In married life, to be able to go on happily for a long time, it must require the joint efforts of both husband and wife, and joint efforts to get it, but in real life, there will often be one of them who will pay more, and in general, most of the people who sacrifice themselves for the family are women.
People often say that the male and female protagonists, almost everyone knows that if there is a person who stays at home and takes care of the family, it must be a woman
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Talk before you get married
When in love,
Couples only consider whether two people love each other, whether they have common hobbies, and whether they are suitable for being together. However, when you really enter the married life, there are also sweet times, but family problems gradually increase.
In the eyes of many men, wives do not work outside, do not have to experience the hardships of working outside, do not need to face complex interpersonal relationships outside, etc., but they have never considered the hardships of being a housewife, always feel that there is nothing to be busy at home, is not to cook, to see the children?
01.
In love
Li Yufen and her husband Feng Lidong are college classmates, both of them are also each other's first love, they have been in love for six years and finally entered a married life, Li Yufen thought he could be happy for a lifetime, but after marriage, he found that life is really a chicken feather, not as easy as lip service.
Li Yufen was born from an ordinary family, her parents are also very ordinary office workers, Li Yufen also has a younger brother, li Yufen has been particularly sensible since she was a child, listening to the teacher's words at school, studying hard, returning home to listen to her parents, helping her parents to do some housework, and helping her mother to take care of her brother, which also makes her parents particularly pleased.
Li Yufen with excellent results to get their ideal university, but also found their own love in this university, when they were in high school, there were boys who wrote love letters to Li Yufen, Li Yufen also knew that she had not yet reached the age of love, she knew what was more important, so she did not enter early love prematurely.
In college, she has become an adult, and the little girls are eager to have a sweet love in college, and Li Yufen is no exception. Sitting in the front row of Li Yufen, she has actually paid attention to a long time, the boys listen to the lectures in class extra seriously, usually very polite to the classmates, giving people a sense of tranquility, Li Yufen knows that she has secretly promised, she likes this quiet boy.
So she bravely confessed to Feng Lidong, of course, she was directly rejected, but fortunately, she begged Bai Lai to ask Feng Lidong for WeChat, and then Li Yufen asked Feng Lidong for advice from time to time, and sometimes she would ask for dinner and thank you because people solved her problems.
In this way, the two people slowly became acquainted, Feng Lidong was also touched by Li Yufen's insistence, not only the two announced their love, Feng Lidong's family and Li Yufen's family are similar, not very rich, during the university period, both of them are also very frugal, never spend money carelessly.
Soon the two people who graduated from college found a suitable job in the local area, after the work, the two chose to live together, the feelings of the two people became more and more deep, after working for two years, Feng Lidong proposed to Li Yufen to go home to see his parents, there was no problem to get married, after all, he also reached the age of marriage.
02.
Life after marriage
Due to Feng Lidong's general family conditions, Li Yufen did not ask their family to buy a marriage house for themselves, but Li Yufen's parents asked for a lot of dowry, although most of the dowry money was also married to Li Yufen, but this also made Li Yufen always feel embarrassed, and then feng Lidong was even better.
The two families discussed the marriage, it did not take long to handle the wedding banquet, after marriage Li Yufen and her husband lived in the house they rented, now there is no house of their own, does not mean that there will be no future, Li Yufen feels that as long as the husband and wife are willing to work hard, the days will be prosperous.
After marriage, the two also discussed not having children for the time being, waiting for the day to buy a house and then mention the child's matter, after three years of hard work, the husband and wife finally bought their own house, when living in the new home, the two hugged each other tightly, everything is so beautiful.
Soon Li Yufen became pregnant and gave birth to a daughter, at this time Feng Lidong's mother also offered to help the couple with the child, Li Yufen of course willing to mother-in-law to come to the home, so that the old man with the child, he can also continue to go out to work, indeed after the mother-in-law came, most of the things in the family are done by the mother-in-law, for which Li Yufen is also particularly grateful to the mother-in-law.
After having a mother-in-law at home with a child, Li Yufen continued to return to work, busy at work during the day, and returned home from work at night, Li Yufen slept with her child by herself, although it was very tiring, but who let herself be a mother, she could not throw everything to her mother-in-law.
Knowing that her husband is also tired after a day of work, So Li Yufen never asks her husband to help herself see the children after work, as far as possible not to bother her husband, I thought that life would continue to be so happy, but unfortunate things happened.
Mother-in-law accidentally slipped in the bathroom when taking a bath at home, sprained waist, can only lie on the bed, this time the child is not taken care of, the mother-in-law also has to have someone to take care of, the moment Feng Lidong and Li Yufen proposed, let her resign at home with the child by the way to take care of the elderly, at first Li Yufen wanted to refuse, said that you can ask for a nanny.
However, Feng Lidong said that the money for the nanny is higher than your salary, and it is not cost-effective, and the nanny is not safe this year, and the Internet is full of nannies abusing children, so it is better to bring it at home. So under the persuasion of her husband, Li Yufen quit her job and became a housewife at home.
03.
quarrel
At first, Feng Lidong felt some guilt about his wife's resignation, so when he returned home from work at the beginning, he would also help Li Yufen do some housework and help take care of the children, but such a day did not last long, and soon Feng Lidong was impatient, and when he returned home from work, he was too tired from work, so he went back to the bedroom to lie and play with his mobile phone.
Li Yufen did not say a word of no to this, she thought of insisting on it again, and waiting until the child went to kindergarten. Who knows that recently because the husband's company efficiency is not very good, the salary is not as good as before, so the husband directly began to implement strict control over the family's economy, and those who can not spend money must not spend.
In addition to buying some necessities for the child, Li Yufen even ran out of cosmetics and wanted to buy a bottle of essence, and was also lectured by her husband for half a day, saying that she stayed at home all day and did not come out, spending money to buy cosmetics is a waste of money, and finally did not buy. After learning that her brother was about to hold a wedding, Li Yufen, as an older sister, thought of discussing with her husband how much gift money to give her brother.
"Don't make money, don't spend it, your brother is married with 300 is enough", Li Yufen originally said to her husband that she wanted to take 1,000 yuan of gift money, and after hearing her husband's words, she was particularly angry and said: "That is my brother, I am a sister to take 300 yuan, do you think it is appropriate, 1000 yuan is quite small." ”
"How is it inappropriate, what is the situation in our family you don't know?" You don't earn money, and you have to give so much money to your brother, do you think it is appropriate? ”
"Is it my fault that I don't make money? Who was it that made me quit my job and go home as a housewife? You asked me to take care of my mother-in-law and take care of my children, is my mother-in-law my mother? Or is the child alone? I've said it for so long, haven't I? You have to think that I don't earn money and am not qualified to spend money, that line, let's change, I go out to earn money, you take care of the family at home. ”
Li Yufen's response hit Feng Lidong in the face fiercely, and soon he realized his mistake, took the initiative to admit his mistake to his wife, and then handed his salary card to his wife, saying that in the future, the family's money would be managed by his wife, and he would spend it as much as he wanted.
In life, there are many men who feel that their wives take care of their in-laws at home and take the children to do housework at home, which is a matter of course, but if a family wants to go further, then two people must jointly take on all the things in the family, instead of using going to work as an excuse to leave everything in the family to the wife alone.
Behind a successful man there must be a woman who supports you, no woman at home to take care of everything, can a man have a warm home after working outside? Everyone must learn to think differently and consider problems from each other's point of view, so that the family will be more harmonious.