A virtuous marriage can bring growth and new life to people; a vicious marriage can lead to painful results, and the initiators of this pain are often dependent, demanding and fantasizing!
Haiqing and Tong Yao starred in the family emotional drama "Heart Residence", which is currently second only to "Rest of Life" with a huge fan base, and has achieved the second best result in the popularity of the whole network.
If "The Rest of Life" is not joined by Xiao Zhan and Yang Zi, the two top-notch joins, according to the current popularity of "Heart Residence", maybe it will be able to climb to the top of the table.
A drama with no traffic and more realistic themes can have such a high popularity, which must have a "magic weapon" that can attract the audience and retain the audience.
Yes, the magic weapon "Heart Residence" does have: marriage, house, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, etc., these things that the audience can see and touch in reality are magic weapons that can hook them and let them stay and savor the plot.
Since "Heart Residence" is too widely involved in real life, it is not realistic to use an article to conduct a detailed analysis, so today I will take its "3 pairs of marriages" for analysis to see what enlightenment can be brought to us!
At present, there are "3 pairs" of newlyweds who have been married in "Heart Residence", and there are "3 pairs" related to the Gu family in the main line, one pair is Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei, one pair is Gu Xin and Ge Yue, and the other is Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan.
I don't know if you found out when you watched the play that the marriages of "these 3 couples" all have one thing in common, that is, they are all united by one party.
Feng Xiaoqin chased gu lei, Gu Xin climbed ge yue, and Gu Qingyu attached Shi Yuan upside down, although their catch-up had a certain difference in nature, but in the end it was only when one side rushed that they were finally combined.
Situations like theirs are actually very common in real society, and Xiaobian has heard of such things from the mouths of relatives and friends.
Since there is the same nature and social universality, the marriage that the "3 pairs" are promoted by one party to catch up with, whether there is happiness in the end, and whether there is a good ending, is very worthy of our careful analysis and discussion.
Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei
The combination of Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei is Feng Xiaoqin's initiative, and her motivation for pursuing Gu Lei is still somewhat impure.
First, she wanted to take root in Shanghai through Gu Lei, and second, she wanted to buy another house belonging to a small family of two through the Gu family.
In the plot, we also saw that Feng Xiaoqin was not happy after marriage.
Because of her calculations and careful thinking, she accidentally lost her husband who was easy to be pinched by her, and she knew that no one in the Gu family would listen to her in the future, and the only choice in the future was to rely on herself.
Now she has taken up the job of delivering food, which is tiring and tiring, but she can live a much more dignified life now than before.
Why can't Feng Xiaoqin's marriage be happy?
Life goals always want to rely on others to achieve, too attached to the other half, slowly lose themselves, do everything has become a matter of course.
Greed is still big, but do not want to work hard to get what they want, all day long to calculate, so that everyone in the family has no peace to live.
Therefore, the reason why Feng Xiaoqin's marriage is not happy is: not self-reliant, not self-loving, and the desire is still large.
Gu Xin and Ge Yue
Gu Xin's marriage to Ge Yue was Gu Xin's effort to climb the High Branch of the Ge family, he dumped his girlfriend, and Ge Yue's interaction with Ge Yue was carefully coped with from the beginning.
From eating and talking, to buying a house, to marriage arrangements, where to live after marriage, Gu Xin's family all let the Ge family, all listen to the Ge family's arrangements, and the Gu family will always be inferior in front of the Ge family.
But the days are long, the more angry, naturally it will make people depressed, Gu Xin's family does not dare to say the Ge family's parents, but it is always okay to talk about the daughter-in-law Ge Yue!
Ge Yue, a person who grew up in a strong family environment, is a good bully, so that there is a gap between husband and wife, and they can't get over a piece.
Later, the big tree of the Ge family fell, Gu Mama and Gu Xin revealed their true faces, Gu Mama used words everywhere to ridicule the Ge family, Gu Xin no longer accommodated the Ge family, and the contradiction between Gu Xin and Ge Yue was getting deeper and deeper every day.
It is said that later they divorced, and Gu Xin also did something illegal and entered the bureau.
It can really be said that climbing is not white, the tree is scolded and disobeyed, the heart is suffocated, and the willful chaos comes to ruin a lifetime.
Why did Gu Xin's marriage not get happy?
He regarded marriage as a shortcut to life, and in order to be able to climb the ladder of power, he and his family gave up their dignity and unconditionally obeyed and tolerated others.
After being counted, but the heart is very unhappy, all the time do not want to get rid of this situation as soon as possible, and finally steal the chicken can not become a corrosion of rice, and he has become a joke in the eyes of others.
Therefore, the reasons why Gu Xin's marriage is unhappy are: the heart is not right, he wants to take shortcuts, and his psychological endurance is poor.
Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan
The combination of these two people is entirely because Gu Qingyu's persistence has touched Shi Yuan, and the two people have no problem of anyone attaching to anyone in terms of materials.
But even so, Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan's married life has not been able to live a happy life.
They always respect each other after marriage, and there is basically nothing else to talk about except kind words.
The man's self-esteem is extremely strong, and he always hides from the woman to do it alone, and does not accept the woman's assistance if he has financial difficulties.
The woman always wants to intervene to help the man solve the problem, but she always does not thank the effort, and when she is angry, she does not talk to the man, but goes to a friend to say.
In the novel "Heart Residence", Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan divorced after more than 3 months of marriage, there may be some differences in the play, but it should not be able to run the end of divorce in the end.
Why gu Qingyu's marriage cannot be happy?
She wants to find her youth and her original self through Shi Yuan, because Shi Yuan is her only witness.
But this was just her wishful thinking, she and Shi Yuan had not seen each other for so many years, and Shi Yuan and she were not people of the same world for a long time.
And now she still fantasized that she wanted to return to the original point with Shi Yuan, how could this be possible?
Therefore, the reason why Gu Qingyu's marriage is not happy is that he is too naïve, finds the wrong person, and finally does what he does is wrong.
At this point of view, the "3 pairs of rush marriages" in "Heart Residence", although the nature is slightly different, but the results are not the same: no pair can live happily, so it can be seen that this kind of rush marriage is not advisable.
How should we treat love, how should we treat marriage?
The editor said that his opinion, maybe right, maybe not, just as a reference, as for how you will treat it in the end, it depends on yourself.
Before loving people, we must first stand on our own feet, first love ourselves, and never use the way of catching up to please and chase a person, no matter what the reason, I think it is not advisable.
Because the love and marriage obtained in this way are not only difficult to make you happy, but may also bring you humiliation and torture, and even end up making you live even more miserable than you are now, the "3 pairs" in "Heart Residence" are living examples.
The best state of marriage is to grow together as equals and hand in hand, don't stop learning because you are married, lose yourself, give up independence, and rely on others for everything, so that you will only become another Feng Xiaoqin, and then it will be too late to understand.
Happiness, always rely on their own efforts to fight, no matter when and where, remember: must not lose the ability to obtain happiness!