Heirloom丨Yangzheng qi 丨 Cast clan soul 丨 promote development
Author: Zou Nanjiang
He regards his wife, who has suffered from Alzheimer's disease for many years, as his first love, and as his neighbor as his family. In the quiet countryside, he used the discipline of the army to restrain himself, bravely took responsibility, optimistic and positive, led the whole family to bypass the ups and downs of fate, and used his own practical actions to educate the next generation, the whole family and the beauty and happiness. He is a model old man who is kind and kind and widely praised by the villagers - Chen Tianshou!
He said to his children and grandchildren, "Man must be responsible, he must be responsible, he must be loving... ”
Chen Tianshou and his wife took a group photo
Chen Tianshou's wife has suffered from Senile dementia for many years, which would have been unfortunate, but he had to live a life like love with his wife and children, and was praised by everyone.
Chen Tianshou, born in 1949 in an ordinary rural family in Honghuayuan Village, Luodu Town, Yuechi County, Guang'an City, is a person who grew up with New China. After 12 years in the army, he has cultivated a good body and developed a good habit of being helpful and willing to pay. Chen Tianshou has been working as a farmer at home since he retired from the army. Having a son and a daughter, they are all married, and the family is happy and happy.
Since his wife and children got Alzheimer's disease (Alzheimer's disease) six years ago, they have disrupted Chen Tianshou's living habits, but it has not had much impact on their family happiness index, but it has made their families more united, more harmonious, and more warm.
Chen Tianshou has a particularly good temper, taking care of his wife every day to eat and drink Lasa, taking good care of his old wife and children; doing housework, doing farm work, no matter how hard and tired, there is no complaint. He was praised by the villagers as a model husband, and his family was a model family.
Chen Tianshou said that this was his responsibility and responsibility. This is the minimum moral quality of being a soldier!
In fact, it is very hard to take care of a person with Alzheimer's disease.
Under Chen Tianshou's careful care, his lover's clothes are clean at any time and anywhere, if you don't communicate with his lover, you will definitely not see that she has been senile and demented for many years. To be honest, how many people who take good care of their lovers can take care of them for ten years? Normal couples can't do it, but Chen Tianshou has no complaints or regrets, he did. Villagers often see them walking hand in hand on country roads. Say they weren't so loving when they were younger. The villagers in the left and right gave him a thumbs up and praised him one after another, praising Chen Tianshou for not abandoning his sick wife and pampering him in every way.
When Chen Tianshou's lover had just been diagnosed with the disease, he was also dazed, helpless, and sad at that time... Miscellaneous tastes.
Over the years, the lover's condition has not improved, more and more serious, but fortunately, the lover's physical condition is good, the body is good.
Chen Tianshou said that the lover does not know anyone now, and everyone who sees him is the same, no matter how old he is, the man calls his brother and the woman calls his sister. Humming little songs all day, not to mention, sometimes the little songs sung are still very rhyming.
Chen Tianshou's lover's life is completely unable to take care of himself, dressing and eating need help, even defecation does not know to go to the toilet, solve it on the spot. Things are littered and hidden everywhere. It is indeed not easy to take good care of such a patient.
The first thing Chen Tianshou did when he got up every morning was to change his lover's diapers - at night, he would put on her diapers for fear of wetting the bed.
The day I went just met Chen Tianshou's daughter Chen Xiao'er back to her mother's house, was moving things to the house in a big bag, which had a lot of diapers, and began to feel strange, they didn't have children at home, and then they talked about it and learned that it was originally bought for their mother.
Because his lover defecates anytime and anywhere, Chen Tianshou has to do N times of hygiene every day, clean up the room N times, and wash a lot more clothes than normal people. What others see when they go to his house is always a clean person, a clean and tidy home.
In recent years, Chen Tianshou's lover has eaten, just like a child of about one year old, who needs to be fed to eat, and he has to rely on coaxing to eat. However, Chen Tianshou was patient and meticulous, knowing the amount of food his lover had eaten and feeding her a soft full. Multiple meals a day, meals.
In his spare time, Chen Tianshou took his lover out hand in hand, and Yanran was a couple in love. When you meet friends and countrymen, some people will joke: "You have come out again to play friends." His lover will take the initiative to chat with others, say hello, just don't know people, called brothers and sisters, what she said is not clear, so everyone let her talk to herself, occasionally smile, she will also laugh. She looked at everyone, maybe not knowing what others were saying, but she would get involved in the topic, and when someone took the initiative to mention her name, she seemed to be able to feel it, but did not know how to express her emotions like a child who could not understand words.
Chen Tianshou's lover has Senile dementia, often throwing things around, hiding things, and when he wants to use them, he can't find them. Later, monitoring was installed at home, one is to find things quickly and easily, and the other is to let the children who are working hard for their lives in other places can see their situation at home anytime and anywhere, and have more protection for safety.
Chen Tianshou will also plant a little crop, raise some poultry, and be self-sufficient. The village is basically left-behind elderly, and he will also take the initiative to help the villagers in need.
Chen Tianshou loved
Chen Tianshou said that before his lover fell ill, he was a strong, independent, hard-working and kind woman, and before the family's big things and small things would be handled together.
Son Chen Yong recalled: In my heart, my mother was the one who had always shielded the family from the wind and rain.
Now she couldn't do anything, and she relied on her father to take care of her. It's hard work to talk to Dad here. We were relieved to have Dad taking care of Mom. In the past few years, there was no epidemic, we would take her out of Shenzhen to live for a while, and the responsibility of taking care of her fell on her daughter-in-law Xiaolin: helping her bathe, feeding her three meals a day, changing clothes, taking her out shopping........ When we returned to our hometown, we took care of our mother together.
Daughter-in-law Kobayashi said: When my mother-in-law was just sick, I don't know if everyone had experienced it, but I really felt the feeling of heartache at that time, a feeling of helplessness and sadness... I know that this illness has taken away her memories, whether she remembers me or not, but I will still treat her as a mother as always, I have been married to the Chen family for decades, and she was also my mother.
Chen Tianshou's grandson Xiao Chen said: I now have children, I want to learn from my grandfather, to be a loving, responsible good husband, a good father... The happiness of our juniors is inseparable from my grandfather's words and deeds.
Chen Tianshou sighed: Now that we are really old, we have to face the fact that we will be parted one day, but as I often say, the diseases and facts that are powerless to change must be bravely faced, and we just want to make this day come a little slower and slower as much as possible. Most importantly, I want to take care of myself, take care of my lover, especially my own emotions. Alzheimer's patients often have extraordinary actions, and for caregivers, it means endless one-way giving. So taking care of your lover for a long time, sometimes you feel the loss of inner strength. Fortunately, the children often call back or video chat, which is also a comfort. Taking care of your loved one is also your responsibility and obligation. But in order to let the children have no worries, I must do a good job and let them work hard for their careers when they are away.
Chen Tianshou, an old man in his seventies, can use a smart phone, has a tough body, is optimistic and positive, and has boundless love, which is exemplary. This spirit of his is worth thinking about and learning.
This spirit is an accumulation of the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation and a spirit of advancing with the times that continues to develop with the progress of the times.
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