Wrong choice? I'm sorry, there is no regret medicine in the world, you can only pack up your mood and move on

The girlfriend sent a group photo of her and her husband at the event site, the two of them were ten fingers linked, the smile was bright, the happiness was overflowing, and it looked very sweet.

People say that only mandarin ducks are envious, and happy marriages always make others envious. Especially for decades as a day, the feelings of love are even more rare than Shi Jian's feelings.

In contrast, I feel that my vision of choosing a mate at that time was more than 108,000 miles, more precisely, whether marriage was based on love, which determined the world of difference in future life, which is the so-called "difference of a millimeter, a thousand miles of fallacy" .

But, I'm sorry, there is no regret medicine in the world, you can only pack up your mood and move on.

First, choice is a difficult problem faced at all times in life

In infancy, you can't talk, you have no choice, you can only express your will by crying, you are thirsty, you cry; you are hungry, you cry; you want to sleep, you cry; you want to pull the poop, you cry; you want to go out and play, cry; your mother is gone, cry... But fortunately, at that time, there were adults to help you make choices, and you didn't have the trouble of choosing.

In early childhood, you learn to walk, learn to talk, and gradually you have the right to choose, you can choose to take the big road or the small road, take the straight road or the detour, you can choose to say "no", choose what you like to eat, your favorite toys, etc. But all your behavior is controlled by adults within a certain range.

When you grow up a little longer and go to kindergarten, you can choose which children to play with, and you can choose hobbies, such as painting, doing crafts, singing, dancing, sports, etc. However, you can't choose which kindergarten to go to, who will be your teacher, who you will become classmates with, diet is prescribed, and a nap is a must.

When you reach the age of 6 and you are in elementary school, you can choose to listen carefully to the lectures, complete the homework assigned by the teacher on time, and get good results in the exams, or you can choose to go to class half-heartedly, do homework sloppily, and the exams are a mess.

However, primary school may be the first dividing line of your life, good grades, means that you may go to key middle schools, key universities, and find good jobs in the future; and poor grades, it means that you can only go to ordinary middle schools or vocational middle schools, take an ordinary university or go out to work after graduating from high school.

You're relieved to finish your studies and walk out of school, but you still have to face countless choices, such as job hunting, what industry to pursue, what position to choose, how to stand out from the competition, how to deal with relationships, and so on.

Immediately after, you have to fall in love, find a partner, choose a life partner, get married, have children, all of which are inseparable from choice.

It is no exaggeration to say that as long as people live, they cannot do without choice at any time.

Second, choice determines the future direction of life

To a certain extent, the choice determines your future life direction and quality of life.

For example, if you choose to be a good student, strive for the upstream, have excellent grades, enter a key university, and practice a skill, then, the next means that you can choose excellent job opportunities and harvest high salaries; but if you do not study hard and cope with your studies with an indifferent learning attitude, then your future is likely to be in a variety of situations, and the positions you can choose after graduation are extremely limited, and it will be normal to receive a low salary and not being able to make ends meet.

For example, when you are young, you are satisfied with commuting to work on time from nine to five, lying flat in your spare time, playing games, chasing dramas, playing cards, and rubbing mahjong, then you don't expect people to have a comfortable day in middle age. Your bank account amount is limited, in the face of pressure from the old and the young, stretched, and even facing unemployment at any time, at this time, you regret it in vain.

The same is true of marriage, and the right choice determines the quality of marriage.

If you choose someone who loves you to get married, you will enjoy the treatment of being loved, and in his or her eyes, what you say and do is perfect and impeccable.

If you choose someone you love to marry, you will be physically and mentally exhausted, because the other party will not care about any of your feelings, you are destined to pay more, and over time, you will inevitably be mentally unbalanced and will feel unworthy.

Of course, the ideal state of marriage is to go in both directions, love each other, support each other, and work hard together to build a small family.

Since the choice will affect the subsequent state, then when we make a choice, we must be cautious and cautious, and do not neglect the long-term development for the sake of coveting temporary comfort.

Third, choose the remedial measures after the error

The average person who chooses the wrong choice will only regret it one by one, lamenting how they would have been if they had not chosen that way, but regret will not help, you know, the past is the past, it has become history.

Instead of sighing, it is better to face up to this mistake and seriously think about how to remedy it and minimize the loss. For details, you can refer to the following methods:

1. Establish the spirit of lifelong learning

There is a Chinese saying: "Live to be old, learn to be old." ”

Gorky once said, "It's never too late to learn." "As long as you have the heart to learn, it is not too late to start at any time.

It doesn't matter if we don't learn well in school, we can still learn in work or life, accumulate experience, or go to the library to read, or enroll in training courses to improve our knowledge literacy from all levels.

2. Set goals in life and implement them

Life is made up of stage after stage, and at each stage, we need to set appropriate goals and break them down.

Understand the strengths and weaknesses of the self, take advantage of the strengths and avoid the weaknesses, maximize the advantages, do what you are interested in, force yourself to achieve the set goals, in the long run, you will find that life is full of surprises, and your potential can be infinite.

3. Timely discovery of errors and correction

There are too many choices, sometimes it is inevitable to make mistakes in judgment and make wrong choices, but it is not tight, we can try to correct or re-choose the right path.

There is nothing in the world for nothing, even if it is wrong, we can learn lessons and sum up experience, after all, failure is the mother of success.

4. Peace of mind and firm confidence in moving forward

If a person chooses the wrong one, the next mentality is very important, if you only stare at the mistake entanglement, then you will fall into regret and self-blame, let yourself be depressed; if you look down on the consequences of the mistake and correct it immediately, then it is possible to get back on the right track.

Just like choosing the wrong marriage partner, then you can choose to break up, withdraw from the wrong relationship, adjust your mood, yearn for another new relationship, or choose to grow yourself, because marriage is only a part of life, not the whole of life.

There is also an attitude, since you have chosen, do not regret it, go on without hesitation, get used to it, look down on it, and after a long time, you will find that it is not a matter of importance.

In short, the choice itself is difficult, right and wrong have a half chance, life is a long road, everything is possible, we can't regret every wrong choice. Calm your mind, adjust your mood at all times, and bravely move forward.