Now the times are developing, many young parents' educational concepts have undergone a great change, a variety of courses are imposed on children, just to let them win at the starting line, but to children is to do education, what about themselves?
Playing iron also needs to be hard, family education is the most important one in all education, if the tutoring is not done well, the child's learning is useless, we all say that the influence of the original family on the child is very large.
Living in a harmonious family and living in a family full of violence, are completely two concepts, to improve violence, we first think of the parents to the child's physical harm, in fact, a new type of "domestic violence" has emerged, it is slowly hurting the child, far more terrible than scolding, that is, mental domestic violence.
There are three main situations of new types of domestic violence
1. Apathy
Some parents' attitude towards their children is very cold, like they are not their own children, usually regardless of it, and if there is a problem, they will severely criticize education. Perhaps parents want to discipline their children with a strict attitude, but in the long run, it will only cause children to become sensitive and inferior.
2. Shirking
Shirking responsibility is a situation that occurs in many families, and when children have something to do with their parents, they often push the responsibility to the other party. Accompanying the child is the responsibility of both parents, if the responsibility is only pushed to one party, then it will only become "widowed parenting", and the child's soul will be hurt again and again.
3. Crack down on education for children
Many parents in order to let their children win at the starting line, from the birth of their children to do early education, after going to kindergarten also go to a variety of interest classes, in fact, this kind of want to let the child get ahead of the idea I can understand, but do not implement a crackdown on the child education.
For example, parents always compare their own children with other people's children, what people learn, let their children learn what, although the starting point is to stimulate the child's self-motivation through the way of blows, but the way is really inappropriate.
And children are still young in grade, often can not understand the parents of a piece of hard work, they will only feel that they can not do anything well, do not get the approval of their parents, for a long time, will become very inferior and sensitive.
Parents always play with mobile phones and do not pay attention to their children
Children are eager for their parents to accompany them, but many times parents are ostensibly by their children's side, but in fact they are absent-minded. When the child speaks, the parents are only perfunctory, and the child is prone to depressed emotions in his heart, which has gradually caused a serious impact on the child's physical and mental health for a long time.
It's not that simple, with a child accident prevention trust (CAPT) survey data showing that 24% of parents surveyed admitted that they had been in danger of playing with their mobile phones. Before the age of 6, children are in a period of high incidence of accidents, and parents should not take it lightly.
Workaround
First, effectively accompany children
Make reasonable use of the usual fragmented time, trivial things, fragmented time to spend with children in a pleasant way. Let the child have a sense of participation, interaction, and inner satisfaction.
Let the child feel the love of the parents, do not let them feel that they are an abandoned child, that will be very lonely, after all, the love of the parents is no one in this world can replace.
Second, lead by example and encourage children
We all know that the child's imitation ability is very strong, especially the imitation of parents, if the parents play mobile phones for a long time, the children will also become very indifferent, will play with the mobile phone like parents, for a long time, the personality is prone to problems.
Therefore, in order to avoid this problem, it is recommended that parents should lead by example, play an exemplary role for their children, encourage their small achievements in peacetime, and let the children affirm themselves.
Each family's education method is different, different family education methods determine that children have different futures, in family education, the most taboo is "domestic violence", whether it is physical violence, or mental cold violence, will bring endless harm to children, suppressed heart will lead them to become extreme.
Therefore, as parents, we should strive to create a healthy, positive and happy growth environment for our children, so that children can grow up healthy and happy.
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