The children of these 3 kinds of families are most likely to be "bullied" in school, and parents must find out early
It is said that campus life is the purest and happiest
But for those children who are bullied, it is tantamount to a nightmare
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In the minds of many people, campus and society are two completely different concepts
The campus is pure and joyful
Society, on the other hand, is dirty and full of misfortunes
However, "where there are people, there are rivers and lakes", and many times, the campus is not spotless
Here, there is also jealousy, there is also hurt, and there are also places where the light is not illuminated
Behind those innocent smiles and the crisp and pleasant sound of reading
There were also some heartbreaking cries, unbearable faces
Some of the so-called "strong" there are using cruel means to torture, bully, and bully the inconspicuous "weak" again and again
According to the survey data of "Seeing School Bullying"
More than half of the 36,000 respondents have been bullied on campus
For many bullied students, the experience at that time undoubtedly deeply affected their physical and mental development
Even many people, even after many years, still have not been able to get out of the shadow of being bullied
Those days were like nightmares, haunted by hearts, seriously affecting their happiness and life
01
Bullied, does it work?
Some people say that if you are bullied, you will fight back
But for bullied students, does it really work?
Not to mention that bullies are all gangs, and those who are bullied are mostly alone
Many times, resistance is not only useless, but also makes the child more horrific to bully
Even if the child fights back fiercely, it is likely to be because of a momentary misstep
And make mistakes
Because it is useless to resist in the face of fierce bullies
I don't know if you remember the name Chen Sihan
A few years ago, Chen Sihan was an ordinary child, and one day he lined up in the canteen to eat
As a result, a boy in front of him stomped on him fiercely, although it was also unintentional
However, the boy did not apologize at all, which still made Chen Sihan feel very uncomfortable
So he reminded the other person
"You just stepped on me"
I didn't expect the other party to say to him in a very impulsive tone
"What's wrong with you wanting to step on you?"
So the two flesh-and-blood men fought in the canteen and fought fiercely
Originally, Chen Sihan thought that this matter had passed, but after school at noon, Chen Sihan was blocked in the corridor by the other party and his accomplices
They punched and kicked Chen Sihan, and the hands were more fierce than one
Threatened him when he was done
"Don't think that I will be afraid to tell the teacher, let me know that you play a small report, and see you once in the future"
So he chose to swallow his anger and swallow his breath, neither telling the teacher nor going home to tell his parents
What he did not expect was that the other party did not seem to be relieved enough, so after school in the afternoon
The bullying got him in again, and this time they dragged him out of school, not only insulting him in various languages, but also killing him in his fists and feet
Soon Chen Sihan was beaten to the point where his flesh and blood were blurred, and his head was dizzy and unable to distinguish the direction
At this moment, he suddenly noticed that someone next to him was holding a knife, so he desperately grabbed it
But before he could raise his knife, the boy who stepped on him stabbed him in the back
In an instant, the pain of being bullied and the fear of death were all intertwined in Chen Sihan's heart
So he raised the knife in his hand with all his strength and stabbed it into the heart of the bully
After that, the two were taken to the hospital, and fortunately Chen Sihan woke up quickly
Unfortunately, the boy was stabbed to death and never survived
Then, overnight, Chen Sihan, who should have been a victim, became the perpetrator
Not only did his parents have to compensate the other party for 110,000 yuan, Chen Sihan was also sentenced to 8 years in prison, and he was only fifteen years old
02
Children of these 3 types of families are the most likely to be bullied
It should have been the best youth
But because he provoked some rotten people, he ruined his whole life
After reading Chen Sihan's story, I was really distressed and helpless
For the school bullying thing, I have paid more attention to it since then, and I just have a good friend
After teaching at the school for many years, I asked him
"According to your experience, what kind of children are easy to be bullied and bullied by their classmates"
As a result my friend replied
"You've really asked the right person, and I've been following this question for a long time
According to my teaching experience and various data I have seen, the children of these 3 families are the most likely to be bullied by others."
Children are bullied, parents love to say "it's okay"
When I was in junior high school, I was shorter than the kids around me
Therefore, there are several classmates in the class who always like to bully me, especially my table mates
Every time I asked him to help him with his homework, once I refused, the same table would twist and pinch me in various ways
Sometimes, they even do it directly to me
Once my arm was scratched by him and bloodied
Just when the teacher saw it, he called his parents to come and talk
As a result, when I cried and told my mother that my tablemates had bullied me and showed her my bloodied arms
Instead of making decisions for me, my mother took the initiative to say to the other party, "It's just a fight with the children, it doesn't matter."
The other party even insisted on taking me to the hospital to see, so as not to leave any scars in the future
My mom waved her hand and said
"Such a small injury, in a few days I will be fine, it doesn't matter"
In this way, those classmates bullied me even more brazenly
And I was disappointed in my mother and never told her again
Even later, when I grew up and suffered any grievances outside, I chose to suffer in silence and never told my mother again
We have to admit that those children who do not have parents always like to report good news and not bad news
Therefore, it is easier to be targeted by bullies
Children are bullied, and parents love to say "How can I bully you?" ”
It is often seen in life that children are bullied outside
Crying and going home to tell his parents, the parents did not protect him, but instead questioned the child sharply
"How can people bully you, are you doing something bad?"
"I don't like your personality, you can change it yourself."
"Hit a few times will die, crying and crying to see the annoyance, no wonder others beat you"
Such parents, not only can not protect the child, but always "sprinkle salt" on the child's injured wounds
Over time, children will get used to swallowing their breath and accepting it
And the children who bullied her naturally became more fearless
Children are bullied, parents love to say "ignore them"
Some parents always think that they have a reason to go all over the world
When encountering things that children are bullied, they always like to pretend to be "reasonable guests" and like to tell children
"Ignore them and be yourself"
But forget that in life, if you don't ignore others, others won't come and harass you
If the bullies were so reasonable, there would be no bullying
The film queen Ma Sichun once said
When she was in school, she was often bullied by her classmates, mocking her for being fat, squeezing her, and bullying her
Someone even added rag water, chalk ash, etc. to her drink
But when she went home and told her parents, they just said it lightly
"Ignore them"
In this way, Ma Sichun's personality became more and more sensitive and inferior
Even after the success of his career, he was deeply trapped in the shadow of the year and could not get out, and once suffered from depression
As parents, we must be a safe haven for our children
Pay more attention to them, pay more attention to their feelings, only in this way can children avoid being bullied
And once they are bullied, they can also seek help early, so as to get out of the predicament with our help
Well, that's it for today, see you next time