Around the editor, there are many examples of old people helping to bring babies, couples of dual employees going out to work, which seems to be not uncommon in the current society.
After all, everyone's life pressure is relatively large now, if after having children, one of the husband and wife stays at home to take care of the child, and the other person has to take on the heavy responsibility of taking care of a family of three, the pressure is still not small. In order to reduce the pressure and for the sake of the children's future considerations, many couples will choose to find the elderly to help, and they will continue to stay in the workplace to work hard.
But when it comes to the elderly helping to bring up the baby, there are many new problems that will arise, the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious, the gap between the parenting concepts of the two generations, and so on, and so on, and new contradictions and quarrels will be staged every day.
Some people say that it is better to find a babysitter to help with the children. However, a family that can afford a nanny is also a minority, most families are still reluctant to find an outsider, paying thousands of yuan a month to help with children, Tingting's family is one of them.
Because there is still a high mortgage to repay, after taking maternity leave, Tingting chose to return to the workplace to continue to work, the couple discussed, found a mother-in-law to help with the child, and promised to give her a certain amount of living expenses every month as compensation. But what Tingting did not expect was that for her own grandson, the old man did not pay much attention to it, but often hurt the child because of negligence, which made Tingting feel sad.
This time it was because of a careless mother-in-law, the result caused the two-year-old baby to be injured and hospitalized, when Tingting arrived, what she saw was actually a large blister on the child's two legs and a cry of tearing heart and lungs, her heart was tightly pulled together, and the pain was not OK. At that moment, Tingting even regretted letting her mother-in-law come to help with the child.
First, the mother-in-law is invited to take the child, but there are often accidents
When the child was 5 months old, Tingting finished her maternity leave and wanted to go back to work. Looking at the baby who is still nursing in her arms, she is really cruel, but once she resigns, only her husband works alone at home, and the pressure of life will become much greater.
The father-in-law left early, the mother-in-law was alone in her hometown, and there was nothing to do every day. Tingting and his wife together, every month to give the mother-in-law 2,000 yuan of living expenses, let her rush from her hometown to help bring the grandson, the mother-in-law learned about this matter and readily agreed, she said anyway I am idle, come to come.
I thought that things would end successfully here, but who knew that after the mother-in-law arrived, accidents happened one after another, one after another.
It was more than a month after the mother-in-law had just arrived here, and Tingting came home from work at noon to find that the child's forehead was blue and a big bag was swollen. When she saw that Tingting had returned, the mother-in-law embarrassed to take the initiative to confess that when she was cooking in the kitchen, the baby accidentally fell off the sofa.
Although she was distressed, Tingting did not reprimand her mother-in-law. On the one hand, she knows that taking a child is inevitable to have a bump, on the other hand, the old man has to cook and hold the child, which is already busy enough, she can understand that this is not easy, and naturally she will not be too harsh on the mother-in-law.
However, as the baby grows up, in the past two years, almost every few small periods of time will bump and bump, either this time fell out of bed, or that time fell off the sofa, what was clipped by the door, the chair hit by the big injuries and small injuries are everywhere.
Tingting herself also brought children when she was at home on vacation, in her experience, the baby is very well-behaved, not at all the kind of personality that she will run around, so Tingting's heart also began to make a muttering, taking advantage of the fact that the old man is not at home, secretly installed a surveillance camera in the living room.
The husband still did not understand her approach, Tingting explained: "I am not suspicious of our mother, but I just want to keep an eye on it, to see what she is doing when the two of us go out to work during the day, why does the baby always fall and get injured?" ”
Second, the child is burned, and she is scolded for being angry with her mother-in-law
After installing the camera, it really made Tingting frightened, and it turned out that the mother-in-law's so-called taking the child to do housework was a lie.
Throughout the day, the couple was not at home, and the mother-in-law put the child alone on the floor of the living room for him to play by himself, and the mother-in-law herself sat on the sofa watching TV dramas, playing with mobile phones, and did not even look at the child in the right eye.
This has been the case for several days, and it is conceivable that this is the daily life of the mother-in-law with the child. Tingting was heartbroken, but before she could go to her mother-in-law to talk about it, another accident happened.
That day Tingting was at work, but suddenly received a call from her mother-in-law, she was vague, only anxiously shouted for Tingting to hurry to the hospital, the baby had an accident.
When Tingting rushed to the hospital, she saw her son lying on the hospital bed, her lower body was full of blisters, her heart immediately hurt, and she asked her mother-in-law, what the hell is going on?
The mother-in-law said that she was washing clothes, and who thought that he had overturned the kettle and burned it like this. Tingting immediately took out the mobile phone to adjust the monitoring, the monitoring screen showed that more than an hour ago, the mother-in-law and the baby were at home, still the baby himself playing in the living room, and the mother-in-law was lying on the sofa watching the TV series, just like this, the baby reached for the kettle that had just been boiled on the table, and the consequences could be imagined.
Tingting was distressed and angry, and directly showed the mobile phone screen to her mother-in-law, loudly reprimanding her: "That's how you helped me with my child?" He's also your grandson, are you so irresponsible? ”
Seeing that Tingting had installed surveillance at home, the mother-in-law's face was red and white, and after the reaction, she actually scolded Tingting in turn, saying that she did not trust herself to install a camera at home, and also scolded Tingting: "I help you with the child is not a matter of course, I want to bring how to bring it, you even blame me?" You will roll with your children from tomorrow, and I will not want to see you again for a moment, and you will bring your own children later. ”
After saying that, the mother-in-law walked out of the ward angrily, and Tingting looked at the baby who was lying on the hospital bed, crying because of the pain of changing the medicine, and the tears also came down with her. She decided that from tomorrow she would resign and take the child alone at home, so that her mother-in-law would still go back and forth, and she would never watch her child suffer in front of her grandmother again.
Third, it is not an obligation to help with the baby, but it should be taken responsibility
Some people may say that it is not the obligation of the mother-in-law to take the baby, who gives birth to the child and who comes to bring it, how can it still be qualified to teach the mother-in-law what is wrong?
Indeed, taking the child is not the obligation of the grandmother, but since you agreed to help the couple with the child, you must assume the responsibility you deserve, and can not be as obvious perfunctory as the Tingting mother-in-law, do not care about the child, only care about their own play, regardless of the child, so it led to the child often injured, and finally was burned by boiling water such a serious situation, if it is not the negligence of the elderly, it could have been avoided.
The wound is in the child's body, the pain is in the mother's heart, and it is no wonder that Tingting will be so out of shape and reprimand her mother-in-law on the spot. In the end, he was still beaten upside down by his mother-in-law, saying that he was not filial piety, and attributed all the faults to Tingting alone.
If there are conditions, it is better for parents to take the child personally, on the one hand, the elderly are very old, and the body is easy to eat; on the other hand, parents and children have more time to get along, and they can also cultivate a more intimate family relationship, which is very beneficial.
As an old man, it is one thing not to help with the baby, but since you promised to help, you must do what you should do, not say it well, in fact, you have not seriously become a grandmother at all, and you are blind to the personal safety of your children. If one day there is a more serious accident, it is really regrettable.