There are many reasons why children don't want to learn, and "laziness" is just one of them.
The road to learning is very long, as soon as possible to cultivate the child's internal learning motivation, let him fall in love with learning, is the source of children's continuous growth and progress.
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In fact, we as parents do not know why to tell the child why to learn, and why did not encourage the child to give him motivation, but most of us have walked into the misunderstanding, think about the following kind of words we have said to the child how many times:
Tell me about you, me and your dad work so hard to earn money, not for you, don't you study well to be worthy of us?
Son, our family depends on you, you study hard now, and you can get ahead in the future!
Child, you study hard now, you can go to a good university in the future, you can have a good job after graduation, and you can earn a lot of money! When that's when you want to buy what you want to buy, buy what.
Don't listen to the old man, suffer losses in front of you, don't study well, and you will regret it later!
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Children who are forced to learn will definitely not learn well, and will hate learning more and more; but children who love learning are different:
Friend Lao Zhang's son was admitted to Peking University this year, his own education is not high (secondary school graduates), asked him what secret he had, he just smiled and said: "There is no secret, that is, let him like to study and learn!" ”
He did this, when his son was young, he often told his children good stories, and every time the children listened to them, they were fascinated, pestering him to tell one after another, and then the son asked him: "Daddy, how do you know so many stories!" ”
He told the children that they all read in books, and there were many, many stories in the books! So children learn to look up dictionaries very early, just to read more books and stories.
When the son asked him why arithmetic was so good, why his writing was so beautiful, why he knew that the sky was blue, why he understood so much... Lao Zhang always replied that this was his father's school in the book.
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Children who love to learn are envied and desired, and we all want our children to be like this. So how do you make your child fall in love with learning?
Don't blame, give your child something practical
How to yell does not work, then stop blaming, reasoning about the future is too far away from the child, there is no personal feeling. It is better to have something practical, to eat, drink and play.
Today you can memorize this text, and your mother will reward you with a toy you have always wanted (or a comic book, a little pocket money...). If you can recite it when the teacher mentions it in class, there is a reward.
This is not to use rewards to let children learn, but to use rewards to make children move and make progress first.
A sense of accomplishment, children love that feeling
Only when people taste the sweetness of a sense of accomplishment will they find their own sense of existence in a circle or relationship, and with a sense of existence, they will have inexhaustible motivation to persist.
When the child recites, when the child really memorizes it in advance and recites it in class; then parents can ask the child how he feels, is he proud and very accomplished?
Do you like this feeling, I just worked hard a little, not only completed the task in advance, but also got the reward, and the mother is no longer urging, the teacher is no longer criticized, even the students are very surprised!
Let the child make progress first, see and encourage the child's progress, let the child experience the joy of achievement and progress, the child will like this feeling.
Start with small progress, let the child adapt to such efforts, and then turn into big progress.
Talk about growth, don't talk about ideals for your children
Don't talk about ideals, because ideals are still too far away for children, too far away and empty things can not give children much motivation.
Pay more attention to the growth of children, with the effort of the previous step, the child's progress will be more, small progress will become big progress, small growth will become a big change.
Parents should pay close attention to their children's growth and give praise, rewards and encouragement.
The child does not drag the homework, the child will prepare the homework in advance, the child dares to raise his hand to speak in the classroom, and the child advances a few times in this exam... These are real growth, all are the joy of the child, do not only focus on the child's inadequacies.
When children have these transformations, they will aspire to greater progress, and then parents can set small goals with their children! The road to learning has officially begun.
At different stages, children have different learning motivations, perhaps starting out just for a delicious meal, a toy, but then it will become the joy of being praised, it will become a sense of accomplishment recognized by parents and teachers, and then it will become the joy of growth, and there will be more inner desires.
Let children fall in love with learning, and understand the rules of learning
If you compare active learning to a five-story building, first look at which floor your child is wandering.
We parents must understand the law of learning, and we must know that this order cannot be violated.
If your child is capable enough to learn, he is like a steel nail, with a hammer and goes in; conversely, like a toothpick, as soon as you knock, he breaks.
In the process of learning, whether the child makes a steel nail or a toothpick also depends on the accumulation of step by step, little by little persistence.
Parents create a suitable learning environment
Parents need to create a home learning environment that facilitates focused attention. It is important for children to be able to maintain good attention habits and the surrounding environment.
On the child's desk, there can only be corresponding school supplies such as books, and there can be no toys, food, and no sound interference such as television sets and telephones. Parents also try not to go in and out of their children's studies as much as possible, interfering loudly.
Parents should often read books, read magazines, learn what they are interested in, show their children a love of learning, often talk about things that interest you, tell children about all kinds of new and interesting knowledge you have learned... Children are often asked what new things they have learned in school.
When your child feels your interest in learning, he becomes infected and then works harder to learn.
The road to learning is very long, we can not always manage, urge children to learn and progress, as soon as possible to cultivate children's internal learning motivation, let him fall in love with learning, is the source of children's continuous growth and progress.
Although learning is not the only way out, children who can learn and learn well can choose which path they want to take in the future!
Parents who do not perform their educational duties under the guise of "as long as the child is happy and the child is not suitable for reading" are the "executioners" who really cut off their children's way out.
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