On March 8, 2022, the 45-year-old Big S and the 52-year-old Member of the Korean Group "Cool Dragon" Gu Junye officially announced their marriage.
Just divorced and remarried within 100 days, the speed at which Big S got married was jaw-dropping.
As a famous actor in China, Big S has starred in many classic works such as "Meteor Garden", "Summer of Bubbles", "Corner Meets Love" and so on.
Big S acting is serious and hardworking, even if he is injured, he grits his teeth and insists.
Although she looks gentle and amiable, she dares to love and hate,
She treats feelings casually and does not care about other people's views and opinions.
The reason why Big S is so dare is that he has a great relationship with a woman,
That person was her mother, Huang Chunmei.
Xu's mother, Huang Chunmei, was born in 1954 to a poor family in a remote rural area of Taiwan Province.
There are many brothers and sisters in the family, and the family relies on the father alone to support him.
Eating at home every day is a problem, so Huang Chunmei dropped out of school early and went home to help,
The parents of the older generation have a serious idea of "preferring sons to daughters", and Huang Chunmei, as a daughter, has not been loved and valued by her parents since she was a child.
Huang Chunmei, who has suffered unfair treatment at home for a long time, has been very independent and tolerant since she was a child, and she always thinks that one day she will rise to the top and find a rich man to marry.
After dropping out of school, Huang Chunmei did not want to work in the countryside, so she went to Taipei alone to find opportunities.
Huang Chunmei has no relatives, no friends, no connections and no background in Taipei, and can only work as a waiter and brush dishes in a restaurant.
When she was young, Huang Chunmei looked beautiful and gentle, and there were many suitors around her to confess to her.
But at that time, Huang Chunmei only wanted to make money and change herself, and when she was busy, she worked three jobs a day and had no time to fall in love.
Perhaps god pity, think this woman is too bitter, so he sent her warmth and love,
Next to Huang Chunmei's restaurant is Ginza, and some rich people will go to the restaurant to eat after dealing with things in Ginza.
By chance, Huang Chunmei met Xu Jian, the boss of Ginza.
Xu Jian is a well-known rich son in Taiwan, with a rich family and countless beautiful women around him, but he has a heart for Huang Chunmei.
After Xu Jian fell in love with Huang Chunmei at first sight, he launched a fierce pursuit of him, sending flowers, gifts, clothes, bags and bags continuously.
But at that time, Huang Chunmei did not have much good feelings for Xu Jian, and felt that this man was not manly.
In order to prove himself, Xu Jian fought with others to drink, and Huang Chunmei was touched by his approach and agreed to Xu Jian's pursuit.
The two people who have determined the relationship become more intimate, and soon they will reach the point of talking about marriage,
Once after eating, Xu Jian suddenly got down on one knee and proposed to Huang Chunmei: "Xiaomei, marry me", and Huang Chunmei nodded and agreed.
At the time of marriage, Huang Chunmei was only 19 years old.
Huang Chunmei, who successfully married into the Xu family, thought that if she married into the rich family, she could fly up the branches to become a phoenix and live the life of a rich wife, but unfortunately, the real married life cruelly taught her a lesson.
Xu Jian's mother is a traditional little old lady,
On the second day of marriage, the mother-in-law dismissed the maid of the family, let Huang Chunmei take care of the family's life, clean the housework, and the others lived a small life of clothes to stretch out their hands and food to open their mouths.
If you only take care of your mother-in-law and husband Huang Chunmei, you can bear it.
But what is excessive is that the 7 daughters of the Xu family, that is, Huang Chunhua's 7 sisters-in-law all live at home, and Huang Rihua also helps them clean the room every day, cook for them, and pour tea and water.
I thought that I could finally get rid of the original status quo and live the life of a rich wife after getting married, but I didn't expect to be a "nanny".
In the face of the difficulties of her mother-in-law and 7 big and small sisters-in-law, Huang Chunmei could only grit her teeth and insist, and after her husband returned in the evening, she complained to Xu Jian.
Xu Jian listened to his wife being treated maliciously by his mother, sisters and sisters, and although he was distressed about his wife, it was impossible for him to come forward to persuade him.
Xu Jian is the only male member of the Xu family, who grew up with the love of the whole family, did not suffer a little loss, did not eat a side qu, and did not have any empathy for Huang Chunmei.
Huang Chunmei also quickly discovered this, and after marriage, Xu Jian changed the sweetness of the two when they were in love.
To his wife no longer boo cold and warm, also lost the initial enthusiasm, sometimes by Huang Chunmei more nagging, Xu Jian directly roared angrily, "You marry to work is not what you should be, you do not work, you should do this at home."
