Figure | Big S Interview
Text | Miki porridge
Now that everyone knows, Big S remarried.
The reason for the public in the media is to meet an ex-boyfriend who has been separated for 20 years.
According to Taiwan's epidemic prevention policy, only family members can land on the island. So the man took the marriage certificate and the love that had been hidden for 20 years with the "online chat" and ran to Taiwan to wait for the formalities.
This reason is also no one.
Because she starred in idol dramas for half a lifetime, people can still act in idol dramas in middle age - as if this epidemic that has not ended for two years is just to fulfill her earth-shattering love.
The last time I watched love vigorously, I still watched Zhang Ailing's "Love in the Fallen City".
The male and female protagonists are eyebrow-raising, while fighting for money, and the men and women who are poor in high society can not make up their minds to enter marriage for a long time. As a result, the Japanese army bombed Hong Kong, and in a ruin, the male protagonist finally made up his mind and proposed to the female protagonist.
Zhang Ailing said that the legendary people who fell in love with the country and the city are more or less like this. The fall of a city seems to be only to fulfill their selfishness.
Big S, probably flashing the same thought, and then quickly came to his own conclusion:
Can't manage so much, love first and then say.
01
Middle-aged women are still responsible for traffic.
I now understand why the ancients said thirty and standing, forty not confused. Because it has not been boiled for years, it is impossible for people to live thoroughly.
Forty-year-old women have the financial foundation so they have the confidence.
Whether they earn money themselves or get money from divorce and separation, many single women in their forties are financially independent and may even be rich women, which creates good conditions for free love.
The spirit is also independent enough.
Sinking the side of the boat, a thousand sails have passed, what kind of old lady has not stepped on? So what's scary, just step on the dirty and change your shoes. If you don't love it anymore, you will be old, who still has time to think about it, how does the world see me?
Personality is also independent.
Look at the big S to know, while peeling more than 10,000 pieces of black truffles, while enjoying the love of men who have been separated for more than 20 years, they do not have to consult their mother's opinions, and they quickly completed the second flash marriage.
It doesn't matter if the other party has no money or a house, as long as the sister is happy. It doesn't matter if you try to be incompatible, it's a big deal to divorce again. Who can lack a divorce experience?
Anyway, love is coming, and it will certainly not wait. After all, for the forty-year-old, money is important but not scarce, and the "feeling" of being surrounded by dopamine is a rare and expensive black truffle.
Peel, don't stop.
02
The coolness of the big S, the younger generation has not understood much, because they are more accustomed to the love of the preoccupied.
Is there a room? Is there a car? Is there a deposit? Are there any liabilities? ... As long as the other party's life is a little open-minded, he will take the initiative to give up, and feel that he will definitely not be able to survive. What is the use of love? I can't fight the grinding of chai rice oil and salt in the days.
They feel that they are sober in the world, and they have long understood the meaning of marriage, and they are living the happy life of the white and rich beauty in the Little Red Book.
In the eyes of many people who regard marriage as a new map, the love of big S is simply brainless.
Because a divorced woman enters the next relationship without a long "healing", the decision is very sloppy.
It is not only netizens who look down on the new marriage of big S, even her mother Huang Chunmei personally sent a picture of a cockfighter, with five words on it: noisy, noisy, noisy.
I didn't mind posting it on social media, attracting countless do-gooders to watch.
It turned out that there were three women in this family, and the strong-looking little S was the weak one. Facing a rich husband who is troubled by scandals, he needs to constantly find reasons to reassure himself that "everything is fine".
And the middle-aged girl Big S is not the most powerful one in the family, Xu Mama Huang Chunmei is.
03
Big S's mother, Huang Chunmei, was born in rural Taipei, lost her father at an early age, and her family was destitute, and she ran out to work in a big city before finishing primary school.
At that time, she thought that the most promising career was a bus conductor, because at that time, she was too poor to sit on the bus, did not succeed, and could only work as a waiter in a restaurant.
