After the century reconciliation, he gave Xiao S a fatal blow, how did Huang Ziling become perfectly invisible in grievances
Text/Yan Hong
Editor/Ellow
As the MeToo movement in Taiwan continues to ferment, a girl bravely stands up and tells the past of being sexually harassed.
She was forcibly kissed by a showbiz senior when she was 17, and he apologized to himself sincerely. When she was young, she thought that he was just faint for a while. He went to Taichung to host the show, she ran to visit the class, and in his room, he asked her to take off her clothes and take pictures.
She cried, he said, you tears are so beautiful.
The girls did not name names, but the labels "kind, harmless to humans and animals, musically literate, and able to host programs..." all pointed to Huang Ziling. Huang Ziling's response was astonishing, neither dying, pretending to die, nor choosing the only right and ultimate approach: facing reality and admitting mistakes.
He recorded a video, and puffy scribbled a mistake, mainly desperately breaking the news, including but not limited to: his mother cheated when he was ten years old, and took him with him, which shocked him greatly; Big and small S are drug addicts, he was also coerced by Gu Junye in South Korea to take drugs, "That bald head is very big, he can take me anywhere, I have to eat..."
In short, every word he is "accusing" the "darkness" of society, and your circle is especially chaotic. It seems that his only mistake was not being able to make a white lotus flower that came out of the sludge and did not stain.
Huang Ziling appeared on "Kangxi is coming" in 2015, and the reconciliation with the small S century (data map)
I feel confused and disordered when I see it, dare to feel that the world is sorry for you, making you lose the possibility of becoming a good person? Some say he diverted his gaze this way. Didn't the hot spot on the Internet instantly become "did the big and small S take drugs"? However, although this kind of baseless accusation can trigger a new hot spot in a short time, turn back, the things he did cannot be forgotten, but just revenge out of thin air.
Others say that he wants to be a human bomber, and he himself is finished anyway. It was indeed meaningful, and he also said: "I don't care, I will say it, I will care whether you live or die, and no one cares whether I live or die anyway." "The question is, how can he be so aggrieved by this human bomber? Blame others for not caring if he lives or dies? Could it be that he was a victim?
After Huang Ziling broke the news, his sexual harassment charges were "subordinated to the second line"
Various responses from sexual harassers: Never thought of themselves as bad people
Recall that the harassers seem to have their own "grievances".
Remember Niu Chengze's response when he was accused of sexual assault: "Since last night, in the face of overwhelming pressure, I can't sleep, and my mental state is extremely poor. But I will not evade, I will face the responsibility I should bear, I will face it bravely, and I will never run away. At half past eight tomorrow morning, I will take the initiative to go to the Da'an branch to explain the situation. ”
Listening to this breath, it is simply a bit of a tragedy of "the wind is bleak and the water is cold, and the strong man is gone", as if he did not turn himself in, but solemnly went to the altar.
On December 7, 2018, Niu Chengze was sentenced to 4 years for sexually assaulting a female assistant, and walked out of the police station after responding to the interrogation. Source: CFP/Authorized Use
Why is he so aggrieved? Because the caliber he has always insisted on is two loves. This seems to be the caliber of many harassers, some say ex, or step back and say dewy love.
Dew you are a ghost, why don't you learn from the stepmother of Snow White, ask every day: "Mirror mirror, who is the ugliest man in the world", the honest mirror said, of course it is you.
Yes, girls are initially interested in you, but interest is not sexual interest. Most (and I mean all) same-sex people don't think they've bent each other. Why do these men think people mean that? To say that you are too confident is to beautify, and the fundamental reason is to give yourself an excuse to take advantage of others.
Why didn't the woman escape at the first time after the incident? Or even reach out later? This may be because women's upbringing history is often a history of admonition.