Seeing that her life in the giants was different from her original expectations, Huang Chunmei did not give up, she was anxious to change the status quo, and she thought of the method of "mother and son".
In 1974, Huang Chunmei gave birth to a daughter, named Xu Xixian, nicknamed Zhenzhen, and the birth of the child not only did not change huang Chunmei's status in the family, but made her status in the family lower and lower.
Xu Jian's family "son preference" thinking is very serious, the mother-in-law saw that it was a granddaughter who immediately pulled a face unwillingly, always urging her son to have another one,
Xu Xiyuan was born in 1976, Xu Xidi was born in 1978, and three daughters were born in a row, huang Chunmei lived very hard and suffering in this family.
The big and small sisters and mother-in-law always mock her as a "hen who can't lay eggs",
Huang Chunmei deals with pots and pans, chai rice oil and salt every day, her face has lost its former style, Xu Jian is no longer beautiful Huang Chunmei, and gradually loses interest.
Xu Jian came out early and returned late every day, drinking a body of wine, and even some perfume smell of other women,
Huang Chunmei will be insulted and beaten by her husband every time she questions.
At first, Huang Chunmei did not dare to resist for the sake of her children, and could only hide in the corner with her daughters.
But as he grew older, as long as Xu Jian wanted to blame Huang Chunmei, the second daughter Xu Xiyuan rushed out to always protect her mother, accuse her father and be reasonable.
"A woman is weak, but a mother is strong", watching her young daughter stand out for herself,
Huang Chunmei began to examine whether she had been seeking perfection in the Xu family committee, whether she was doing it right or not.
After calm thinking, Huang Chunmei decided to make a change.
For the sake of her daughter, Huang Chunmei said to the family, "I will not have any more children, if you want a son, let someone else have children."
The original intention is to show their firm attitude and want to gain the respect of their families.
But I didn't expect that my husband really went outside to spend the day and wine and find another woman.
Unable to bear her husband's betrayal, Huang Chunmei chose to divorce her husband and raise her three daughters alone.
After the divorce, Huang Chunmei's life was very difficult at first, and then she slowly found a doorway, lived better and better, and saved a lot of money.
I have experienced a failed marriage, always thinking of giving my daughter better,
Huang Chunmei will always respect and rely on the choice of her daughters, and use "cattle herding" education for them, just hoping that her daughters will be happy.
The personality of the eldest sister Xu Xixian is like a little girl, very simple and introverted, usually afraid of the dark, others say a word of grievance, will run home and cry for half a day,
Although he is the eldest child in the family, he is the one who needs the most care in the family.
Usually, she likes to play with the dog at home, without any self-motivation, and is satisfied with the status quo.
The second daughter, Xu Xiyuan, is very strong, like a wolf,
When I was in middle school, the physical education teacher once made a very excessive request, requiring everyone in the class to run 20 laps, and if they could not complete the task, they could not rest.
Although the whole class was unwilling, it was the teacher after all, and everyone had to obediently endure it.
Xu Xiyuan also understands the truth of respecting the teacher, so she chose to resist in her own way, and she was the first to stand up and say to the physical education teacher, "Good, I will run to show you",
After the 20 laps, Xu Xiyuan walked to the physical education teacher and said to him, "I'm done running", and after saying it, she directly spit in front of the teacher.
She used practical actions to tell the teacher what kind of situation everyone would expect after running 20 laps.
Since then, the PE teacher has never let everyone run so many laps.
When she was in high school, Xu Xiyuan became interested in art, and she told Huang Chunmei her thoughts.
After Huang Chunmei nodded in agreement, her attitude towards her daughter changed one hundred and eighty degrees.
She strictly requires her daughter's manners to control her meal and weight,
In 1993, at the age of 17, Xu Xiyuan graduated from the drama department of Huagang Art School in Taipei City, released her debut album "Occupy Young" with her sister Xu Xidi under the name of "SOS", and officially debuted with the song "Ten Minutes of Love".
After the two sisters entered the entertainment circle, Huang Chunmei was not idle, and has been helping them deal with and take care of their work.
Under the planning of Huang Chunmei, the two sisters switched from singer to Taiwan hosting industry in the name of ASOS, and hosted the entertainment news program "Entertainment 100%" of the eight major TV GTVs, which gained high popularity.
The two sisters, who gradually opened up their popularity, also began to usher in a turning point in their careers.
In 2000, Big S starred in the TV series "Meteor Garden", with the role of "Shancai" in the play, it became a hot actress throughout the country.
Xiao S, with the unique hosting method in the program "Kangxi Lai", became a strange coffee in the hosting industry in one fell swoop, and won everyone's attention.
