The marriage between Big S and South Korean star Gu Junye caused a huge sensation on the Internet, and at the same time, her mother Huang Chunmei got the attention of many netizens.
After understanding Huang Chunmei's life, you will understand why Big S is so "willful" about feelings, and why Little S is so tolerant of marriage.
As the mother of the two superstars of big and small S, Huang Chunmei's life is not smooth sailing, but full of many hardships and bumps,
In the first half of her life, she paid for her wrong marriage, and in the second half of her life, she broke her heart for her two daughters, and only the eldest daughter Xu Xiyuan made her feel at ease.
Huang Chunmei, the mother of the big and small s, was born in 1954 in a poor small village in the countryside of Changhua, and the poor family made it difficult for her to grasp the direction of her life, and she was forced to drop out of school before she finished primary school, and engaged in busy agricultural work every day.
In that era of son preference, Huang Chunmei was not valued by her parents from an early age, and when she first became an adult, she went to Taipei under her parents' arrangement to work and earn money to subsidize the family.
Next to Huang Chunmei's place of work, there is a tall silver building, and Xu Jian, the son of the Xu family, is in this building.
Despite the hardships of life, Huang Chunmei gave birth to a good skin bag, and her sweet appearance attracted the attention of many young people, and also attracted the attention of Xu Jian.
Huang Chunmei, who had just opened her heart, soon lost in Xu Jian's gentle consideration and fell in love with her.
At the age of 19, Huang Chunmei accepted Xu Jian's marriage proposal, left the barren small countryside surrounded by everyone, stepped into the rich, and became a rich grandmother.
Everyone said that Huang Chunmei married the right person, the pheasant became a phoenix, and he would have a good life from now on. At first, Huang Chunmei also thought so, but the reality was the opposite.
Xu Jian is the youngest child in the family, with 7 older sisters, and the family looks down on Huang Chunmei's origins, and has never given her a good look since she entered the house.
Xu Jian grew up spoiled by his parents and sisters, and never went against their opinions, even if Huang Chunmei was bullied, he would not come forward to defend.
On the second day of the new marriage, the mother-in-law dismissed all the housekeepers and servants in the family and said to Huang Chunmei: "From now on, this family will be run by you, and the housework will be entrusted to you." ”
Huang Chunmei needs to wash and cook for more than a dozen people in the family every day, and also cook different dishes according to each person's different diet, even more tired than when working.
Huang Chunmei's dream broke down, but when she was young, she did not give up this marriage easily, and insisted bitterly, thinking that there would always be a day when she would emerge.
Huang Chunmei's efforts, far from being recognized by the Xu family, made them more and more rampant, calling her like a maid.
And Xu Jian, who was gentle and considerate to Huang Chunmei before marriage, seemed to have changed into a person, ignoring Huang Chunmei and often hanging out in taverns and nightclubs.
Soon after, the Xu family simply stopped giving money to Huang Chunmei and let her find a way to make money to support the daily life expenses of a large family.
Forced by helplessness, Huang Chunmei had to resume her part-time life, selling in the store during the day and selling alcohol in the bar at night, in order to barely maintain daily support.
When it was time to eat, she had to rush home to cook, and when she came home from work late at night, she needed to wash her clothes and clean up, and she was tired every day.
Even so, Huang Chunmei did not think of giving up, she thought that after giving birth to a child, she could change her status and get the approval of the Xu family.
A year later, Huang Chunmei's first daughter was born, named Xu Xixian,
Unfortunately, the birth of her daughter did not change her fate, but plunged her into deeper pain.
The Xu family's idea of preferring sons to daughters is particularly serious, and some clues can be seen from Xu Jian and her seven sisters.
Huang Chunmei did not give birth to a son, which made her suffer from the white eyes of the Xu family and scolded her for giving birth to a money-losing commodity.
Huang Chunmei endured humiliation and burden, expecting that the next child would be a son, but things did not develop as she wished, and the two children she gave birth to in succession were daughters, that is, size S.
The three daughters made Huang Chunmei's situation more difficult, and her mother-in-law and sisters insulted her as a "hen who can't lay eggs" and would only lose money.
Xu Jian, who had already seen Huang Chunmei unfavorably, was even more disgusted with her, and often punched and kicked her after returning home drunk, and Huang Chunmei's cries resounded throughout the building.
The three daughters curled up helplessly in the corner, waiting for Xu Jian to leave before daring to come out to comfort her mother.
Big S once revealed in the show that his father grew up under the care of his mother and sister, and he had a sense of disgust for women, so he was particularly reluctant to see his mother and their three sisters.
