Wen | condensed mother's understanding
The little boy was bullied and still in ignorance.
Early in the morning, the group fried the pot, and some parents indignantly said: their children were bullied by a half-grown boy, first do not name names, whose children go back to ask, take good care of the children.
It turned out that the bully was a little boy, only 6 years old, who was still in kindergarten and did not attend elementary school. While playing downstairs, a big boy asked him for forty or fifty yuan, saying that he would buy him a barbecue to eat. The grill was indeed bought back, but there were only 4 strings of gluten.
We all know that a string of gluten is only 2-2.5 yuan, 4 strings are up to 10 yuan, and there are still thirty or forty dollars left. Theoretically, the older boy should have returned some of the money, but the boy got only gluten and didn't get the rest.
In fact, the big boy was sold to the little boy in a string of 10 yuan, obviously bullying the weak, but the little boy was in the dark.
I thought it was an emergency, and it was the first time I had encountered such a thing. I didn't expect this little boy to be bullied like this more than once, and it wasn't just one child who bullied him, and several elementary school students were habitual bullies.
There have been a few children who put some second-hand cards in paper bags, written on the words super or lucky bags, the price ranges from 20 yuan to 3 yuan, known as "blind boxes", and sell them to children in this way of opening blind boxes, so that he can eat dumb losses.
Some parents commented that such a child makes a small bargain and eats a big loss, and the parents do not care, someone manages it for him.
Children being bullied are not unique
Usually, the children are very simple and kind, not like bullying. I also thought about the widespread bullying incident, which is far away from us, and I did not expect that such a thing would actually happen around us.
And, like this, there is more than one child who is bullied, like the schoolchildren who bully people.
After the parents in the group understood the ins and outs of the matter, they also remembered their children's experiences and said in a tongue-in-cheek manner:
A child bought 6 Ultraman cards from someone else for 100 yuan, still second-hand, and a child who watched the process with his own eyes could not help. There was a child who had been cheated of dozens of dollars, dared to be angry and did not dare to speak, and could only bear it himself. There was a little girl who took a bite of a child's food, the child wanted 5 cents, the little girl was just about to pay the bill for 6 yuan, fortunately, she was found by her mother to stop it. A boy was forced to buy a toy, took it and found it bad, wanted to return the money or exchange the goods, but the money was not refunded, nor was it exchanged. There was a boy with two lollipops, who was targeted by another child and forced to share them with him, and if the boy did not give them, the child would throw other children out of play with the boys and isolate him.
To sum up, in our small circle, the situation of being bullied includes two types of financial bullying and exclusion. This is what parents know, do not know, presumably it may also happen. On the way, I bump into a group of children who are calling a child "two idiots", which is also bullying others.
According to data from the China Education Tracking Survey (CEPS), there are many forms of bullying in schools, of which 16.3% are excluded, 34.5% are nicknamed; 32.3% are gossiped; 36.4% are abused.
Seeing such facts and figures, as parents, we must pay attention to the problem that children are bullied or may be bullied.
More than 20 years of experience of senior teachers: these three types of children are easy to be bullied!
Ning Mom feels that this problem is very serious, the above things happen around us, we have the opportunity to see, if the child goes to school, we can't see, then the child will not be more hurt?
Ning Mama turned this problem to a group of classmates, from kindergarten to high school, university teachers, they all have more than 20 years of teaching experience, are senior teachers, old class teachers, and know which children are easy to be bullied.
Teachers agree that the following categories of children are the most likely to be bullied.
The first category, children who look weak
Some children who are young, short, or weak-looking are particularly vulnerable to bullying, as the saying goes, "soft persimmons are always pinched."
Like the children mentioned above, because of their young age, the older children feel that they are good bullies, and they bully them unscrupulously. They know to bully them, and they won't resist. If you succeed once and taste the sweetness, there will be a second and third time.
Informed parents said that they did see individual boys, always looking at those younger children, buying and selling, and even coaxing and cheating, and had to complete the transaction.
When my mother was a child, she was always silent and did not love activities, and some boys always bullied me, and later, my brother came forward to scare them, so that I was exempt from being bullied.
The second category is children who choose to be patient with bullying
There are many children who, after being bullied, do not resist, do not tell parents and teachers, but choose to remain silent, thinking that forbearance will pass, and the bully thinks that such a child is a good bully, and more brazenly bully him again.
Chen Sihan, who was once on the hot search, fought when he was 15 years old because he was stepped on by his classmates and had a quarrel. He thought that telling teachers and parents would be frequently bullied, so he put up with it.
Unexpectedly, the bully did not stop there, but shouted a group of people after school, dragged him out of school, and bullied him together. In the confusion, Chen Sihan was stabbed, and he also stabbed the bully.
In the end, the bully died, and Chen Sihan was sentenced to 8 years in prison and compensated the other party 110,000 yuan.
In the third category, parents do not give positive guidance to children
There are also children who know that they are being bullied, but when they ask their parents for help, they suffer from cold words, even criticism and abuse, which hurts their psychology.
Some parents said, "Is this little thing?" Wouldn't you just want to hide from him? "Understated words cannot soothe the wounds in the child's heart, but make the child feel fussy."
Some parents said, "A slap does not make a sound, don't you also annoy people?" "Obviously distrusting the child, making the child feel that he is not biological, not supporting himself, but blaming himself."
Some parents said, "It doesn't matter, it's normal for children to play and make trouble." Parents do not take their children being bullied seriously, and children feel that being bullied is taken for granted and learn to go against the grain.
The taste of children being bullied is not good, parents should treat it correctly and do a good job of prevention
Every child has dignity, and being bullied must be an unpleasant experience, even for a lifetime. Therefore, when parents face their children being bullied, they must help each other and give positive guidance.
At the same time, take precautions, let the child identify what is bullying and being bullied, do not bully others, and take reasonable coping methods when being bullied to protect themselves.
Ning Mom knows the taste of being bullied, so when the child is very young, let him understand the concept of bullying, be a strong person in front of outsiders, avoid being bullied, and do a good job of self-help when being bullied.
In addition to using her personal experience to demonstrate to her children, Ning Mama also used anti-bullying enlightenment education picture books to teach her children a lesson, and his anti-bullying awareness is very strong.
Educate your children well, no longer afraid of your children being bullied, and let your children have the happiness that they should have in childhood!
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