My girlfriend, who was over thirty years old and still unmarried, was out of love again.
My girlfriend is the same age as me, although my child has gone to elementary school, but she still has no intention of falling in love and getting married, she has only one life, that is, work, and she says that making money can give her a sense of security.
Despite her age, she still hates the blind date arranged for her by her friends and relatives, and last year she was urged to fail, and she met this boyfriend who had just broken up through social platforms.
In fact, this man, when my girlfriend first told me, I felt inappropriate. He is younger than my girlfriend, and he is still in the field, and I heard him say that he is a self-media practitioner, loves to play games, and his daily schedule is also upside down.
Girlfriends said that their relationship began only because of a sentence "Try to be friends, and you can communicate often when you have time in the future."
Not long after they were together, my girlfriend said that she found that the man was still chatting with other girls at the same time, so the two people quarreled, and then I realized that in fact, the relationship they delineated for each other was just a netizen.
This man still has a set of self-media, the daily traffic is also quite large, and he is willing to teach some of the operating methods that girlfriends need, at that time, the girlfriend once thought that this man was the most patient and temperamental man in the whole world.
They remained friends online until they met.
Once my girlfriend asked me about some headline operations, and asked me if this man was a big guy, and my first reaction was that my girlfriend was going to fall into it.
At that time, the girlfriend still said with no concern: "Rest assured, it is just a netizen, and it is impossible to be together thousands of miles apart." ”
There is no way to just tell a girlfriend: "When a person begins to be curious and develops ideas to understand others, it is actually only one step away from liking." ”
The truth was really right for me, the girlfriend liked the man, and the man said that he also liked the girlfriend, so they quickly established a relationship on the Internet.
During that time, the girlfriend's schedule also became upside down, and sometimes it was difficult to meet the girlfriend, and the girlfriend said that her hair loss was particularly serious, whether it was because of her age.
Only I, a bystander, know that my girlfriend accompanies this man until two or three o'clock in the morning every day, and then gets up at six o'clock in the morning to pack up and go to work, and how can I not lose my hair if I don't sleep for four hours a day.
Now think about it, in this period of time when her girlfriend is in love, she actually does not have what a normal couple should experience except that she is in a better mood. Even such an important thing as meeting has been delayed again and again because of the epidemic.
It wasn't until the end of last year that they met, and my girlfriend told me that they didn't say anything online, but when they met, they became cramped and uneasy, and it wasn't very comfortable to get along for just one day.
At that time, the girlfriend found that the feelings were really not confirmed across the mobile phone screen, and the difference between getting along in real life and small talk on the Internet was still very large. The worst thing is that even if the girlfriend clearly tells the other party to end the online relationship, the man still pesters the girlfriend again and again.
Now the girlfriend recalls that she and this man's time together, this man in addition to the daily on the Internet all kinds of sweet words, in fact, there is not a little bit of what she has done, gifts or anything, even if it has been separated for a long time, the girlfriend has normalized her life, this man is still there to stage a love drama, repeatedly entangled.
The girlfriend experienced this time is completely sober, and finally understand that talking and getting along with itself are two different things, after all, everyone's performance on the Internet is different from the performance in real life.
When I first graduated, I also rejected blind dates, and I didn't like online chatting because as an engineer, I had a lot to do every day, and there was no need to waste my time and energy on the Internet.
I used to think that girlfriends could be like me, choose a way they like to choose their other half.
It just didn't occur to her that she forgot that although she was older and needed to find a partner, she forgot that she needed to find a living person who could spend the rest of her life together in the future, rather than living every day on a cold mobile phone.
After all, today's network environment has become relatively complex, and the content of online chat can also be thought twice, word by word, but face-to-face communication in real life is generally unable to give interlocutors enough time to consider, so in real life, people get along with each other more intuitively and transparently.
In this era of all-media coverage and high-speed information turnover, I have to admit that the Internet has become an important part of real life, and it does provide a series of dating software, but this cannot be a direct way for us to fall in love with someone.
Because in the past few years of becoming a self-media person, I often receive a lot of private messages about emotions from readers, many of which are about online love, so I use the vision of my girlfriend to give a little advice to female friends who will be in love and are in love.
If you meet a person on the Internet, even if you can talk and have a good feeling for each other, then don't jump to conclusions, you think that this person and you must be very happy and happy.
No matter how old you are, you must remember that as long as you look across the screen, no matter how good and charming you think the person across from you is, it is actually a fantasy. And the online world is mixed, a careless encounter with garbage men, feelings are not happy, breakups have to be harassed, this is not worth the loss of a thing.
After this online dating, the girlfriend concluded that in fact, in the online world, many people only show the side they want to show or disguise.
As a married adult woman, I would like to say that whether it is love or marriage, from ancient times to the present, it is the emotional state that two people have finally presented in the continuous relationship with each other.
Never fall in love with someone across the screen, sober women know that long-term love is in life and not on the phone.