Huang Chunmei worked hard for this family as a cow and a horse, hard work and resentment, in exchange for only cold eyes and domestic violence, such a depressing life made her think of suicide for a while, but thinking of her three daughters, she could only continue to insist.
The three sisters who grew up in such an environment are very sensible, not only do not argue, but also know how to take care of Huang Chunmei's emotions.
Huang Chunmei couldn't bear her daughter to suffer with her, so she began to re-examine her life.
In the Xu family, she had never had a good day, not even the most basic dignity, and such a day was obviously not what she wanted.
Therefore, Huang Chunmei left the Xu family with her three daughters and lived in a simple rental house, with the mother and daughter relying on each other for their lives.
After a stable life, Huang Chunmei proposed a divorce to Xu Jian, who has always been self-centered, did not expect that Huang Chunmei would one day dare to rebel against him and resolutely refused to sign the divorce agreement.
Xu Jian thought to himself that Huang Chunmei would definitely not be able to hold on, crying and begging for forgiveness from himself, so he kept dragging her.
Huang Chunmei is not in a hurry, this failed marriage has made her lose hope for her feelings, she has no intention of getting married again, and divorce or not is not important to her.
Huang Chunmei's savings are not much, it is not easy to support three children, she has to work harder,
Because of her low education, Huang Chunmei can only engage in some hard work, washing cars, washing dishes, working as a waiter, working several jobs a day to maintain her life, and she is too tired to stand up straight every day.
Fortunately, the three daughters are very well-behaved and sensible, and they know how to help their mother share the housework at a young age, and never let Huang Chunmei worry.
Gradually, the three daughters gradually grew up, and the pressure on Huang Chunmei's shoulders was reduced a little.
Different from the eldest daughter Xu Xiyuan, the appearance of the big and small S is quite outstanding, and there is the potential to be a star.
In order to make money to change the plight of the family, the big and small S set up the ASOS group debuted as an artist.
Huang Chunmei was very supportive of their decision, and did not hesitate to quit her job to assist them.
However, at the beginning, Huang Chunmei did not know anything about these things, basically could not help much, most of the things were handled by big S.
Soon after, Big S became popular with the TV series "Pop Garden" and became a well-known big star.
Little S also created a world in the hosting world with his own talent.
The two daughters both became famous, the family's conditions improved, and Huang Chunmei finally got rid of the hard life and truly lived an economically independent life.
After years of exploration, Huang Chunmei also mastered the skills of an agent, helping her two daughters to give advice from time to time, and her spirit and economy were truly rich.
Huang Chunmei and her daughter's lives are thriving, but Xu Jian's family has begun to go downhill.
The Xu family's career continues to decline, the glory of the past is like a cloud of smoke, eliminated by the times, the family from a person to an ordinary person,
Xu Jian, the former young master, also had to become a beat worker and work nine to five to earn money to support his family.
It is reasonable to say that the Xu family caused great harm to Huang Chunmei, and Huang Chunmei's failure to come to the door to humiliate them is already a benevolent and righteous end.
But Huang Chunmei did not care about the past, and even asked her three daughters to go home to visit their father and grandmother and give them the help they could.
Huang Chunmei's behavior of complaining with virtue made her mother-in-law ashamed and embarrassed, recalling that she had done so many things to apologize to her, and she was willing to help herself when she was in trouble, and her mother-in-law did not hesitate to kneel in front of Huang Chunmei and said in tears:
"Before, I was sorry for you, and the Xu family was sorry for you."
Huang Chunmei's conflict with her mother-in-law finally ended in this apology, even though she had already seen it.
However, her husband Xu Jian did not intend to let Huang Chunmei go easily.
Xu Jian, who has been pampered since childhood, can't stand the huge family changes, and plunges into the casino, expecting to be favored by fate and win back the lost family property.
Overwhelmed by the money, he was completely unable to control himself, not only lost all the money he had left, but even owed a huge amount of eight million.
Xu Jian, who could not get the money, had to hide, and the other party could not find anyone, so he kidnapped Xu Jian's little third and asked him to take eight million ransoms.
Desperate, Xu Jian found Huang Chunmei and begged her to give herself eight million to save her little three.
Once a domestic violence wife, forcing her to leave the house, and now in order to save Xiao San to find a wife to give money, no matter who listens to it, it is ironic.
