Disagreement should not be a derogatory term, at least the world is what it is.
From birth to adulthood, people do not lie at the beginning. But the world will only tolerate children telling the truth without any barriers, but it will not tolerate an adult.
I once read an article to the effect that a child's lying is the beginning of intellectual development. Whether there is a reason or not, everyone judges for themselves. But from the perspective of the objective world in which we live, there is still some truth to this statement. There are only two reasons why people lie, the first lying can bring benefits to themselves, so that they can achieve their own goals, and the second lying can save themselves from harm. In short, it is
Seek advantages and avoid harms
Four words.
Referring to deer as horses is a story that many people have heard, in the crowd of people who refer to deer as horses, it is also clearly divided into two categories, the first type is with Zhao Gao's gang, through echoing and approving the deer for the horse to stand in line, so that Zhao Gao's trust in himself paves the way for his own officials to enter the knighthood. The other category is those who are not in league with Zhao Gao, but have to compromise against their will because they are afraid that Zhao Gao will retaliate against them afterwards.
Even children will win the attention of their parents in different ways to achieve the purpose of allowing their parents to fulfill their wishes. For example, some children do not want to go to school to pretend to be sick, cry, want their parents to buy something for themselves, they keep spoiling, if they can't achieve their goals, some will also use crying to put pressure on their parents. In the process of children's growth, even if children do not lie, parents will slowly teach children to lie. To take a simple example, children have their own natural judgment of beauty and ugliness, but when walking outside, parents generally do not let children say that others are ugly, they teach children to praise others for their good looks, see men to say handsome, and see women to praise beauty.
The difference in mind is an essential skill that we must have in social interaction. If an adult, only based on his own true thoughts, tells the truth without any cover, then it is estimated that most of the people who come into contact with him can only say that he is more "honest" in front of him, but behind his back, he will say that he is stupid. Many times the differences of heart are not only the help of our social interactions, but even the survival skills of some people. For example, the heroes who pay silently on the hidden front, the beliefs in their hearts and their daily words and deeds are separated from each other, and many times they have to do something against their hearts, but also hide their purpose deeply in their hearts, a move is not careful, they lose everything, and the price paid may not be just their own lives. The elite of the marketing industry, no matter how stupid the other party looks, even if there are ten thousand grass and mud horses running in their hearts, they will lose their smiles, coax each other's happiness, and willingly pay money. The big guys in the financing industry, the content in the PPT originally did not believe in themselves, and then they had to tell themselves the letter first, and then the big guys in the investment community told the letter...
Whether it is a young man and woman in love, or an old husband and wife who have been married for many years, in the holiday, birthday, anniversary, do not believe what women say do not give gifts, do not spend, once you believe that really do not buy, small cold war for a few days, the big may be a big punishment, keyboard, durian, remote control, as far as you can play your imagination. The ghost of a man's mouth deceiving people is something that women often use to say that men are untrustworthy. Similarly, if men believed all what women said, the days would be dark. What a woman thinks in her heart is that you must understand the eighteen meanings of what I think in my heart from the words spoken in my mouth, otherwise you just don't understand me, don't love me, and don't have your heart to treat me.
There are still many people who eat the meal of policy interpretation.
The reason why this bowl of rice is eaten is precisely because there are many policies that cannot be said very clearly, especially at the government level, and some words cannot be said.
As individuals and some self-media, but there is no such burden, the highly condensed policy can be dismantled and crushed and told to more people.
To want to know what a person really thinks in his heart, not to listen to what he says, an important reference is to see what he does, what he does, what purposes he achieves, and what things are more likely to be what he really wants in his heart.