Nowadays, when we get married, it seems that we are more concerned about each other's family problems, because we feel that we can struggle for 20 years less or that this will be a big step forward in our careers, and whether we have feelings for each other seems to be so important, as long as the other party's family is suitable.
But marriage is not a child's play, nor is it a cooperation. If you approach each other with a wrong purpose at the beginning, or to run your own marriage, then the marriage will inevitably have a gap, and it will become bigger and bigger, and there will be an irreparable day after all.
Although it is said that after marriage, two people are a family, and they should also jointly assume the responsibility of two families, but no matter how good the feelings of two people are, it is impossible to involve two families, because after all, two families are because of the relationship established by two talents, it is impossible to be regarded as their own immediate family, so when they encounter a little busy, they may still do their best, but this makes many people think that their other half of the family to help themselves is a matter of course.
Kang Juan met such a husband, husband Hu Xu is a complete phoenix man, at first Kang Juan looked at Hu Xu's honest and responsible personality, but did not expect that after marriage, hu Xu's essence of phoenix man began to reveal, think that Kang Juan has money in the family, so no matter what help is deserved, and after borrowing money, it is not repaid, until Hu Xu's mother was hospitalized, Hu Xu borrowed money without borrowing, and in a rage, he proposed a divorce with his wife.
01. Discover the essence of the husband Phoenix Man
At first, Kang Juan was still very satisfied with her husband Hu Xu, because even if Hu Xu did not have any money in the family, but with his own efforts, he was also admitted to a double-first-class university, and he was honest and honest, and never did anything out of the ordinary. It is precisely because of Hu Xu's personality that Kang Juan chose to marry Hu Xu despite everyone's opposition.
However, after getting married, Kang Juan slowly discovered some bad habits of Hu Xu, because Hu Xu was poor from childhood, so Hu Xu always liked to covet some small bargains, and also had some hatred for the rich, and even unconsciously felt that Kang Juan's family had opinions about him, and then went back to lose his temper with Kang Juan.
At first, Kang Juan thought that it had hit Hu Xu's self-esteem, but she slowly found that Hu Xu was a bad problem, so she simply went from comfort at the beginning to indifference later. And it is precisely because of Kang Juan's change of attitude that Hu Xu feels that Kang Juan looks down on herself a little, so she will always be yin and yang in her daily life, which makes Kang Juan feel very uncomfortable.
Even sometimes Kang Juan didn't want to take Hu Xu to some party or family banquet. Because Hu Xu is an envious attitude on the surface, but in his heart he is very disgusted with these people, thinking that these people are not as good as his own efforts, but there is a good family, the key is that Hu Xu will complain with Kang Juan every time he goes back, which makes Kang Juan feel very helpless, if it is just some of Kang Juan's friends, but the object of Hu Xu's spit is more Kang Juan's parents and relatives.
So slowly Kang Juan also began to doubt his original choice, but no matter what, this was all a matter of his own decision, and he should also try his best to help Hu Xu twist his three views. But Hu Xu didn't think there was anything wrong with him at all. The husband and wife have also been estranged because of such things.
02. The husband borrows money and does not pay it back, or even justifies it
On this day, Hu Xu stood in front of Kang Juan as if he was particularly flattered, and then told Kang Juan that there was one thing to discuss with Kang Juan.
Kang Juan thought that Hu Xu finally understood his mistake, and also thought that Hu Xu was going to really talk to himself about the importance of this issue, but he did not expect that Hu Xu was talking about borrowing money.
"Your monthly salary is also quite a lot, why do you want to borrow so much money now?"
"What do I do with those few salaries?" Even my own smoking and drinking is not enough, I want to make a little investment myself, just a friend there is a way, but I do not have a few money in my hand, so I want to see if you have any money in your hand or can your parents give me a few? ”
"What kind of friend are you?" Is it reliable? You dare to believe him casually. And you have to know that investment is risky, it is very likely that you will lose your money, and you don't have any money yourself, isn't this an empty glove white wolf? I don't have any money in my hands lately, because I have saved the death period, and I advise you not to engage in this investment. ”
"Do you look down on me in your heart and think that I don't live with you high-class people?" Can I see the eyes? Since I think it is suitable, then I will definitely make a lot of money, and I must let you see my true ability. Don't you just have a good family, a good parent? If I stand on the same level as you, then I will not be worse than you, or even dozens of times better than you people. ”
"It's not a question like that, it's that this thing really should be thought through, and it's really not a joke."