Before Huang Chunmei could speak, Big S was the first to object, and he cursed at his father: "Why didn't you think about this day when you hit my mother, where were you when we had a hard time, how did you have the face to say such a thing?" ”
Xu Jian knew that he was wrong and was scolded dumbfounded.
Unexpectedly, Huang Chunmei actually agreed to Xu Jian's request and bought out their marital love for eight million, and the two did not owe each other from then on.
Soon after, Huang Chunmei and Xu Jian signed a divorce agreement, Xu Jian took eight million to save his little three, and Huang Chunmei regained his freedom.
Huang Chunmei was completely relieved from this marriage, but her past still left an indelible impact on her three daughters.
Growing up in a fragmented family, the three daughters are particularly sensitive in their hearts and are deeply influenced by Huang Chunmei in their treatment of feelings.
The second daughter, Big S, has been particularly assertive since she was a child, and she is particularly sober about her feelings, daring to love and dare to hate, but she is too stubborn to listen to the opinions of others, which makes Huang Chunmei break her heart.
Big S and Wang Xiaofei only met four faces before deciding to get married, when Huang Chunmei did not even meet Wang Xiaofei,
Fortunately, Wang Xiaofei was very good to big S, and Huang Chunmei gradually recognized this son-in-law.
In 2021, Big S and Wang Xiaofei divorced, and Huang Chunmei repeatedly dissuaded her, but the stubborn Big S did not pay attention and ended the 10-year marriage.
Huang Chunmei had no choice but to accept this fact, but after 4 months of marriage, Big S told her that she had married the Korean male star Gu Junye, and she swallowed antihypertensive drugs in anger.
It is reported that Gu Junye met as early as 20 years ago and talked about a year of love, and the other party is each other's first love,
After Gu Junye learned of Big S's divorce, he took the initiative to contact her, and the two soon rekindled their old love, and Gu Junye, who was over fifty years old, could not wait to propose to Big S.
Big S was touched by a mess, because of the epidemic, the two did not meet, but received a certificate in South Korea by mail,
It wasn't until all the formalities were completed that Big S told his mother and sister the news, which shocked the whole family.
Huang Chunmei was indignant at Big S's behavior and is still in a cold war with her.
According to Gu Junye, she and Big S still need to go to Taiwan to get a license after getting a marriage license, and he will come to Taiwan to live for two months, and then return to South Korea with Big S.
In this regard, Huang Chunmei directly denied: "She can't make such a crazy move, who brings the child?" ”
Now that Big S is getting married again, Huang Chunmei naturally hopes that her daughter will find her own happiness, but now the situation really makes her speechless.
In addition, the marital status of the youngest daughter, Little S, has not been optimistic.
If big S inherits the personality of Huang Chunmei who left the Xu family in the later stage, then Small S is like Huang Chunmei who worked hard in the Xu family in the early stage.
All along, Xiao S's husband Xu Yajun has been exposed to many black materials, and has been photographed many times meeting other women in nightclubs.
And Xiao S not only did not calculate, but even came forward to help deny, indicating that her husband and they were just ordinary friends.
In addition, Xiao S also broke the news in the show that she had been subjected to domestic violence by her husband, but when things got big, she quickly explained that her husband was only emotionally unstable for a while.
Although he suffered a lot, Xiao S was still careful to maintain his marriage and family, just like Huang Chunmei when he was young.
Huang Chunmei once said: "My two daughters can't say it, and if they say it, they will feel that I am long-winded." "It can be seen that she broke her heart for the big S.
In contrast, the eldest daughter, Xu Xiyuan, knows a lot of things and is the child who makes Huang Chunmei feel at ease.
Xu Xiyuan's appearance and figure are very ordinary, and she rarely takes photos with her two younger sisters, so some netizens do not even know her existence.
As the eldest sister, she has taken on the responsibility of taking care of her sister since she was a child, and has suffered a lot.
After the two sisters had a stable home, she also found the right person, the other party engaged in the clothing business, although not a rich and noble family, but also a worry-free food and clothing.
The eldest daughter, Xu Xiyuan, has a plain life, but she also lives comfortably and happily, and rarely lets Huang Chunmei worry.
When she was young, Huang Chunmei failed to see Xu Jian clearly, embarked on the wrong path, and spent half a lifetime before she completely got rid of this unfortunate marriage.
But those silent compromises and cruel domestic violence are deeply engraved in the hearts of the daughters and have a profound impact on their lives.
Nowadays, Huang Chunmei's life story has gradually been fixed, and the stories of her daughters continue to be written.
As a mother, all Huang Chunmei can do is to be their backing and support the decisions they make.