Parents' love for their children is conditional

In fact, in this life, it is not that we have to teach our children how to love, but that children teach us how to love.

Two years ago, a 7-year-old girl, because of slow eating, was locked up in the bedroom by her mother and beaten with an iron rod for nearly an hour. After the girl was beaten, dad repeatedly asked to be taken to the hospital, but his wife refused. At 5 p.m. on the same day, the child died after rescue was ineffective. Dad said that the child had offered to eat an ice cream before he died, but did not eat it because his mother did not agree.

As early as the girl's 2 months, her parents divorced due to family conflicts, and she has been living with her grandparents. It was not until 2017, when her parents remarried, that she was taken to the county seat to live together. Some people say that where the mother is, happiness is where it is. But what the mother brought to the child was a frequent beating. Dad said mom once twisted her daughter's ear to fester. Every time he pulls a fight, he will also be beaten together. "I didn't expect it to be so bad this time!" The father was so remorseful that he blamed himself for not stopping his wife at all costs.

The mother was prosecuted according to law. And this little girl who should have been in the first grade after the start of school, her life stopped forever in this summer vacation! I don't think any mother wants such an ending. This grumpy mother, I am afraid that I will spend my whole life in remorse and self-blame, right?

Remember that in January 2018, a 9-year-old boy in Taixing, Jiangsu Province, was tied up and beaten by his mother for 5 hours because he lost his mother's mobile phone, and found that the child had died the next morning.

Afterwards, the security guard of the community recalled that when the child found that he had lost his mobile phone, he did not dare to go home, sitting in the snow and crying... Sadly, after the snow melted, the mobile phone was found, but the child could no longer wake up. The last words he left for his mother were, "Mom, I don't want to see you..." It's heartbreaking! Emotional parents are a disaster for their children. Tiger Poison has not yet eaten children, but the two mothers have killed their own children with their own hands. They all lost their children and ruined their entire families because they did not manage their emotions well.

In life, we often lose our temper with children because they are disobedient and unhappy, and even scold children. But have you ever wondered how dependent and trusting our children are? I remember watching a very heart-wrenching news: a girl who was only 2 and a half years old was abused to death by her mother. When the police arrived at the scene to rescue her, the girl was dying, and at this time she still held out her hands and said, "Mom hug, mom hug..." Anyone who looks at it will be sad and cry! How many children, no matter how much the parents yell, how to scold, how to beat, he will continue to love us.

The colleague's son was diagnosed with congenital deafness shortly after birth, and in order to install the best cochlear implant on his son, the husband chose to send abroad because it could receive a subsidy.

Running alone between taking care of her son and tedious work, she is under great pressure and is so grumpy that she wants to have a big fight every day.

Picking up her son from school that day, her son pointed to her ear, and she felt a chill in her heart: the cochlea was gone! She quickly asked where she lost it? But the son kept shaking his head! She was furious and raised her son yelling at him, "Why are you so useless, I don't want to see you!" The son looked frightened and flinched toward the door... She kicked the door and walked out, she was going to find that cochlea! Calling the police, issuing notices on the network platform, tossing until midnight, dizzy and returning home, she found that the dining table was set up with dishes and chopsticks, and the rice cooker was prepared with porridge.

And the son curled up in the corner and fell asleep! She saw her son's message written crookedly in pinyin on the table: "Mom, I'm sorry! I'm going to make a lot of money for you when I grow up! I love you!" She was crying! She hated herself for how she was so stingy! Her heart was pounding, and she looked back at her sleeping son, tears still on her face.

Adults tend to think that all I'm doing is for kids. And here comes the child: I have only you in my eyes. I saw a video on the Internet: the son was sitting on the sofa watching cartoons, and the mother deliberately touched him with her foot, but she did not expect that the child thought that the mother felt that her feet were cold, and instinctively covered her mother's feet in her arms.

Parents' love for their children is conditional, and children have always been so intimate with their parents. In the relationship with the child, one second was angry and trembling, and the next second was melted by the child.