When I was working, I met Xu Dad, a silver building with seven sisters on the top, which was converted to the present, although it is not a rich family, it is also a high-level middle class, and it must be able to afford to take a car.
So at the age of 19, she married into the Xu family, began to serve her mother-in-law, take care of children, and was also angry with her aunts, cooking rice and going to the silver building to help as a free labor force.
Xiao S once said that there were more than a dozen people who went to the table to eat that year. Until now, whose daughter-in-law can't stand it, even if you are a tycoon, you will directly throw your face away, but her mother has put up with it.
Rich families take "having a son" as the OKR of a new daughter-in-law, although this is obviously determined by the male chromosome and has no half-cent relationship with women. But not being able to give birth to a son is a woman's fault! From Xu Ziqi to Li Zi, the husband is pampered, and he can only continue to give birth to a daughter, although he is a rich man who lives like a diamond womb.
Huang Chunmei gave birth to three daughters in a row, and her status in the Xu family could only be at the bottom. The name of little S Xu Xidi reveals how unsatisfactory her patriarchal family is.
The husband's only seedling was spoiled into a clumsy, smoking and drinking to beat his wife, and even his daughter did not let go of domestic violence.
Mama Xu couldn't bear to apply for divorce, but she didn't succeed. So she moved out of the Xu family with her three daughters, worked alone to support the whole family, and took time to go to night school to improve her culture.
04
After women become mothers, they are all king kongs who are not bad.
Some time ago, I watched Aamir Khan's movie "Mysterious Superstar", in which the heroine's mother was illiterate and illiterate, and she was abused by her husband every day and did not dare to argue, but she dared to run away from home for several months in order to give birth to her daughter. I don't know what she lives on and can give birth to a child.
Big S's mom is such a character in the movie:
Single parents with babies, limited culture, can only be hard to live. She had a violent temper and beat children, but no one was qualified to say to her with the theory of the experts, "You should be gentle, you should squat down and speak calmly."
The patience of the mother is directly proportional to the assets of the family.
Rich people's mothers deserve to be gentle, and mrs. rich people will not be impatient when raising three or five children, because they can spend up to 1 hour a day to accompany them exquisitely, and the activities are arranged by others. Eating, wearing, living and traveling are not bothered, just send it to the hands of the nanny, how can it be impatient?
Always be at peace with children, have something to say, such teaching materials are for those who have a high-quality education and a rich life.
Mother Xu is definitely not in this camp.
Teenagers are poor and lose their fathers, can't get educational opportunities, run to big cities to do low-level work; marriage is squandered, squeezed by the body and mind of traditional families, can't give birth to sons, are discriminated against, and are also abused by their husbands; and finally want to divorce and can't get divorced, a family woman with limited culture can only bring up her children on her own...
She struggled all the way forward, until the daughters became stars, and finally gave her father the opportunity to pay off her debts, in exchange for her 20 years of freedom.
Many people say that big S has become a legend: vigorous love, flash marriage, risking death and having children, divorce to quick remarriage, people are decadent in middle age, only she lives a girlish life -
Don't think about the past, don't fear the future...
That's because she has a mom who has an epic life.
Life is helpless, you can still fish yourself out of the fate of distress, the daughter has money, a baby, no husband, what is there to worry about? There should not be too many options in front of you.
She really knows how to raise her daughter, and she is willing to gamble and lose, not afraid of losing, and live a life freely. But when you are older, you can't manage it, and if you have a mother, you must have a daughter, and everyone is better than a jade crush than a tile.
The mother determines the character of the child. When the mother is tough, the children will naturally not be too weak; when the mother is an open-minded character, the children raised will not be afraid and shrink. Big deal trial and error, anyway, there is still time to live again.
As for the result...
I don't know if big S's love can survive the 21-day quarantine period, but... It doesn't seem to be good!