The two daughters became the stars of national attention in one fell swoop, and Huang Chunmei, as their mother, also became the object of everyone's envy.
People are envious of Huang Chunmei's two contentious daughters, and Huang Chunmei is also proud of them.
Mother and daughter 4 people finally survived, and the days became happier and happier,
In contrast, her ex-husband Xu Jian, the family business fell lonely shortly after the divorce between the two, and it also lost its former glory.
Although Huang Chunmei and her ex-husband have been divorced for many years, Xu Jian, as a father, has rarely cared about them since childhood, and even gives little maintenance.
But Huang Chunmei is not a person with a small belly and chicken intestines, but is very generous, she teaches her daughters not to resent, to be filial to their fathers,
Big S and Little S obeyed their mother's words, took the initiative to take care of their father's burden, and remitted NT$100,000 to their father for living expenses every month.
When he has time, he will find time to visit his father at Xu's house.
With a fixed income every month, Xu Father began to let go of himself, he used the money to talk about a new girlfriend, and also contracted bad habits, owing gambling debts of 8 million Taiwan dollars,
Xu Jian, who had no choice but to cheekily ask Huang Chunmei and his daughter,
In the face of her ex-husband's embarrassment, Huang Chunmei not only did not fall into the well, but also generously paid off the gambling debt with her daughter.
In addition to helping him pay off his gambling debts, Huang Chunmei also let Xu Jian appear at his daughter's wedding as a father, giving him enough face as a father.
Everyone watched Huang Chunmei contribute and pay money to repay the debt to her ex-husband.
They all hugged her and said, "This kind of betrayer does not have to give money."
On the surface, this matter seems to be Huang Chunmei's loss, but in fact, it is her cleverness, the two daughters as public figures, fame and attention are crucial, especially in terms of positive energy.
Sure enough, the two sisters often visited their father, gave him living expenses, and helped his father pay off his debts.
The fame of the two has directly doubled, and various variety shows, advertisements, directors, etc. have flocked to become popular stars.
The two daughters' careers are smooth, and Huang Chunmei is most worried about the marriage of her children.
With her own experience in failing marriages, she hopes that her children's marriages are happy, and if the marriage is unhappy, then let go.
Xu Xiyuan firmly believes in her mother's point of view, Xu Xiyuan once said that "when you love, your feelings are vigorous, and at the end, you cut through the iron",
She treats every relationship with her sincerity, but if she doesn't love it, then let it go decisively.
In 2010, Big S married Wang Xiaofei, who had known Wang Xiaofei for more than 20 days, and gave birth to a son and a daughter after marriage, many people thought that she married into a rich family and became a winner in life.
In fact, Wang Xiaofei's achievements all stem from his mother Zhang Lan,
At that time, Pretty Jiangnan was a well-known restaurant in China, but After Wang Xiaofei took over, he made a mess of it.
Not only that, he had empty ideas and invested in various projects, but in the end he lost all his money and suffered a serious deficit.
In the end, big S sold several properties in his name to help him pay off the debt deficit.
It is precisely because of such a big S that he has confidence at home,
Because Huang Chunmei once told her that "girls should be financially independent, no matter where they marry, the money spent is earned by themselves, so that they can have confidence in their husband's family."
Perhaps because of the different family concepts, Big S finally married Wang Xiaofei and ended in divorce.
In the face of her daughter's divorce, Huang Chunmei initially dissuaded her, feeling that her daughter was impulsive, but as some scandals broke out in Wang Xiaofei, she immediately supported her daughter's decision.
After her daughter divorced, Huang Chunmei has been at home to help take care of her two little grandchildren, afraid that her daughter is sad and dare not give her too much pressure.
But I didn't expect that big S did a big thing in a muffled voice, and directly married his Korean ex-boyfriend Gu Junye,
In the face of her daughter's casualness, Xu's mother was very angry.
Angry that the daughter married from the beginning to the end to hide from her, as a mother she can only be informed,
And when Huang Chunmei was asked whether she was satisfied with her new son-in-law, she said helplessly: "I am speechless, it doesn't matter, as long as my daughter is happy, it is her husband, not my husband",
From Huang Chunmei's tone, it can be seen that he is very unoptimistic about this new son-in-law.
Although Big S made herself very angry, but the matter was a foregone conclusion, as a mother she could only bless,
Now the daughters have also become mothers, each of them has a high degree of achievement in their careers,
But in Huang Chunmei's eyes, they are always a child,
Still for them, help them deal with marital feelings,
Finally, I hope that the children as children will think differently and discuss with their mothers no matter what decision they make.
At least allow the mother to prepare and rest assured in advance.