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A friend told me: "Today's young girls don't like uncles, especially post-00s girls, most of them are not willing to accept men who are more than three years older than themselves, but they do not resist boys who are younger than themselves." ”
This situation is indeed different from the past, when women would never accept a man younger than themselves, even if it was only a few months younger.
The post-00s girls are very different, they can accept boys younger than themselves.
It is said that today's children are generally precocious, look at the problem more comprehensively, and sometimes look like a small adult, I think this has been reflected in the post-00s.
Although they are only in their early 20s, they have mature minds, which can be seen simply by rejecting "uncle-style" love.
First, what is "uncle-style" love?
The so-called "uncle-style" love actually refers to the relationship between men and women with a relatively large age difference, and it must be a man and a woman.
The uncle in this sentence is different from the uncle in the traditional sense, and the men who can be called uncles in the traditional sense are usually not much different from their father's age, while the uncles in the contemporary young population usually refer to men with an age difference of more than 6 years.
Young people often say that three years old is a generation gap, six years old is equivalent to two generation gaps, and the age difference beyond the two generation gaps is "uncle-style" love.
Second, rejecting "uncle-style" love is a manifestation of maturity
Presumably, girls' refusal to "uncle-style" love is well thought out, and they are well aware of the drawbacks, so they are reluctant to be involved.
01 From the perspective of the recent situation, there are two major drawbacks
Soon after falling in love, everyone will find that the uncle in front of you is completely different from the uncle in idol dramas and romance novels.
First, there is no age and no capital
The uncle in the idol drama: tall and handsome, successful in career, affectionate and single-minded, very good at taking care of people.
The uncle in front of you: only the age of the uncle, but there is no characteristic of the uncle.
They are no more than the most ordinary middle-aged people in the world, no tall and handsome appearance, only a greasy feeling visible to the naked eye; no wealth, at most a house and a car, and a loan; no career, only a job that barely supports themselves.
They and the uncle the girl imagined were exactly two people.
Second, he likes you to be young but he hates you for being young
The most offensive part of "uncle-style" love is that many men both like girls and dislike their youth.
They like the young appearance of the girls, but they hate their childishness and ignorance.
They want to find young girls and are not willing to spend too much time and energy to coax girls.
02 In the long run, there are three major hidden dangers
Women marry try not to find men who are more than 6 years older than themselves, because the hidden dangers caused by the age difference are difficult to eliminate.
First, the hidden danger of in-laws
Older men mean that their in-laws are older, and older in-laws means that not only can they not help, but they need to be taken care of when they are sick.
You have to take care of young children, you have to support your elderly in-laws, no one helps, and all the pressure is on everyone's shoulders like a mountain.
This kind of life is far more terrifying than everyone thinks, after all, many small couples in real life live under the support of their parents.
Second, the hidden dangers of middle-aged and elderly people
In my 20s, everyone didn't feel the hidden dangers of the age difference, but once they passed the age of 35, all the problems appeared.
Men are unemployed.
Many men are ordinary people, do not have a high degree, do not work within the system, and are prone to unemployment at an old age.
If you re-employ, not only will it be difficult to find a job, but the salary will not be too high.
The suffering of middle-aged and elderly women.
Men can't move, and the burden of the family must be picked up by women, and this kind of suffering is not something that ordinary people can bear.
In addition to this, the average life expectancy of women is higher than that of men, and coupled with the fact that men are much older than women, the chances of men walking ahead can reach 99%.
A woman serves a man around the age of 50 until he leaves this world, and after the man is gone, the woman will face a lonely life alone.
Third, the child's growth is hidden
What suffers the most in this relationship is actually the child, who is doomed to lose at the starting line from birth.
Before the child grows up, the father is old. He is the time when he needs to spend money, when his father's earning ability is the worst, and when he is most rebellious, it is when his father is not energetic enough.
Other parents have prepared a house and a car for their children, and it is not easy for you to raise him to adulthood.
Everything has to be borne by him alone, so his road is destined to be much more difficult than that of his peers.
Women who marry well know how to choose men
The first condition for a woman to marry well is to choose the right man, and the quality of the partner determines the quality of the marriage.
1, from the perspective of age, similar age is the best
The ancients often said: "Husband and wife should grow old with white heads." ”
What is a white-headed old man? Only two people of the same age can really grow old together.
You have similar upbringings, similar childhood memories, similar thoughts.
You have no generation gap, only common topics, you can withstand the ravages of time, you can support each other, and you can live together for a lifetime.
Please always believe in the wisdom of the elderly, which is the experience they have summed up after thousands of years of practice.
2, from the condition of the point of view, the door pair is the best
The door is also the marriage wisdom left by the old man, they often say that the wooden door is to the wooden door, the chai door is to the chai door, and what kind of person should be with what kind of person.
Neither high to climb, but also not to help the poor, to find a person with similar conditions in all aspects to stay with themselves is more likely to achieve happiness.
You will not be discriminated against because of your high climbing, nor will you live a life of chicken feathers because of poverty alleviation.
3. In terms of synthesis, the three views of character are the most important
Of all the conditions, character and the three views are always the most important.
It is important to remember that it is the person who marries the person, not the condition.
In the long tunnel of time for the rest of your life, it is your other half that can really accompany you, not the conditions.
Only if people are good, your marriage is good.