Author ┃ Purple Qiulan Read aloud ┃ Purple Qiulan
Guidance ┃Liang Shanbo Editor ┃丄學号
Since having the second treasure and catching up with the first grade of the big treasure, my husband and I and my grandparents have been the whole family. Even so, I often took care of Dabao, and Erbao began to cry again; when I picked up Erbao, Dabao was shouting again: "Mom, how to do this problem?" "It's a mess.
Dabao is now in the second grade, and the teacher asks the child to start learning to do housework, and sends a video punch card in the class group. Let children develop a good habit of loving labor, and we are in favor of raising our hands. At first, we planned to develop a set of incentive methods, but many parents said in the discussion that children, as a member of the family, should take on some housework themselves, and if everything is calculated clearly, it may make the child a very utilitarian child. How should I guide my child to take the initiative to do housework? Is there any good way to do it?
This mother's confusion, I think many parents have. Cultivating the habit of children's labor, the ancients also attached great importance to it, and the first sentence of the opening sentence of "Zhuzi Family Training" is: Rise at dawn, sweep the courtyard, and be tidy inside and out; that is, faint, close the door, and personally check. In July 2020, the Ministry of Education put labor education in an important position. As a parent, we should pay more attention to the cultivation of children's labor habits. Here are some of my thoughts, thoughts as a mom.
The self-awareness of the second-grade child is increasing, and the habits that the child forms at this stage may affect his life. In the habits of life, we emphasize the child's labor habits, labor on the one hand needs skills and strength, so labor can activate the child's body well, on the other hand, it also requires a sense of responsibility and patience, so labor can exercise the child's mind.
As for whether it is reasonable to use monetary incentives to guide children to do housework, or to encourage children to volunteer to do housework, or to encourage children to volunteer to do housework, and to give certain material or monetary rewards at the appropriate time? There is no absolute right or wrong in the three types of practices.
In fact, such doubts exist not only in China, but also in foreign parents. Dr. Ames of the Gessel Child Development Institute in the United States believes that it is enough to choose the most natural method for parents and children to do it, and once a certain method is selected, it is necessary to adhere to the principle.
Regardless of which of the three categories the parent chooses, the following suggestions will help to consolidate the child's labor habits.
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Some of the more complex housework, parents can do with the child, in the last case study, we talked about parents and children to exercise together, help children feel and understand the meaning of exercise, the exercise process itself is also a beautiful parent-child time, parents and children do housework together, can also play the same role. Some housework activities require certain skills to complete, and when parents do it with their children, they are also demonstrating it themselves, which helps children to better learn the skills.
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Give praise in real time. When parents praise their children's labor behavior, they should be accurate and specific, and they should not say words such as "you are awesome" in general, but say "the table you wiped today is really clean", "You folded the books very neatly today, really competent" and so on.
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Parents should consciously enjoy the fruits of labor with their children, so that parents can express their affirmation of their children's labor and let their children fully feel the value of labor itself. For example, after the child cleans the room, you can ask the child to watch a movie together, or go out for a walk together, or eat some snacks that the child loves to eat together.
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Do not let the child to complete the housework that he is difficult to complete, too complex tasks will bring too much pressure to the child, the child is more likely to lose interest and confidence, easy to give up, such an experience is very unfavorable to the cultivation of habits.
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When the child can complete a task independently, parents can let the child do it himself, but the parents need to have a certain psychological preparation, because although the child has learned a certain ability, but has not yet formed enough patience, he may make things very bad from time to time, and parents should give the child enough tolerance and understanding.
As a parent, in the process of guiding children to do housework, we should pay more attention to and encourage them. The affirmation of children's labor can enhance their sense of responsibility and self-confidence, and these are the basis for children to obtain a better life in the future. Parents, for the sake of a better life for their children in the future, we must persevere.
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Author Reader┃ Purple Qiulan
Purple Qiulan, a stay-at-home mother, usually likes to read and write. I hope to exchange and learn with you in Shanbo Education.
Shanbo Education Guidance ┃ Liang Shanbo
Liang Shanbo, a first-class teacher, an advanced educator in Shenzhen, the first batch of family education instructors in Bao'an District, the first learning star in Bao'an District, and the editor-in-chief of Shanbo Education Public Account. Engaged in education for 38 years, focusing on the comprehensive quality education of parenting.