Don't let a bad parent-child relationship "hurt" your child, because it can hurt your child profoundly

How to get along with children? This is a question that many parents ponder, because the parent-child relationship between the child and the parent determines to a large extent how the child will treat the parent in the future.

Parents who have a good relationship with their children can better communicate with their children and educate their children to be more worry-free and labor-saving. And a parent who has a poor relationship with his child is more like his enemy to his child.

Ah Xia's son is in the first year of junior high school this year, but he has shown a rebellion that is different from ordinary people, not only often does not listen carefully to lectures in school classes, but also often sneaks to the nearby Internet café to surf the Internet after school, no matter how Ah Xia scolds him, he is a dead pig who is not afraid of boiling hot water.

The various performances of her son made Ah Xia feel very confused, because in her impression, her son was very good in elementary school, not only had excellent academic performance, but also listened to his parents at home.

In fact, the reason why Ah Xia's son will become like this is largely influenced by Ah Xia, because Ah Xia's own desire to control is very strong, she almost arranged everything in her son's life, once her son does not follow his own ideas, he will be scolded by himself, it can be said that her son has been living in repression for a long time. So when she reached junior high school, Ah Xia's adolescent son began to rebel against her "tyranny".

Parent-child relationship is very important for parents and children, incorrect parent-child relationship will bury hidden dangers, one day will erupt to hurt parents and children.

These kinds of bad parent-child relationships will "harm" your children, and parents must avoid them

Parents who dot on their children too much will make their children selfish

I remember watching a video in which a mother in her 40s was beaten by her fifteen or sixteen-year-old daughter.

The reason was that the mother did not buy her daughter the latest Apple mobile phone, and after the incident, the police came to the mother's home to educate her daughter, but the mother tried to stop it.

This mother did not blame her daughter in the slightest, but instead blamed herself for not being able to buy a new mobile phone for her daughter, which made many netizens can't help but sigh that "poor people must have something to hate."

Parents behave too doting on the child, but it is not conducive to the growth of the child, in the long run, the child will think that all the parents do is taken for granted, not only will not have a grateful heart, but will begin to become selfish.

Once his parents failed to meet his demands, he would instead blame them.

When the child really enters the society in the future, this kind of personality is difficult to get along with others.

When the parents who throw their hands in charge, let the child be indifferent to family affection

Left-behind children have always been a serious problem in society, because forced to make a living, many parents choose to go away to seek a living, leaving their children with their grandparents in their hometowns, and can only meet with their children a few times a year.

In this long run, the parent-child relationship will become more and more weak, and even make the child feel resentful of the parents in his heart.

Therefore, as a parent, if you have the conditions, try to take the child with you, do not miss the growth of the child, even if you are forced to stay away from the child to work, you must often contact the child, so that you can maintain the affection between the two sides, and will not let the child become weak to the family affection.

Parents who are too controlling are prone to let their children go to extremes

Parents who are too controlling like Ah Xia above will either make their children very rebellious or make their children very uninsive.

I have a distant relative who is the kind of parent who is too controlling, and his children do not become extremely rebellious like Ah Xia's children.

Instead, he became extremely unassertioned, had no plans for his life, and basically all things were decided by his parents for him.

Therefore, parents must not try to control everything about their children, so that one day they will be regurgitated, try to learn to let go, let the children think about how to do, how to choose, so that the children can become more independent, and the parent-child relationship between the two sides will become better.

If parents want to be closer to their children, they must do these two things

Try to understand your child's inner thoughts

As parents, we must not think that the child is still young, just make up our own minds to help the child arrange everything, try to listen to the child's true thoughts, if the child's idea is correct, try to support the child, let the child bravely take their first step.

If the child's idea is wrong, try to persuade the child to change his wrong thoughts. Do not blame the child and criticize the child at every turn, which will not only easily arouse the child's rebellious psychology, but also make the parent-child relationship tense.

Grasp the degree of discipline of the child

According to the survey of relevant institutions, most families with tense parent-child relationships often do not grasp the degree of discipline of children, either because they are too strict with their children and let them be in a very depressing environment, or they ignore their children and let them do what they want to do without scruples, both of which are not conducive to the growth of children.

Therefore, it is particularly important to grasp the degree of discipline of children, after the child makes a mistake, parents must not blame and scold the child as soon as they come up, they must first find out the origin of the matter, and then take a reasonable way to make the child realize his mistake.

epilogue

Parent-child relationship often determines the relationship between children and parents when they grow up, as parents we must learn how to get along with children and establish intimate relationships with children.

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