"If you don't lend it to me, I'll ask my father-in-law and mother-in-law."
In the end, Hu Xu still asked Kang Juan's parents to borrow money, because Kang Juan's parents were not embarrassed to reject the son-in-law, even if the son-in-law usually had a little problem, but did not want to hit the son-in-law's self-confidence.
But in the end, unexpected things happened, Hu Xu's investment was not a reliable investment at all, so Hu Xu did not earn back a penny, but lost all the money. And Hu Xu actually said to Kang Juan with a straight face: "I can't pay back your parents for the money, because this is also what your parents lent me, which is equivalent to your parents' investment in me, so your parents have also indirectly invested in this project, and there must be losses and gains in investment, so you should take it as a lesson, after all, I have not made any money, so it is impossible to repay this money in vain."
"Do you still want a face?" That's what you asked my parents to borrow, how can I say that I don't pay it back? ”
"Anyway, I just don't have any money, so you can watch and do it yourself."
03. Phoenix male husband filed for divorce
After half a year, Kang Juan's brother is going to get married, so Kang Juan's parents bought a new house for her brother and spent a lot of money, so there is not much savings left in hand, and everything in life needs money, so Kang Juan's parents are really unable to open.
But at this time, Hu Xu's mother was sick and hospitalized, in fact, it is not a serious illness, but through surgery can still alleviate the pain, Hu Xu has been particularly filial to his mother since he was a child, so after learning the news, he immediately went to raise money, but after several years of experience, Hu Xu has long been no longer the person who withheld the search, so Hu Xu usually spends a lot of money and does not save a few money.
So Hu Xu thought of his father-in-law and mother-in-law at this time, and he found the door with a straight face and said to his father-in-law and mother-in-law: "Dad, Mom, I know that you are very rich, my mother is sick now, she needs a large amount of surgery fees, and now I am still 200,000 yuan short, can you lend me this money first?"
Kang Juan asked her husband doubtfully at this time: "But I heard that this operation fee is not a total of 250,000 yuan?" Do you only have 50,000 dollars in your hand? It's not that my parents won't lend it to you, but my brother is about to get married, and he has just bought a new house, and the cost of subsequent marriage must be a lot, so it is impossible to have any spare money to help you, I hope you can understand. ”
"Father-in-law and mother-in-law, do you think the same thing?"
Kang Juan's parents nodded, and then said nothing.
But Hu Xu was like a lit cannonball, and said to Kang Juan, as well as Kang Juan's parents: "Where do you have no money, but you don't treat me as a family from the beginning to the end, I know why you didn't lend me money today, don't you always think about the money I asked you to borrow some time ago?" If I had money, how could I not pay you back? Now that my mother is sick, are you just watching it? What is your heart? ”
"How come you can't understand the words?" It's not that my parents won't lend it to you, but there's really no way to borrow it, and you count yourself, how much help my parents have helped you since beating you and me married, are they doing so much, can't they exchange it for you? ”
"Okay, you don't have to talk to me so much anymore, I also know your family's attitude towards me, I tell you, today you look down on me, then another day I will definitely impress you, the marriage between the two of us is not necessary to continue, let's just divorce it, like your selfish family, I am not rare." 」
"Okay, just leave."
In the end, Hu Xu and Kang Juan went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce procedures, and the two have not seen each other since that day.
Afterwards, Hu Xu's good friend inexplicably asked Hu Xu why he chose to divorce, after all, this marriage is still Hu Xu's high climb, Hu Xu sneered, and said to his good friend: "My mother's operation is 200,000 yuan, my father-in-law has money and does not borrow to buy a new house, my divorce is wrong?"
The good friend shook his head and smiled helplessly.
In fact, marriage is a haven for two people, and when encountering anything, two people should solve it together, rather than randomly driving the other party, or calculating the other party's money, taking the help of the other party and each other's parents as a matter of course, and even not saying a word to each other in their hearts, only to feel that these help is far from enough.
In fact, to help you is kind, we are not qualified to ask anyone to help us unconditionally, not to mention that we have not paid anything in return. Even complacently feel that they deserve these good, then I think that no matter who encounters such a thing, we will not choose to lend a helping hand, only get farther and farther away from us, I think people like us are like dog skin plaster, once they are stained, they can't shake it off.
We must not make ourselves like this, because this will hurt ourselves for a lifetime, and it will also block our original vision, so that we have no way to recognize the position we are in, and only learn to be blindly arrogant.