Parents always hope that their children will grow up quickly, so that they will be much easier. However, when the child really grows day by day, the parents have an inexhaustible heart. Especially those children who are in adolescence, it is always worrying their parents.
Although many parents are most concerned about their children's academic performance, when their children go to junior high school and high school, parents will worry about their children's early love. After all, children in this period are in the budding of youth, and it is easy to have a good feeling for the opposite sex.
Before that, a netizen on the Internet shared with everyone the interesting things he encountered. The netizen said that one day he was eating in a restaurant, and in front of his line of sight, two children who looked like high school students were also eating, and judging from their words and deeds and looks, they should be in love.
The netizen only looked at it a few more times, but did not pay much attention. But when he looked up again, he found a man in his 40s quietly standing behind them.
Just when he was a little curious, suddenly the boy found the middle-aged man, quickly stood up, and nervously shouted "Dad". The girl next to her also stood up, bowing her head and not knowing what to say, looking very cramped.
The boy's father did not have any expression on his face, and after looking at them, he turned around and left. The two young children looked at each other, and just when they didn't know how to be good, Dad handed them a cold drink.
The boy looked a little surprised, and his father quietly said to him, since he is in love, he should be generous and invite the female classmates to eat! At this time, the child's face showed a smile, and the hanging heart was also put down.
I have to say that this dad's approach is really very extreme, which is praised. It is estimated that many parents will publicly rebuke their children when they see such a situation, but this father has behaved generously and decently, at least at the time to give the two children absolute respect.
However, some netizens said that if every boy's father is like this father, then the girl's father will be doubly nervous.
After all, early love has a relatively large impact on girls, and may even directly affect their academic performance, thus affecting their future.
But sometimes children's early love is invincible, as a parent, instead of taking tough measures to stop, it is better to change some ways that children can accept, so that the effect may be better.
What should parents do when a child falls in love early?
Communicate with children in a timely manner
When parents find that their children are in early love, they should not adopt an attitude of avoidance, but should communicate with their children positively, so that children know that they know that they are aware of their early love, but it should be noted that they do not show strong opposition at this time.
Because the child's early love is not exactly a terrible thing, as long as the parents can actively guide the child, and the child seriously analyze the pros and cons of early love, I believe that the children themselves will have judgments. Of course, the premise is that the other party is not a bad friend, otherwise parents must let the child stay away.
Spend more time with your children
For adolescent children, they do not fully understand the true meaning of love, and many times the tendency to early love is just a momentary impulse. A large part of this is caused by parents, because they neglect to accompany their children, so that children can seek attention in other ways.
If parents can take time to spend more time with their children, then the child's heart must be full of love and security. At this time, the probability of their early love will be reduced, at least they will not deliberately seek the love of the outside world because of the lack of parental love.
Turn early love into a motivation to learn
In the consciousness of many parents, early love is not conducive to the improvement of children's academic performance, and it is even possible that children will become poor students from good students. But this is not absolute, sometimes if parents are good at guiding, then early love may also become a driving force for children to learn.
For example, if the object of a child's early love is a good student with excellent character and learning, then parents can tell their children that only by working hard to make themselves excellent can they get the most beautiful love. So the most important thing at the moment is to learn, and it is obviously too early to talk about other things too much.
For the child's early love, parents can not let go, because the child's self-control has certain defects, they can not control their behavior very well many times, so parents must play a certain role, positive and positive discipline of the child.
Of course, as a parent, we must also empathize with our children as much as possible and learn to think from the child's position and perspective. In this way, the relationship between the two sides can be more harmonious and harmonious, otherwise if the parents are always on top, it is easy to cause the child to be disgusted, but it is not conducive to communication.