I remember when my son was 2 years old, I went to work and he followed my grandmother at home. When I came home at night, my son sat at the door waiting for me, and when he saw me coming back, a toe pounced on me... My mother said, "I don't know how many times your son cried this day, why do you leave a picture of your child?" I was a little stunned. The mother took out the small backpack that her son usually used. It turned out that my son had picked up my picture from nowhere, kept it in his small bag, and took it out at any time to see, and his mouth was still chanting: "Mom is gone!" It's tearful. The child wants his mother, but he knows that his mother can't be with him all the time, so he loves you in his own way.

A netizen once said that her parents are divorced. On the day her mother left home, she cried and chased after her mother, but her mother hugged her and turned away. She said, "Mom would never have known that the button hanging at the head of my bed was dropped from her dress, picked up by me and kept to this day; she didn't know, she would hold it tight whenever I thought of her..." Now that I'm older, I can occasionally see my mother, but this childhood memory won't tell her. She said, "Mom certainly won't be easy either!" Every child is an angel given to us by God. Because you are my mom and because I love you unconditionally, I choose to forgive you!

In fact, in our life, it is not that we teach our children how to love, but that our children teach us to love. When my son was 4 years old, I often told him that eating more vegetables and fruits would grow faster. He ate a lot every day and said, "I'm going to grow up faster and protect my mother like Ultraman!" But one day he suddenly said to me, "Mom, I won't eat fruits and vegetables anymore." Ask him why? He said, "I'm afraid that if I grow fast, you'll get old!" You don't want to get old, I want to be with you forever!" In the eyes of the mother, every child is not perfect; in the child's heart, you are his only one. Speaking of mom, their eyes lit up.

The famous American singer Steven Wonder said: If love is as sweet as a flower, then my mother is the sweet flower. But do we really use 100% warmth and patience when facing children? Have you really controlled your emotions? The girlfriend said that once she beat her ass because her daughter was naughty, and the child woke up crying in his sleep that night... When she held her daughter, she saw a picture she had drawn: on one side was an angry mother and a child who was trembling and crying; on the other side was an angel mother with an aura, kissing her child lovingly, and the child's face was a sweet smile. But the next day, when the grandmother teased her daughter and said, "Your mother is really bad," the daughter suddenly cried and said, "My mother is the best mother in the world, don't say my mother!" After saying that, he ran over and hugged his girlfriend: "Mom, no matter how you kill me, I love you!" The girlfriend burst into tears.

She said, "In this world, I just beat me up, and I can still drill into my arms without revenge, and the only one who loves me as always is my daughter." From then on, she couldn't help but lose her temper with the child. Since then, there has been a great anger, she has the first time to think of her daughter's painting, and then restrain herself and calmly deal with it. She no longer wants her child to live in fear, in the bad mood of her mother. Remember, education is a slow process and cannot be achieved overnight. In the face of young children, what we have to do is to manage our emotions and patiently tell him right and wrong, rather than shouting, abusing force, and letting children suffer the so-called "tragic lessons" when they make mistakes unintentionally. Dante said that the most beautiful voice in the world is the call of the mother! We are mothers, and we should be born with the magical power of love.

Children pick their mothers in heaven, and parents love their children on earth. This innate love is like a light, making family affection more precious and allowing children to grow up healthily. Every child is an angel, and his heart is the purest. The educator Sukhomlinsky once said that we should carefully protect the hearts of children like dewdrops on lotus leaves.

Never let your bad feelings hurt your child. In the age when children love us unconditionally, please love them vigorously. Diane Lenmans once wrote a small poem that wrote the voice of my parents: If I could raise my children again, I would put up more thumbs, use less index fingers to point, and I would give more smiles to my children. I will embrace more, no longer pursue the love of rights, and will imitate the power of love. Children grow up day by day, we don't have too many ifs, so love the child, let him feel it. What a hard-won fate it is to be able to mother and son in this life, and it is really necessary to cherish it!