I often hear some mothers who have a normal birth complain that they were "disliked" by their other half after giving birth, which has resonated with many women. In response to this, what kind of performance do men have? According to some mothers, husbands are now too lazy to argue with themselves, and sometimes they are reluctant to open their mouths and talk to themselves, let alone have some intimate behavior.
Case: Two months after giving birth, the young couple almost got divorced
Xiao Qiu and her husband talked about love for two years, the two decided to get married, the second year of marriage, Xiao Qiu was pregnant with a baby, it was difficult to survive ten months, in labor, the doctor said that Xiao Qiu's situation is suitable for caesarean section, not recommended to give birth, otherwise there will be a certain risk.
In response to this, Xiao Qiu felt that there was only a risk anyway, not necessarily, and she could try to take a risk, so she chose to have a smooth birth, because she thought that it was better for the child. So in the fit of childbirth, Xiao Qiu used the way of normal delivery, but what she did not expect was that because the baby was relatively large, 8 pounds and 1 two when it was born, it was still very large, in this case, with a smooth delivery, it could not avoid tearing during labor, and the birth canal was also damaged to a certain extent, which also left a knot in Xiao Qiu's heart.
What makes Xiao Qiu feel even more distressed is that Xiao Qiu did not recover well during confinement, and there was also a situation of leakage of urine, coupled with the fact that her husband has been busy working overtime, the mother-in-law is not completely concerned about her own care, and the child's crying is accompanied, all of which makes Xiao Qiu feel irritable, originally wanted to end the pregnancy early, and now know that it is the most painful after giving birth to the child.
Looking at today's life, Xiao Qiu suddenly collapsed, his temper became worse and worse, and his contradictions with her husband became more and more, and the two people even almost quarreled about divorce. Xiao Qiu's husband said directly, "The same is the birth of a child, everyone is fine, why don't you reflect on yourself?" Look for reasons in me every day. This sentence made Xiao Qiu completely die of heart and directly moved back to his mother's house, and he really couldn't stand this kind of life.
01 After giving birth, she was "abandoned", but she wanted women to reflect on these two reasons? Half a year later the man regretted it
In fact, not only the situation in the case, in real life I have also met such a man, and even proposed to let women reflect on the situation, on the one hand, men think that the mother's temper will become worse after giving birth, and should control the temper by herself, rather than throwing tantrums at will. On the other hand, there are also some men who believe that after giving birth, women should also pay attention to cleaning up themselves, rather than being unkempt at home all day, like a yellow-faced woman.
I have to say that many men have the above two reactions, and it can only be said that this part of the men really lack empathy and responsibility. First of all, let's talk about the problem of new mothers' poor mood, you know, women will have greater changes in body hormones after pregnancy, and so will they after giving birth, the fluctuations in body hormones and endocrine levels are relatively large, especially within two months after childbirth, plus during this period, their roles have just changed, to take care of small babies who do not understand anything, the child's crying will also make them irritable, under the stimulation of hormones, natural emotions are difficult to control, so it is very normal to have bad emotions.
In view of this, bao dads should learn to understand bao mom's emotions, rather than blindly accusing them, or wanting them to learn like others and control their emotions. Truly responsible men should learn to guide the emotions of new mothers, rather than arguing with them, if this is the case, I am afraid that it will stimulate their emotions even more, and there may be postpartum depression.
Secondly, let's talk about some new mothers at home "do not clean up" their own situation, perhaps in the eyes of some fathers, new mothers only need to take children at home, in fact, it is not only so, new mothers not only have to take children, but also do hygiene, deal with various trivial things. Even if it is with children, it is not as simple as the fathers think, the children often have crying, the new mothers are responsible for coaxing the little ones, if there is no help from the mother-in-law, they may have to cook their own rice, take care of hygiene, etc., and they can't get a better rest. In this case, how do new mothers dress themselves?
You know, before they give birth, they are also bright and beautiful, but after giving birth, the focus falls on the child, paying more for the family, so most of the time the mind is not on themselves.
Here to suggest new mothers, but also to learn to love themselves more, please themselves, take care of their children at the same time, but also take care of themselves, and can not ignore themselves, otherwise it is likely to leave some sequelae in the future, then it will be more than worth the loss.
Here we should also remind the fathers to take on the responsibility of being a man and a father, instead of giving all the pressure to the mothers, and they are the treasurers.