The plan of the day lies in the morning, and the morning is the time when a person is most spiritual.
And the night is when a person is most vulnerable.
During the day, we wear masks, suppress all our emotions in our hearts, and disguise ourselves as an indestructible superman.
But people's energy is limited, and it is impossible to maintain the same state all day long.
Therefore, at night, the emotions will be released, at this time, his emotions are in an open state, can absorb good, but also will absorb bad.
Night is the connection between the first day and the second morning, and the emotional state of the first night will affect the state of the next morning to a certain extent.
Thus, smart women know the importance of giving each other a good mood at night.
Psychological research has shown that before turning off the lights, say these few more "meaty love words", he will love you more.
Before turning off the lights, try to talk a little more about what happened today
In his book Happy Marriage, John Gutmann wrote: "The secret of marital success is not in resolving conflicts at all, but in the usual relationships and devilish details." ”
In fact, not only marriage, but also the same thing in love.
The so-called details determine success or failure, if you don't care about the details, then a vigorous relationship will disappear with time.
Not paying attention to details is like a pair of shoes suddenly have a grain of sand in them, and although it is a little uncomfortable to wear at first, it will not affect our walking.
But over time, the grain of sand has been grinding our feet, at which point we can clearly feel uncomfortable, and walking will be limping.
With the advent of the information age, more and more people have become "slaves" to mobile phones, so we can see such a new way of getting along -
Two people were lying on a bed, one holding a mobile phone and brushing short videos, and neither of them was talking to anyone.
The farthest distance before was only thousands of miles apart, but now the farthest distance is that I am in front of you, and you are only holding your mobile phone.
Sharing is the beginning of the fall, and sharing what interesting things happened to each other before going to bed every day can solidify the feelings of the day.
And losing sharing means leaving the scene.
Therefore, in order to avoid dispersing, we should share well before going to bed.
Before turning off the lights, try to say something more about imagining the future
True love requires long-term investment in feelings, it is like water, because the thin water is long, not like fireworks, good looks are good, but fleeting.
Good love can always go on under the full of love, to fight against the difficulties and obstacles of the future, to work together until the end.
However, no one knows what will happen in the future, and maybe one day, we will face a lot of pressure and wonder why there is no room for a small couple in this world.
At this time, what we have to do is to increase confidence in the face of future risks by laying a good foundation.
And saying more about imagining the future before going to bed is a good way to do it.
We can sleep with the person we love before we go to bed, and then say something heart-warming—
For example, "I know there may be many variables in the future, but I will always be determined to be with you";
For example, "No matter the wind and rain, I will definitely accompany you to the end in the future";
For example, "You say, when we get married in the future, what kind of wedding will look better" and so on.
In the book "Women with High Emotional Intelligence Can Talk", it is said: "Speaking as an art has great charm, one word can change fate, and one word can harvest happiness." ”
When we say something about imagining the future, men's hearts will be determined to be with us.
Before turning off the lights, try to say more affirmative and praiseful words
No one can resist good words, even if good medicine is good for the sick, and advice is good for the ear, people can't resist words of praise.
That's because praise can indirectly affirm a person's value, and there will be positive psychological cues in the heart, making it easier to concentrate on doing something.
So, women with high emotional intelligence will say something nice before turning off the lights.
Bi Shumin said: "Love is afraid of silence. Too many people think that love to the depths is speechless. In fact, love is a difficult emotion to describe, which needs to be expressed and transmitted in detail. ”
Don't think that saying some nice things is a very embarrassing thing, think that they are old husbands and wives, have been together for such a long time, and come to the set of small couples.
In fact, true love never needs to suppress the true emotions in your heart, nor does you need to have any worries, you just need to be true to yourself.
Men can't refuse to praise from the other half from the heart, so saying more nice things before turning off the lights is conducive to maintaining each other's feelings.