Why are children reluctant to talk to their parents? Is there really a generation gap? So why can some parents communicate with their children without obstacles, and what is the problem?
Communication is a two-way street, and it is not necessary for one party to listen to and accept what the other side wants to say! Before real communication begins, you should have a good enough attitude to listen to what the other person will say and possibly accept what the other person says. If not such a mentality, communication? Where to start?
In addition to being clear about what you want to say, good communication also needs to understand the state of the other party through listening, and confirm when and what method to express the effect of what you want to say!
Moreover, the result of communication is not that one party must accept what the other party says, holding this idea, it is not called communication, it can only be called a request, even the debate is not counted, although the debate is hoped that the result is that the other party accepts their own statement, but the process must be carefully listened to.
Parents often overlook the point that their self-righteous consideration of their children is essentially a deprivation of their children's right to choose, and it is also the most direct manifestation of imposing their own consciousness on their children.
Because parents have rich experience, their "arrangement" of their children is indeed a shortcut in many cases, but this shortcut that is not recognized by the child is exactly what the children need, this need is the embodiment of subjective independence, and it is also a necessary condition for the objective growth of children.
Parents say it is for the good of their children, children say that parents are to satisfy their own vanity; parents say that learning this has a future, but children say "don't like it, no interest."
Whether it is guiding students to choose their interests and hobbies, or choosing the high school to apply for, parents must remember: "Respect the opinions of children, communicate not authoritarian, communicate not dictatorship." Limited by age and experience, children's ideas, views, and practices must have immature, inaccurate, and inappropriate components, and parents should not look down, but look down, and seek common ground while reserving differences in the form of communication and consultation. "When I find that they can respect me, I am also reasonable").
So are you willing to communicate with your parents? Everyone is welcome to leave a comment below the comments.