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In feelings, what men take the initiative to give is love, and what they want to come is charity. I don't know if you have found that the sugar you want and the sugar you take the initiative to give, the taste is not the same.
In feelings, reaching out and giving is completely different from giving. If a man loves you and does not need you to open his mouth, he will also take the initiative to give you the best of everything, on the contrary, reaching out for it, all that will come will be charity and humility.
Tu Lei once said something like this:
There are two kinds of men in life right now.
The first kind of man, he is not willing to talk to girls about money, you talk to him about money, he thinks you are a material woman, think you worship gold.
The second kind of man, he will take the initiative to talk to the girl about money, money can guarantee the quality of life of the girl, feel that I love you, so I will create all the conditions for you to take care of you. It is his responsibility.
Money is certainly not a substitute for love. At the end of the day, money is just a cold number in the relationship. But behind everyone who is willing to spend money for you, there is often a deep "I love you". Money is not the only way to express love, but it is a very important way.
How much does a man love when a woman opens her mouth to ask a man for money?
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In love, most women want to live their own life, want to be financially independent, if you let women reach out to men for money, to see men's faces, women will live a little humble, will also live a very statusless.
Yi Shu has a saying in the "Book of Chenghuan": "It is impossible to rely on others in life and hope to be respected by others." "So a woman reaches out and asks a man for money, which in the man's eyes is a begging.
When we were young, we didn't understand things, thinking that money was important, and when we grew up, we finally found that money was really important.
I deeply believe that money is the basis for us to walk in the world, and when there is no money, there are really too many heartaches because of it.
Just like one of my cousins, when the love was bigger than the sky, for the man he liked, even if the other party's conditions were poor, he married him without hesitation for love, no car and no house, and did not do the wedding wedding at the beginning, and he went to a strange city to start a new life.
Not long after the marriage, my cousin became pregnant, and because she was unwell, she quit her job and gave birth at home. Later, after the birth of the child, the mother-in-law was unwilling to take the child, and the cousin had to continue to be a housewife, and the family was supported by the cousin-in-law alone.
At the beginning, the cousin-in-law was fixed to the family every month, and life was barely passable, and then the children often got sick and the family's expenses became larger, and occasionally the cousin bought a new dress, and the cousin-in-law would also complain that the cousin spent money indiscriminately, saying how hard it was to make money.
Because he did not make money, because of the money of his husband, his cousin was usually very frugal, and clothes and skin care products were never willing to buy expensive. As the saying goes: poor couples mourn. Reaching out and asking the other party for money is the beginning of humility, long-term lack of ability to make money, will make people cower and shrink without confidence, life can only swallow.
Later, when the child went to kindergarten, the cousin could not wait to come out to work, and it did not take long to see the cousin become confident after making money, understand the importance of women having the ability to make money, a good marriage does not necessarily all rely on money, but it must be inseparable from money, money is a woman's confidence.
Making money is hard, but not making money is even harder.
Women's independence is not a threat to men, but a sense of security to themselves. Because only by being financially independent, you can not be attached to anyone, do not have to look at anyone's face, so that you can make your life more comfortable.
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In love and marriage, smart women, don't easily reach out to men for money!
In fact, fundamentally, such behavior is the beginning of the destruction of mutual relationships, and when feelings and marriage involve money, it is the beginning of relationship deterioration and contradiction. Many times women feel that spending a man's money is a matter of course, but for a man, he voluntarily spends it on you and you reach out to be fundamentally different.
A man who loves you will be willing to spend money for you, that is the performance of his love for you, but if you want him, the meaning will deteriorate, then it becomes that you are not self-respecting, and your image in the man's mind is also priced.
I once saw such a sentence on the Internet: by relying on your parents, you can become a princess, relying on your husband you can become a queen, and only by yourself can you become a queen. When you reach out to people for money, you will gradually lower your bottom line because you have taken advantage of others, and you will lose yourself from then on.
Men make money for the family, that is a manifestation of responsibility, and women have the courage to make money, which is a manifestation of confidence. You can never pin the hope of life on others, people take the initiative to give you love, and what you want to come is charity.
Someone said: "People in the world can be divided into two kinds, one is the person with the palm of the hand up, and the other is the person with the palm of the hand down." "Love and marriage are the same, reaching out to each other for money will make people lose their independence and dignity."
Women should understand that what a man gives can be taken back at any time, and no one can take it away if he gets it by his own ability.
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