Author | Jin seven seven
Garbage is happy, and the harm is comparable to poison.
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Recently, the topic of "the real state of students' online classes" on Weibo has attracted the attention and discussion of tens of millions of netizens.
One of the bloggers shared a high-praise video that made people sigh:
In the video, some children sleep while attending class; some children use computers to listen to lectures and play games on mobile phones.
What's more, the left-handed Coke milk tea icy green, the right-handed fried chicken burger big fries, while taking lessons, while looking for happiness in the snack pile.
In order to enjoy a short period of happiness, this group of children are reluctant to get up early and sleep until they wake up naturally every day.
In various learning software, material piles, lying down to sleep, do not want to take online classes, DO not want to brush MOOCs, do not want to move homework.
Muddy, day after day.
Willing to become a captive of fragmented entertainment, let the unbridled sensory enjoyment overwhelm themselves.
Let me ask such a child who is addicted to garbage happiness, where is there a future to speak of?
Although I gained a short period of satisfaction, in this happiness, I lost my self-control and the ability to learn, did not bother to think, did not bother to progress, and let my future be stolen by this happiness little by little.
No wonder some people say that destroying a child and making him indulge in pleasure.
Garbage happy
Slowly destroying your child
On the knowledge, there is a topic: "How to look at the best way to destroy a child, is to give him a mobile phone?" ”
Some netizens replied: "Playing with mobile phones is not terrible, what is terrible is garbage happiness." Don't let your child indulge in the garbage joy of playing with mobile phones. ”
What triggers garbage happiness? That's what gives people short-term pleasure.
Psychologist Adam Alter said: "Entertainment products such as games, gossip, live broadcasts, etc., are like drugs, and if they are not careful, they can be addictive. ”
Once the child tastes the sweetness of garbage happiness, he will become addicted, can't help but want more, and even make his will lose his will and ignore what he should have done.
How terrible is garbage happiness?
Take playing with mobile phones, for example, the United States once launched a survey:
Scientists spent 10 years tracking and investigating 100 children, 50 of whom regularly played with their phones and 50 of whom had no access to them.
After 10 years, the ending was shocking.
Of those kids who played with their phones a lot, only 2 went to college.
Among the children who didn't have access to their phones, all went to college.
Of these, 16 children received full scholarships.
The mobile phone satisfies the child's temporary pleasure, but the garbage happiness created by the mobile phone kills the child's self-control, kills the child's learning ability, and kills the child's self-motivation.
Garbage happiness not only opens up the distance between children and peers, but also destroys children step by step.
Garbage is happy, and the harm is comparable to poison
If you look closely, you will find that those children who love to play games, brush videos, love to watch TV series, and are addicted to garbage happiness and can't help themselves, they all have a common feature:
There is no interest in anything other than short-term pleasure.
One of the moms in the group said:
"Before playing the game, the child was well-behaved and obedient. The grades in the class are also very good, the teachers are praising her, this child is really smart.
However, since the child became addicted to the game, every day when he came home without writing homework or eating, he wanted to play with his mobile phone first. In one semester, grades plummeted.
Now the child is making a lot of noise every day to play, and if he doesn't give it, he will start to wipe his tears and roll around. Even smashing things.
Heck, I said I shouldn't have let him play the game. ”
I used to think that children playing games were nothing, but after discovering the seriousness of the matter, it was too late to regret it.
Children have experienced the thrill of play, it is difficult to get out of it.
At this time, if someone stops him, they are like a changed person, throwing a tantrum and making a big fuss.
Faced with this situation, parents are either helpless or violently stopped. Obviously, neither of these is a good idea.
Therefore, do not let the child indulge in garbage happiness, once caught, you can only sink step by step.
Parents are a wall between children and garbage happiness
When children experience the pleasure of this "garbage happiness", they have no self-control at all, and they can afford to take it and put it down.
If the parents do not interfere, the child indulges in it.
Therefore, it is the primary responsibility of parents to avoid children falling in the garbage happiness and returning to normal learning.
When a child is frantically tempted on the edge of garbage happiness, it is better to try these three methods:
1. Words are not as good as deeds
Children are born to imitate, and parents, as the child's first teacher, are an important object of imitation and learning.
Jobs, the famous father of Apple, never fiddled with electronics at home.
A reporter once interviewed him and asked: "Do you play with your mobile phone at home?" ”
Jobs replied, "Our family restricts the appearance of electronic products. ”
So, every day after dinner, jobs's house would have such a scene: the children would read books together, talk about various topics together, and no one would want to hold their phones and iPads.
Mr. Yang Dai also said: "Good education, the power of example is very important."
Parents lead their children with their own actions, which is more convincing than telling the truth a thousand times.
If you want your child to read more, exercise more, and not overindulge in mobile phones, you must act as a role model first, and use the power of example to subtly influence your child.
2. Develop children's ability to "delay gratification"
In order not to let their children become slaves to garbage happiness, many parents think that as long as they don't show their children mobile phones, they can do it.
So they were forcibly confiscated and forbidden to play with their mobile phones.
This is not the wisest approach.
There is a word in psychology called the "forbidden fruit effect", also called the "Adam and Eve effect", which means:
The more things are forbidden, the more they will arouse people's curiosity and desire for exploration, and the more they want to get their hands on them.
Children have a strong curiosity and rebelliousness, the more parents do not let their children play mobile phones, the more children want to play.
Parents can't completely eliminate it, and children can't never be exposed to this entertainment.
Cultivating children's self-control is a long process, and strict prevention is never the best choice, step by step.
When the child especially wants to play games, we should turn the prohibition into a discussion, you can tell him: play after eating or play after doing homework.
The child will feel that my parents have not rejected me, and I can play after a while.
If the child can keep it up every day, knows to do the right thing first and then have fun, and in the long run, then he will not fall into garbage happiness.
3. If you can accompany, don't walk away
Mr. "Deng Jiaxian", the founder of the two bombs, is a father who is very good at playing with children.
Although he is very busy, he will play with his children whenever he has time.
Bring your kids to climb, swim and walk.
He would put the kids on their bikes, take them for a ride, play games with his son, and even set off firecrackers together.
Long Yingtai said, "Play is the foundation of learning between heaven and earth. ”
Children are immersed in nature from an early age, accept the influence of humanistic atmosphere, and grow up in the company and care of their parents, children will naturally have their horizons raised, have a broader world in their hearts, and will not indulge in the world of small mobile phones.
Parents should try to make time free to run under nature with their children, put down their mobile phones, drop iPads, and forget about electronic products.
Only by sincerely accompanying children, taking the initiative to care for and be close to children, can children get happiness in the true sense under the protection of love, and forget the "beauty" brought by the virtual world.
It is said that education is the financial resources of parents, and it is better to fight for the care and companionship of parents.
Whether or not a child suffers from the poison of garbage happiness has little to do with the virtual world, mainly depending on the attitude of the parents.
The lack of parental education is the root of children's obsession with garbage happiness.
May every parent fill their children's hearts with love and companionship, lead by example, and lead their children to increase the breadth of their souls and the thickness of their lives.