There are always people who say to you, what should a woman do. This admonition is sometimes contradictory, as Chen Grain's "Flammable and Explosive" sings: "Think of me cold, still think of me frivolous and lowly, want me sunshine and let me not shake in style, play me crying and laughing masterless, and play my heart like dead wood." ”
Huang Ziling's previous harmless image of humans and animals (data map). Source: CFP/Authorized Use
Tradition requires women to behave, and in recent years, women have been required not to be dirty. The result is that women are overwhelmed when they are harassed, not only have they no power to resist, but they do not have the power to define their situation. Like the girl who accused her of being harassed by a poet, she described in detail the unconsciousness she felt when she was drunk and her hands were dropped. Long-term discipline makes women often react half a beat slowly, she has to look at the face of society first, and it takes a long time to feel the hurt inside.
Therefore, people did not turn their faces, it is not that they want to get away with it, people may just be confused and stupid. Don't say that you don't understand this, what kind of writer, poet, director, music creator do you not understand the psychology of the weak? Many times, to say, "I don't know," is to bully people against their conscience.
As for Huang Ziling, he didn't feel popular. According to Taiwan media reports, Wu Zongxian revealed that Huang Ziling had asked the "little model to wear a bathing suit" who participated in the beauty pageant many years ago, Wu Zongxian said that Huang Ziling once called him and said, "Brother Xian, don't talk about it, help me say a few nice words", it seems that he also knows that he is acting inappropriately, and he is very nervous.
Wu Zongxian responds to Huang Ziling, source: Internet
So where is the point of his grievance? The reason is that he did not think of himself as a "bad person", but as a "bad boy".
Yes, isn't there a saying called "a man is a teenager until death"? It is that someone lives thinking of themselves as children, to be precise, when they are minors. No matter what bad things you do, you can pat your head in your heart, and forgive yourself by saying "I'm still a child".
In Tolstoy's novel "Anna Karenina", Anna's brother cheated and his wife was heartbroken, and he could still laugh without heart and lungs. Tolstoy did not condemn him, but quietly wrote about this middle-aged man, consciously or unconsciously childizing himself in his heart.
Huang Ziling Xiao S once "met with a smile and a vendetta", how sincere is it in retrospect now? (Infographic)
Huang Ziling's evil: half sincerity, complete evasion
In contrast, Huang Ziling is a little worse. He needs more reasons, not just to give an explanation to the public, but also to himself. So he complained about the world, pulled the gourd from the east and the west, and even dumped him after others chased him, as if he was doing evil, because he was hurt too much and blackened angrily.
Let's not say that these things he said are somewhat true or false, take 10,000 steps back and say, even if he is not easy to grow, it is not a reason for him to bully people. At present, many people face inner trauma, which can be traced back to the original family, but trauma is trauma, and evil is evil.
How the family of origin is, does not make people more exempt. Even if Huang Ziling really felt that his "bad learning" was related to his experience, he did not really ask himself whether he had fought with the darkness in his heart. He has a little more sincerity than those who are extremely cunning, but this sincerity is also limited.
Try to think as kindly as possible that Huang Ziling's evil is also a "banal evil", and in him, he presents what the German thinker Hannah Arendt called the "mediocrity of evil", that is, the state of thoughtlessness. He relies on this muddy chase for pleasure and hurt others.
Today, although it has not been named, it has been doubted and condemned, and its future can be predictably destroyed. He may have begun to reflect for the first time, but still refused to touch his soul, and found a lot of excuses for himself, such as his native family, the entertainment industry environment, wanting to excuse the world and himself, and revealing that the big and small S drug use also added a very paradoxical sense of justice to himself. Coupled with self-harm and hospitalization, there is no need to face the media, and the heart is also free.
After Huang Ziling apologized, the first person to apologize to the media was his wife, source: ETtoday video
But this practice is still carried out within the psychological framework of the "bad boy", who still tries to evade the responsibilities of an adult. The problem is that age cannot be "I feel", it is printed on your resume ID card, no matter how Huang Ziling pretends to be "very stupid and naïve", it cannot hide the fact that he is over half a hundred years old.
He's a bad guy, not a bad boy. It's a shame to treat yourself as a child at an age.
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