There are many moms who, after having children, choose to be stay-at-home moms for a while. Wait until your children are older and then choose to return to the workplace. So, how old is the child, and is it appropriate for a stay-at-home mother to return to the workplace? Not wait until the child is 3 years old to go to kindergarten, nor wait until the child is 6 years old to go to primary school.
On this issue, there are more issues that need to be considered by stay-at-home mothers. If these two issues are clearly considered, you can return to the workplace.
1. The child's pick-up and drop-off problem;
2. What changes will occur in your life?
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Pick-up and drop-off problems for children
In the TV series "Our Marriage", Shen Yanxing is a high-achieving student at a prestigious school. After graduation, get married and get pregnant. At this time, even if she has a famous school degree, she still chose to be a full-time mother.
When the child reaches the age of 6, she begins to return to the workplace, wanting to find herself through work. This plan made her life face earth-shaking changes, and even affected her married life.
After returning to the workplace, the biggest problem facing Shen Yanxing is the problem of child transportation. Shen Yanxing likes to work more overtime. Therefore, I usually can't go home on time. Although I found a nanny, the current nannies are basically working alone.
The nanny that Shen Yanxing found was responsible for watching the children until 7 o'clock every day. Because, at 7 p.m., she was going to the next one. Because of this problem, you can't stay longer. In this way, even if Shen Yanxing has a nanny, he has to consider the pick-up and drop-off of his children.
Therefore, compared with the age of the child, this problem is the most realistic problem, which needs to be considered clearly when mothers return to the workplace. If the child's pick-up is not a problem, then whether the child is 3 years old or 6 years old, he can return to the workplace.
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How will your life change?
Before returning to the workplace, Shen's idea was that if he returned to the workplace, he could become a role model for his children. In Shen's view, life is developing in a beautiful direction. But what is actual life like? On the contrary, in Shen's view, the situation is getting worse and worse.
1) Pick-up and drop-off of children is a big problem.
Because I am looking for a nanny, the nanny basically commutes to work on time. Shen Yanxing added a little gear, and no one was watching his children. The original idea was that the babysitter could help herself. However, unexpectedly, the trouble would be even greater.
2) Parent-child relationship becomes estranged.
Because I am busy with work, my relationship with my children becomes estranged. When you are a stay-at-home mother, you can spend all your time with your child. However, after having a job, I have to make some trade-offs in terms of time arrangement, between companionship and work. This also leads to the daughter becoming no longer clinging to herself, and the parent-child relationship becomes estranged.
3) The work is not too smooth.
One of the issues that many stay-at-home moms consider before returning to work is the problem of work. They worry that they won't be able to find a job smoothly, and they worry that they won't be able to adapt to the rhythm of work. In fact, it is also true that At the beginning, Shen Yanxing wanted to find a professional job. However, it is frequently rejected. Stay-at-home moms must give themselves a shot in the back: in the beginning, work doesn't go too well.
4) Emotional problems.
After Shen Camet worked, he paid less for his family. At this time, she hopes that her husband can understand her and help her do more. However, my husband's work is already busy, and there are more things at home. He himself was in a state of overwhelm, and he couldn't find time at all. However, Shen Yanxing believes that this is because her husband does not understand himself and does not want to pay. So, she wants a divorce. This is the problem that many stay-at-home moms face, the emotional problems of two people, and it may really change.
So, even if you feel like you're back in the workplace, life will be better. However, behind these good ones, there are actually a lot of other problems added. Whether these problems can be solved or not should also be considered clearly. Otherwise, if two people embark on the road to divorce, the child will eventually be hurt.