her, and even if she can recognize friends of the opposite sex, people do not dare to think anything about her.
Friends of the opposite sex who can get along are basically known for many years and have a good friendship foundation, but they are also "famous flowers have long been the master".
Superior conditions, on the contrary, have become a burden of marriage and love, and they will not be willing to accept it, and they will not choose less and less.
3. There are serious defects in personality.
For example, too withdrawn, eccentric, introverted, willful, etc., which will lead to her difficulty getting along with people, is a person who has no way to communicate, but also a person who has no way to approach.
There is a friend around, because of the complicated family situation, so a person has lived for many years, and he also said that he was "alone". When friends around her persuade her to change, she is very repulsive, unwilling to change herself, and will only absolutely defend her subjective thoughts and refute others:
"If you're like me, living alone for more than ten years, you're the same."
Slowly, I don't know how to get along with the opposite sex, I don't know how to restrain my personality, I like to hold back when I have problems, I won't take the initiative to solve contradictions, and the other party takes the initiative to find her to communicate and solve, and I can't tell my true thoughts.
To say that you are angry is angry, the subjective consciousness is too strong, no matter what others mean in their words, it will always be the meaning of their own understanding.
Cloudy and uncertain, good times are good, but when you say angry, you are angry, and when you are angry, you don't express it, let alone say what the reason.
The mood of parents can be understood, but if you don't solve the problem, if you want to solve the problem, you still have to start from the problem. If you want your child to find your own life partner, you should first try to make your child a happy person, a happy person, a person with spirit, and always have a very attractive charm of the opposite sex.
People must also have an objective understanding of themselves, be aware of their own problems, do not require change to perfection, at least have a positive psychology of constantly improving themselves.
There are many things that can change with their own changes, and if you really drag your age, unless you are particularly well-equipped and can guarantee that you have the capital to choose.
If not, the older you are, the more awkward you are, the more passive you are, even if you work hard to improve yourself in the process of being single, but people of the same age will not stop waiting for you.
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